I agree with this (I’m the wow story above). I’m not really a support group person but I find getting my mind off of it helps. I only need to know what I need to know at that time. I’m trying to set goals for whatever I can actually handle right now that interests me. I’m also trying to enjoy every day as much as I can with my family who is supportive. I don’t think about the diagnosis constantly. I’m about to go to a follow up visit this morning and I’m not even feeling nervous anymore. It is what it is, and I’m going to make the best of what time I have left. |
I had an emergency hyst at age 30 before I even could become a parent. My sister compared it to her c-section. Um no |
Infusions is a term that means to put a liquid medication or water in your body through needle in vein. Chemo is done through infusions of slow drip medication or chemo pills. What are they giving you? Maybe a preventative medicine? |
I agree. it’s better to not assume there was any negativity meant. If you’re not sure then ask. You’re better off with family support. Don’t try and second guess comments and dwell on them. |
Not every cancer drug for every type of cancer is chemo. Google is your friend. |
My sister is like this. She seemed disappointed my last scan came back all clear.
Misery loves company. |
Unrelated to my question. Infusions of what? What is being infused into your body? |
That was really insensitive of your sister. Did you let her know how upset you were? You should. |
I’m an NP, but many cancers are now being treated via immunotherapy drugs (via infusions) which is targeted at the specific cancer cells. It’s much more tolerable than traditional chemotherapy which attacks all rapidly dividing cells throughout one’s body, cancer or not. |
Google: Cancer drugs infusions. PP has to be a Boomer if they can’t figure this out themselves… |
Thanks for explaining. I’m not an NP and if I have to explain this to one more person I’m going to lose my temper. I only told one Boomer relative and their reaction proved that indeed stupid questions do exist. |
You can't heal around people that are distressing you. Ignoring their comments only benefits them and not you. If there was ever a time to step back and focus only on yourself and your healing, it's now. |
I'm the person you are responding to and I relate. When I stopped sharing info with mom she hurled a bunch of insults at me one day out of the blue for not thinking of her and sending her regular progress reports. I told her all I ask is that she be respectful and kind. I need to take care of myself and cannot be comforting other people's anxiety or dealing with insults and tantrums. She called me a B and then I didn't hear from her after that for a long time. it was a nice break. Every now then she cycles back to anxiety or insults and I remind her of my requirement, "if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all" and she disappears for many months and I sadly enjoy the break. I spent my whole life having to comfort her and trying to please her as she struggled with untreated mental health issues all of which she would deny. I have freed myself from that miserable job. |
Also, just wanted to say I think you have a great attitude and I hope the follow up visit went well. |
NP and I’m sorry that happened. A good friend of mine was diagnosed with cancer in her early thirties. Her mom flew out to support her, etc. Her sister who lives across the country decided to get a mammogram after her sister’s diagnosis and there was an issue. She started panicking and freaking out and her mom flew to comfort her and left my friend. Turns out the mammogram and issue was nothing and she was totally fine. It was really selfish and strange behavior. |