Seems like so many women have issues with their moms...

[Anonymous]

I’m not PP, but I grew up in this dynamic as well, born and raised in Kansas to German, Russian-German derived parents.

It’s not exclusively cultural in the sense of certain ethnic groups, but it’s cultural in sort of a peasant sense, regardless of where in the world you grew up, regardless of religion, etc.

Boys are an ‘asset’ and girls are a ‘liability’, in a nutshell.

[Anonymous]

In your limited world view, you don’t see men having the same issues? Okay.

A lot of parents have mental illness. They are parents to sons or daughters.

Lots of men don’t talk about feelings and act like jerks and process that way.

I’m not sure the point of your original post unless you are suggesting women complain more about the mental illness in their parents?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mom has a personality disorder—is and always has been a nightmare. It’s actually really hard to bear the societal myth that all moms are loving and nurturing and that they are owed honor and respect for having given birth. Some are neglectful, manipulative and abusive—way beyond just “flawed,” which most of us are. I get tired of people who say things like, “oh, but she’s your mother, she raised you.” You carry the damage of an abusive parent your whole life, and if you were fortunate enough to have a half-decent mother, you wouldn’t understand.

+100

[Anonymous]

I loved my mom dearly and am close to my daughters. There are more posts from people with difficult parents because there's nothing to post about if you get along with your mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mom has a personality disorder—is and always has been a nightmare. It’s actually really hard to bear the societal myth that all moms are loving and nurturing and that they are owed honor and respect for having given birth. Some are neglectful, manipulative and abusive—way beyond just “flawed,” which most of us are. I get tired of people who say things like, “oh, but she’s your mother, she raised you.” You carry the damage of an abusive parent your whole life, and if you were fortunate enough to have a half-decent mother, you wouldn’t understand.

+100

X1000. I am a woman and grew up in a divorced household. My dad is lovely. My mother not so much. I have not spoken to her in 20 years. Mental illness is not limited to men. In fact it manifest itself in worse ways with women.