Second Homes and Coworkers

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I agree it's friendly (or unfriendly insecure) ribbing, but the solution is to stop talking about it so much.
"What are you doing this weekend?"
"Oh, just seeing family."
So easy.

I would never tell coworkers we had a second home.

That's... odd. You're going to spend your waking hours with people for years and years and years and not tell them what you do on the weekends? No offense, but are you on the spectrum?

I'm the PP you quoted. I absolutely have coworkers who would ask to use that house. And I have worked for people who would deprioritize my raise because I have a second house so I must be doing fine financially.

I talk about my kids, my dog, my garden, my parents' health issues, my camping trips. I do not talk about family property or family money or the fact I have a pool (again, visitors).

Well, then you just need to learn to set boundaries and use the word 'no.'

My boundary is that I don't share the info. Unless you're the tax man, you don't need to know what I own. I bet plenty of your coworkers have property, boats, or private clubs they simply fail to mention.

[Anonymous]

I thought “down east” meant the coast of Maine???

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Anonymous wrote:Oh I am laughing so hard that someone is proud of having a condo in OC. He probably extols the culinary delights of Applebees as well!

I'd take the 100 year house over that any day and twice on Sundays.

Exactly, I mean come on being that proud of having a condo in OC MD, one of the worst beach towns ever, full of rednecks, awful restaurants, bad ocean water (dark/cold) and etc is funny af/ridiculous. But frankly to me it's all the rednecks, feels like the "garbage" of the US converges there over the summers.

Definitely tattoo haven.

Bro, do you even SaltLife?

I don’t read the middle of words carefully and for YEARS I was seeing this on cars on 95 and I thought it said “sloot life” (obviously the u version of that) and I was just like, ok, beach week girls! I guess own it! Girl power!

[Anonymous]

What is the workplace where people are arguing about Ocean City being classier than “several counties in NC?”

In my head it’s a power washing company but the real business is convincing dudes to open a franchise that will almost certainly fail.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is the workplace where people are arguing about Ocean City being classier than “several counties in NC?”

In my head it’s a power washing company but the real business is convincing dudes to open a franchise that will almost certainly fail.

Sounds like real estate people to me. Lots of old money ne'er do wells there. Or maybe non profit world. Plenty of folks involved in historic preservation/registry/land easement protection, etc come from familes with old plantations, especially in the DC/VA area.

[Anonymous]

My first cousin who dresses like it is the 1980s and thinks Applebees is fancy food never talks about money.

But back in the 1990s she got into real estate and she is an IT person with an MBA she started researching when data not as easy today up and coming places. For instance around Microsoft headquarters she target around 1995. She would fly in and buy houses. I recall on one single day once she bought 10. She had a huge line of credit with bank to buy homes for rentals. She then moved on to other states. I think she around 900 and she stopped buying for good around 2017.

I have no clue what happens to all those houses, all the early ones have no mortgage and later ones refinanced in 2020-2021 she has three kids I guess she gives each kid 300 houses.

I thought she was nuts. But she kept buying homes for 25 years at a huge clip. She was like a fat guy at a free buffet in 2009-2012

So you never know. You could be bragging to my cousin who will just never mention she has that many homes

[Anonymous]

Tell him “—I wish!” and “—You’re totally right!” and smile and make him think he’s envied…and be so glad he and people with his values aren’t overrunning your little piece of paradise! (He’ll never get it, so I wouldn’t bother trying to explain)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My diagnosis is that OP feels like the place "down east" is a refined classy place (probably so, at least in comparison to OC), and is struggling with how to make clear to the redneck that he is a redneck loser without compromising that refined class that people are supposed to notice without being told. So hard to thread that needle of being a snob without being an a$$.

But the fact that he is so bugged out by this guy means he has a redneck chip on his shoulder? Or like is closer to that than he would care to admit to us, which is why he feels the need to distance himself from it?