Meeting ex for drinks

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t hesitate about this for a second, personally. I’ve done it because we live in different cities and I had a work trip. My spouse knew.

1) I’m friends with my ex.
2) I don’t understand the “temptation” thing. Maybe I’m not a big drinker, but I just don’t get how you can feel out of control of the decision to cheat on your spouse. I don’t have sex with other people. The end. I’m perfectly capable of having drinks with an ex and enjoying appropriate flirtation and the warm glow of the past without accidentally taking my pants off.

How long have you been married, PP? How many kids do you have?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I naively tried to do this a few years ago. I was in a foreign country on a business trip, and messaged an old GF that I’m still friends with, asking if she wanted to have dinner. I’m married with kids (I’m a guy), she’s married with kids, and we have met each other’s spouses a few times. She eagerly accepted and came dressed to kill.

Turns out her spouse was out of town, she cheats on him, and she was DTF. Who knew? I declined her offer, but we still had a great time.

No one “naively” writes like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had an ex who lived on the opposite coast and traveled frequently to my area for work. Whenever he's in town he'd ask me to have dinner with him (we were both married by this time). DH knew of him and didn't care. So I went a couple of times and it was just catching up on our lives. Finally one time I brought DH out with me, and that was the last time the ex ever asked to meet up.

That’s a good point. Would the ex still want to meet up with you if it was a bring your partner/spouse meet up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m married. Any chance I can meet my ex for drinks?

Are you planning on drinking tartar sauce by any chance?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m married. Any chance I can meet my ex for drinks?

No. You are trying to cheat even if you wont admit it to yourself

[Anonymous]

After your impending divorce, sure

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I naively tried to do this a few years ago. I was in a foreign country on a business trip, and messaged an old GF that I’m still friends with, asking if she wanted to have dinner. I’m married with kids (I’m a guy), she’s married with kids, and we have met each other’s spouses a few times. She eagerly accepted and came dressed to kill.

Turns out her spouse was out of town, she cheats on him, and she was DTF. Who knew? I declined her offer, but we still had a great time.

Let me google DTF.

[Anonymous]

Why

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t hesitate about this for a second, personally. I’ve done it because we live in different cities and I had a work trip. My spouse knew.

1) I’m friends with my ex.
2) I don’t understand the “temptation” thing. Maybe I’m not a big drinker, but I just don’t get how you can feel out of control of the decision to cheat on your spouse. I don’t have sex with other people. The end. I’m perfectly capable of having drinks with an ex and enjoying appropriate flirtation and the warm glow of the past without accidentally taking my pants off.

How long have you been married, PP? How many kids do you have?

15 years, kids are grown.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had an ex who lived on the opposite coast and traveled frequently to my area for work. Whenever he's in town he'd ask me to have dinner with him (we were both married by this time). DH knew of him and didn't care. So I went a couple of times and it was just catching up on our lives. Finally one time I brought DH out with me, and that was the last time the ex ever asked to meet up.

That’s a good point. Would the ex still want to meet up with you if it was a bring your partner/spouse meet up?

No. They don’t like each other

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:After your impending divorce, sure

Or to kickstart it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t hesitate about this for a second, personally. I’ve done it because we live in different cities and I had a work trip. My spouse knew.

1) I’m friends with my ex.
2) I don’t understand the “temptation” thing. Maybe I’m not a big drinker, but I just don’t get how you can feel out of control of the decision to cheat on your spouse. I don’t have sex with other people. The end. I’m perfectly capable of having drinks with an ex and enjoying appropriate flirtation and the warm glow of the past without accidentally taking my pants off.

This.