Dating divorced men in their fifties

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does your friend not work outside the home? What job did her ex husband have? I’m finding it hard to understand how “I’m busy at work” is a foreign concept to her, especially in the DC area.

Curious about this as someone not from DC. If you were dating someone super busy like a White House aide, how much time would you expect them to make for you?

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Anonymous wrote:Does your friend not work outside the home? What job did her ex husband have? I’m finding it hard to understand how “I’m busy at work” is a foreign concept to her, especially in the DC area.

Curious about this as someone not from DC. If you were dating someone super busy like a White House aide, how much time would you expect them to make for you?

Men make time if they like you. Dated public officials from Pentagon and House Representatives. One was divorced with 3kids, he would always bring flowers and stay overnight any day he didn't have kids. He was waking up at 5am to work on his papers and then jumped into bed with me to have sex

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Anonymous wrote:I'm divorced, in my 50s, not a law partner (I have a nice cushy GS-15 government gig), and have no kids. But if I were to try to date someone right now, I think the best I could do is, "Um, how's a week from Wednesday work for you?" I can't even imagine how busy someone with kids would be.

People our age just have a lot going on. Doesn't mean he's dating around.

Wut?

You're:
single
childless
employed by the fed

It's literally impossible that you have 'a lot' going on.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Does your friend not work outside the home? What job did her ex husband have? I’m finding it hard to understand how “I’m busy at work” is a foreign concept to her, especially in the DC area.

Curious about this as someone not from DC. If you were dating someone super busy like a White House aide, how much time would you expect them to make for you?

Men make time if they like you. Dated public officials from Pentagon and House Representatives. One was divorced with 3kids, he would always bring flowers and stay overnight any day he didn't have kids. He was waking up at 5am to work on his papers and then jumped into bed with me to have sex

What were his work hours? What happened with the relationship?

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Anonymous wrote:Does your friend not work outside the home? What job did her ex husband have? I’m finding it hard to understand how “I’m busy at work” is a foreign concept to her, especially in the DC area.

Curious about this as someone not from DC. If you were dating someone super busy like a White House aide, how much time would you expect them to make for you?

Men make time if they like you. Dated public officials from Pentagon and House Representatives. One was divorced with 3kids, he would always bring flowers and stay overnight any day he didn't have kids. He was waking up at 5am to work on his papers and then jumped into bed with me to have sex

What were his work hours? What happened with the relationship?

He often stayed at the office till 9pm, and then we met after hours in downtown, went to night places, chess clubs and had sex. It was very passionate but didn't work out because of different relationship timeline for two of us. He was also a year younger than me, and I behaved very insecure adding tension

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Anonymous wrote:Does your friend not work outside the home? What job did her ex husband have? I’m finding it hard to understand how “I’m busy at work” is a foreign concept to her, especially in the DC area.

Curious about this as someone not from DC. If you were dating someone super busy like a White House aide, how much time would you expect them to make for you?

Men make time if they like you. Dated public officials from Pentagon and House Representatives. One was divorced with 3kids, he would always bring flowers and stay overnight any day he didn't have kids. He was waking up at 5am to work on his papers and then jumped into bed with me to have sex

What were his work hours? What happened with the relationship?

He often stayed at the office till 9pm, and then we met after hours in downtown, went to night places, chess clubs and had sex. It was very passionate but didn't work out because of different relationship timeline for two of us. He was also a year younger than me, and I behaved very insecure adding tension

What was the difference in the relationship timeline? He sounds like he was very into moving it forward.

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Anonymous wrote:Does your friend not work outside the home? What job did her ex husband have? I’m finding it hard to understand how “I’m busy at work” is a foreign concept to her, especially in the DC area.

Curious about this as someone not from DC. If you were dating someone super busy like a White House aide, how much time would you expect them to make for you?

Men make time if they like you. Dated public officials from Pentagon and House Representatives. One was divorced with 3kids, he would always bring flowers and stay overnight any day he didn't have kids. He was waking up at 5am to work on his papers and then jumped into bed with me to have sex

What were his work hours? What happened with the relationship?

He often stayed at the office till 9pm, and then we met after hours in downtown, went to night places, chess clubs and had sex. It was very passionate but didn't work out because of different relationship timeline for two of us. He was also a year younger than me, and I behaved very insecure adding tension

What was the difference in the relationship timeline? He sounds like he was very into moving it forward.

Yes, he was. It was my own stupid behavior that destroyed it. Nothing related to his job, kids or anything. Just my first relationship post divorce and I went crazy

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Anonymous wrote:Does your friend not work outside the home? What job did her ex husband have? I’m finding it hard to understand how “I’m busy at work” is a foreign concept to her, especially in the DC area.

Curious about this as someone not from DC. If you were dating someone super busy like a White House aide, how much time would you expect them to make for you?

Men make time if they like you. Dated public officials from Pentagon and House Representatives. One was divorced with 3kids, he would always bring flowers and stay overnight any day he didn't have kids. He was waking up at 5am to work on his papers and then jumped into bed with me to have sex

What were his work hours? What happened with the relationship?

He often stayed at the office till 9pm, and then we met after hours in downtown, went to night places, chess clubs and had sex. It was very passionate but didn't work out because of different relationship timeline for two of us. He was also a year younger than me, and I behaved very insecure adding tension

What was the difference in the relationship timeline? He sounds like he was very into moving it forward.

Yes, he was. It was my own stupid behavior that destroyed it. Nothing related to his job, kids or anything. Just my first relationship post divorce and I went crazy

About to launch into dating post divorce too. Any advice?

How did you meet him, on OLD?

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Anonymous wrote:Does your friend not work outside the home? What job did her ex husband have? I’m finding it hard to understand how “I’m busy at work” is a foreign concept to her, especially in the DC area.

Curious about this as someone not from DC. If you were dating someone super busy like a White House aide, how much time would you expect them to make for you?

Men make time if they like you. Dated public officials from Pentagon and House Representatives. One was divorced with 3kids, he would always bring flowers and stay overnight any day he didn't have kids. He was waking up at 5am to work on his papers and then jumped into bed with me to have sex

What were his work hours? What happened with the relationship?

He often stayed at the office till 9pm, and then we met after hours in downtown, went to night places, chess clubs and had sex. It was very passionate but didn't work out because of different relationship timeline for two of us. He was also a year younger than me, and I behaved very insecure adding tension

What was the difference in the relationship timeline? He sounds like he was very into moving it forward.

Yes, he was. It was my own stupid behavior that destroyed it. Nothing related to his job, kids or anything. Just my first relationship post divorce and I went crazy

About to launch into dating post divorce too. Any advice?

How did you meet him, on OLD?

Yes, on OLD.

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Anonymous wrote:Does your friend not work outside the home? What job did her ex husband have? I’m finding it hard to understand how “I’m busy at work” is a foreign concept to her, especially in the DC area.

Curious about this as someone not from DC. If you were dating someone super busy like a White House aide, how much time would you expect them to make for you?

Men make time if they like you. Dated public officials from Pentagon and House Representatives. One was divorced with 3kids, he would always bring flowers and stay overnight any day he didn't have kids. He was waking up at 5am to work on his papers and then jumped into bed with me to have sex

What were his work hours? What happened with the relationship?

He often stayed at the office till 9pm, and then we met after hours in downtown, went to night places, chess clubs and had sex. It was very passionate but didn't work out because of different relationship timeline for two of us. He was also a year younger than me, and I behaved very insecure adding tension

What was the difference in the relationship timeline? He sounds like he was very into moving it forward.

Yes, he was. It was my own stupid behavior that destroyed it. Nothing related to his job, kids or anything. Just my first relationship post divorce and I went crazy

About to launch into dating post divorce too. Any advice?

How did you meet him, on OLD?

Yes, on OLD.

Do you recommend any particular app?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The biggest issue with men in their 50s is their life. I am 55 and very fit. But I am an exception all my friends my age married or single have a host of health issues due to a sedentary lifestyle. I am sorry but if you are not fit and/or in good health in your 50s it will be very challenging to juggle multiple things. And women are passionate. They are not going to waste time with a man who just wants to stay home or do quick basic dates lol. No with women you need both mental and physical energy to keep up. This last part a lot of underestimate it. And also at that age a woman will start hedging bet thinking whether you are a man she may be stuck taking care of after his stroke or some other illness.

I’m am similar, 50s , starting in 40s you can see it in men.. DK why women don’t focus more on family health history/ weight, etc.. (rare is the man whose chest is out past his belly). You are looking at the second half of the journey, there is a reason nursing homes are full of small woman. Target a man that will be around, able bodies, THEN, figure out other qualifiers.

[Anonymous]

Some guys that age are busy with their kids, their jobs, home maintenance, workouts, etc. a lot of guys are also not great at multi-tasking all of that with dating. I finally ended things with my 48-yo BF because I got tired of never being a priority after almost a year of dating.

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Anonymous wrote:Some guys that age are busy with their kids, their jobs, home maintenance, workouts, etc. a lot of guys are also not great at multi-tasking all of that with dating. I finally ended things with my 48-yo BF because I got tired of never being a priority after almost a year of dating.

A lot are paying alimony and/or child support to a prior wife and don't look to take on the maintenance/retirement/expense of another new low paid or no job with no retirement middle aged woman.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Does your friend not work outside the home? What job did her ex husband have? I’m finding it hard to understand how “I’m busy at work” is a foreign concept to her, especially in the DC area.

Curious about this as someone not from DC. If you were dating someone super busy like a White House aide, how much time would you expect them to make for you?

NP but I have lived in Dac most of my life and I wouldn’t date a White House aid. Too busy. No point. And if they’re lucky they make maybe 125k a year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women are always looking for a reason to say "no".

Men that age with good jobs always have options so unless your friend is a 25 year old bikini model, an older man is going to live his life and fit the 50 year old woman in when convenient.

This^^^