12 yo girl bday slumber party - ideas, please!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You should not take kid’s phones away. As a parent of a child attending, that would be a red flag to me.

Yeah, didn't you all see the recent news story about the dad who drugged the tweens? One was able to text her mom for help/come get them.

Yup, until that story I probably wouldn’t have blinked at a parent saying phones will be put away/taken at midnight or whatever. But now it would be a hard pass from me if a parent tried to mandate taking my kid’s phone at a sleepover.

Yet the odds of that happening are slim to none and the odds of them doing something idiotic on the phones are pretty high.

Yeah, but I’m not taking the chance in the event my kid needs me when they are staying somewhere other than my home. Besides, kids who have phones can be idiotic on them at any time not just sleepovers.

You are a paranoid idiot, with a phone-addicted child.

Here’s a thread for you:

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/540/1185305.page#27013020

Zero chance I am perusing that 30 something page thread. To each their own but after that horrifying story about a dad being a creeper and the kid having to call people in the middle of the night for help, I am not sending my kid to someone’s home where the parents insist on taking their phone from them. You can call me an idiot if that makes you feel better somehow, but I’m comfortable with my choice.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should not take kid’s phones away. As a parent of a child attending, that would be a red flag to me.

Yeah, didn't you all see the recent news story about the dad who drugged the tweens? One was able to text her mom for help/come get them.

Yup, until that story I probably wouldn’t have blinked at a parent saying phones will be put away/taken at midnight or whatever. But now it would be a hard pass from me if a parent tried to mandate taking my kid’s phone at a sleepover.

Yet the odds of that happening are slim to none and the odds of them doing something idiotic on the phones are pretty high.

Yeah, but I’m not taking the chance in the event my kid needs me when they are staying somewhere other than my home. Besides, kids who have phones can be idiotic on them at any time not just sleepovers.

When you send your kid to someone’s house for a sleepover, it is with the understanding that the parent responsible for them is able to meet all of your child’s needs and that is who they need ask, not you. What did you do at sleepovers when you were a teen and needed something? Kids don’t need to have mom constantly available in an instant every second of their life. If you don’t fully trust the other parent to meet your child’s needs, whatever those may be, then don’t do sleepovers there.

Read this story.

https://people.com/oregon-dad-accused-drugging-girls-12-year-old-daughters-sleepover-8602981

[Anonymous]

I have a friend whose daughter had a stomach ache at a slumber party. She told the parent a few times who gave her gingerale, blew it off as too many sweets, etc. She felt embarrassed to tell the mother again when the stomach ache got worse. texted her mom at midnight and came to get her. It was appendicitis. If my kid wants to contact me, they should have the means to do so. I dont care what we did 30 years ago, we live in a different time now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should not take kid’s phones away. As a parent of a child attending, that would be a red flag to me.

Yeah, didn't you all see the recent news story about the dad who drugged the tweens? One was able to text her mom for help/come get them.

Yup, until that story I probably wouldn’t have blinked at a parent saying phones will be put away/taken at midnight or whatever. But now it would be a hard pass from me if a parent tried to mandate taking my kid’s phone at a sleepover.

Yet the odds of that happening are slim to none and the odds of them doing something idiotic on the phones are pretty high.

Yeah, but I’m not taking the chance in the event my kid needs me when they are staying somewhere other than my home. Besides, kids who have phones can be idiotic on them at any time not just sleepovers.

You are a paranoid idiot, with a phone-addicted child.

Here’s a thread for you:

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/540/1185305.page#27013020

Zero chance I am perusing that 30 something page thread. To each their own but after that horrifying story about a dad being a creeper and the kid having to call people in the middle of the night for help, I am not sending my kid to someone’s home where the parents insist on taking their phone from them. You can call me an idiot if that makes you feel better somehow, but I’m comfortable with my choice.

+1 These parents can't teach their kids responsible phone usage but come down on parents who are ok with their kids texting them goodnight/if they need them? So bizarre and backwards!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should not take kid’s phones away. As a parent of a child attending, that would be a red flag to me.

Yeah, didn't you all see the recent news story about the dad who drugged the tweens? One was able to text her mom for help/come get them.

Yup, until that story I probably wouldn’t have blinked at a parent saying phones will be put away/taken at midnight or whatever. But now it would be a hard pass from me if a parent tried to mandate taking my kid’s phone at a sleepover.

Yet the odds of that happening are slim to none and the odds of them doing something idiotic on the phones are pretty high.

Yeah, but I’m not taking the chance in the event my kid needs me when they are staying somewhere other than my home. Besides, kids who have phones can be idiotic on them at any time not just sleepovers.

When you send your kid to someone’s house for a sleepover, it is with the understanding that the parent responsible for them is able to meet all of your child’s needs and that is who they need ask, not you. What did you do at sleepovers when you were a teen and needed something? Kids don’t need to have mom constantly available in an instant every second of their life. If you don’t fully trust the other parent to meet your child’s needs, whatever those may be, then don’t do sleepovers there.

Read this story.

https://people.com/oregon-dad-accused-drugging-girls-12-year-old-daughters-sleepover-8602981

The chances of this happening at very rare. If you are afraid of this happening, you shouldn’t send your kid on a sleepover, cell phone or not. This isn’t a valid reason for kids to have all night access to cell phones and sleepovers and if at my house, they won’t. But I’m upfront about that so parents can make the best choice for their child before sending.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you plan to take cell phones away, you might want to give the parents a heads up. Some kids like to text their parents. Good night and we’re still getting nervous even at that age and may want to discreetly tell her parents they want to go home. That being said, obviously, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with taking the phones away so no shenanigans happen, but sometimes important just to think about the situation holistically

Ah, so this is why kids bring extra old phones to these parties- so one is burner to “turn in”!

Yup lol. Friend groups usually have a set they have access to just for this situation.

Makes me wonder how many posters here would agree to give up their phone at a party / event

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend whose daughter had a stomach ache at a slumber party. She told the parent a few times who gave her gingerale, blew it off as too many sweets, etc. She felt embarrassed to tell the mother again when the stomach ache got worse. texted her mom at midnight and came to get her. It was appendicitis. If my kid wants to contact me, they should have the means to do so. I dont care what we did 30 years ago, we live in a different time now.

This is wild. A kid can’t go tell the other mom her stomach still hurts and have to text mom instead, you then probably texts the other mom. This makes just never want to host sleepovers. Kids have zero ability to deal away from their parents. Which is why they feel they must have their phone always

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should not take kid’s phones away. As a parent of a child attending, that would be a red flag to me.

Yeah, didn't you all see the recent news story about the dad who drugged the tweens? One was able to text her mom for help/come get them.

Yup, until that story I probably wouldn’t have blinked at a parent saying phones will be put away/taken at midnight or whatever. But now it would be a hard pass from me if a parent tried to mandate taking my kid’s phone at a sleepover.

Yet the odds of that happening are slim to none and the odds of them doing something idiotic on the phones are pretty high.

Yeah, but I’m not taking the chance in the event my kid needs me when they are staying somewhere other than my home. Besides, kids who have phones can be idiotic on them at any time not just sleepovers.

When you send your kid to someone’s house for a sleepover, it is with the understanding that the parent responsible for them is able to meet all of your child’s needs and that is who they need ask, not you. What did you do at sleepovers when you were a teen and needed something? Kids don’t need to have mom constantly available in an instant every second of their life. If you don’t fully trust the other parent to meet your child’s needs, whatever those may be, then don’t do sleepovers there.

Read this story.

https://people.com/oregon-dad-accused-drugging-girls-12-year-old-daughters-sleepover-8602981

The chances of this happening at very rare. If you are afraid of this happening, you shouldn’t send your kid on a sleepover, cell phone or not. This isn’t a valid reason for kids to have all night access to cell phones and sleepovers and if at my house, they won’t. But I’m upfront about that so parents can make the best choice for their child before sending.

And that is your choice, but for me I’m not willing to risk that my child is the rare person this happens to and she has no way to contact someone for help. At least you inform parents of your rule up front so they can take that into account when deciding if their kid can spend the night at your house.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have a friend whose daughter had a stomach ache at a slumber party. She told the parent a few times who gave her gingerale, blew it off as too many sweets, etc. She felt embarrassed to tell the mother again when the stomach ache got worse. texted her mom at midnight and came to get her. It was appendicitis. If my kid wants to contact me, they should have the means to do so. I dont care what we did 30 years ago, we live in a different time now.

This is wild. A kid can’t go tell the other mom her stomach still hurts and have to text mom instead, you then probably texts the other mom. This makes just never want to host sleepovers. Kids have zero ability to deal away from their parents. Which is why they feel they must have their phone always

The kid already told the adult multiple times that their stomach hurt and was blown off, and you’re shocked they wouldn’t want to go back to that same adult again complaining of the stomach pain? GTFO with that nonsense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend whose daughter had a stomach ache at a slumber party. She told the parent a few times who gave her gingerale, blew it off as too many sweets, etc. She felt embarrassed to tell the mother again when the stomach ache got worse. texted her mom at midnight and came to get her. It was appendicitis. If my kid wants to contact me, they should have the means to do so. I dont care what we did 30 years ago, we live in a different time now.

This is wild. A kid can’t go tell the other mom her stomach still hurts and have to text mom instead, you then probably texts the other mom. This makes just never want to host sleepovers. Kids have zero ability to deal away from their parents. Which is why they feel they must have their phone always

The kid already told the adult multiple times that their stomach hurt and was blown off, and you’re shocked they wouldn’t want to go back to that same adult again complaining of the stomach pain? GTFO with that nonsense.

She could have told her mom in the early evening her stomach hurt. She could have woke the other mom up at midnight at said she is a lot of pain and wants to go homes. Do you really think the other mom would have said too bad? Kids should be capable of advocating for themselves without a phone. Any normal adult would contact a parent in the night of a kid is in writhing pain and wakes them up and asks for a parent. Or even if they just say, can I call my mom. This isn’t hard

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend whose daughter had a stomach ache at a slumber party. She told the parent a few times who gave her gingerale, blew it off as too many sweets, etc. She felt embarrassed to tell the mother again when the stomach ache got worse. texted her mom at midnight and came to get her. It was appendicitis. If my kid wants to contact me, they should have the means to do so. I dont care what we did 30 years ago, we live in a different time now.

This is wild. A kid can’t go tell the other mom her stomach still hurts and have to text mom instead, you then probably texts the other mom. This makes just never want to host sleepovers. Kids have zero ability to deal away from their parents. Which is why they feel they must have their phone always

The kid already told the adult multiple times that their stomach hurt and was blown off, and you’re shocked they wouldn’t want to go back to that same adult again complaining of the stomach pain? GTFO with that nonsense.

She could have told her mom in the early evening her stomach hurt. She could have woke the other mom up at midnight at said she is a lot of pain and wants to go homes. Do you really think the other mom would have said too bad? Kids should be capable of advocating for themselves without a phone. Any normal adult would contact a parent in the night of a kid is in writhing pain and wakes them up and asks for a parent. Or even if they just say, can I call my mom. This isn’t hard

Sorry your kid can’t manage to use their phone appropriately and your only choice is to hide it from them.

[Anonymous]

My kids phones turn into bricks at a designated time each night. Phone calls still work though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend whose daughter had a stomach ache at a slumber party. She told the parent a few times who gave her gingerale, blew it off as too many sweets, etc. She felt embarrassed to tell the mother again when the stomach ache got worse. texted her mom at midnight and came to get her. It was appendicitis. If my kid wants to contact me, they should have the means to do so. I dont care what we did 30 years ago, we live in a different time now.

This is wild. A kid can’t go tell the other mom her stomach still hurts and have to text mom instead, you then probably texts the other mom. This makes just never want to host sleepovers. Kids have zero ability to deal away from their parents. Which is why they feel they must have their phone always

The kid already told the adult multiple times that their stomach hurt and was blown off, and you’re shocked they wouldn’t want to go back to that same adult again complaining of the stomach pain? GTFO with that nonsense.

She could have told her mom in the early evening her stomach hurt. She could have woke the other mom up at midnight at said she is a lot of pain and wants to go homes. Do you really think the other mom would have said too bad? Kids should be capable of advocating for themselves without a phone. Any normal adult would contact a parent in the night of a kid is in writhing pain and wakes them up and asks for a parent. Or even if they just say, can I call my mom. This isn’t hard

Sorry your kid can’t manage to use their phone appropriately and your only choice is to hide it from them.

This isnt about any one individual or what you do at your own house. Surely you understand having a bunch of 12 yr olds with cell phones all night can be problematic for many reasons. Sorry you child cannot cope or problem solve without texting you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should not take kid’s phones away. As a parent of a child attending, that would be a red flag to me.

Yeah, didn't you all see the recent news story about the dad who drugged the tweens? One was able to text her mom for help/come get them.

Yup, until that story I probably wouldn’t have blinked at a parent saying phones will be put away/taken at midnight or whatever. But now it would be a hard pass from me if a parent tried to mandate taking my kid’s phone at a sleepover.

Yet the odds of that happening are slim to none and the odds of them doing something idiotic on the phones are pretty high.

Yeah, but I’m not taking the chance in the event my kid needs me when they are staying somewhere other than my home. Besides, kids who have phones can be idiotic on them at any time not just sleepovers.

You are a paranoid idiot, with a phone-addicted child.

Here’s a thread for you:

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/540/1185305.page#27013020

Zero chance I am perusing that 30 something page thread. To each their own but after that horrifying story about a dad being a creeper and the kid having to call people in the middle of the night for help, I am not sending my kid to someone’s home where the parents insist on taking their phone from them. You can call me an idiot if that makes you feel better somehow, but I’m comfortable with my choice.

Of course you are /s

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend whose daughter had a stomach ache at a slumber party. She told the parent a few times who gave her gingerale, blew it off as too many sweets, etc. She felt embarrassed to tell the mother again when the stomach ache got worse. texted her mom at midnight and came to get her. It was appendicitis. If my kid wants to contact me, they should have the means to do so. I dont care what we did 30 years ago, we live in a different time now.

This is wild. A kid can’t go tell the other mom her stomach still hurts and have to text mom instead, you then probably texts the other mom. This makes just never want to host sleepovers. Kids have zero ability to deal away from their parents. Which is why they feel they must have their phone always

The kid already told the adult multiple times that their stomach hurt and was blown off, and you’re shocked they wouldn’t want to go back to that same adult again complaining of the stomach pain? GTFO with that nonsense.

She could have told her mom in the early evening her stomach hurt. She could have woke the other mom up at midnight at said she is a lot of pain and wants to go homes. Do you really think the other mom would have said too bad? Kids should be capable of advocating for themselves without a phone. Any normal adult would contact a parent in the night of a kid is in writhing pain and wakes them up and asks for a parent. Or even if they just say, can I call my mom. This isn’t hard

Sorry your kid can’t manage to use their phone appropriately and your only choice is to hide it from them.

This isnt about any one individual or what you do at your own house. Surely you understand having a bunch of 12 yr olds with cell phones all night can be problematic for many reasons. Sorry you child cannot cope or problem solve without texting you

Yeah, that Oregon 12 year old really should have had to problem solve and cope with the adult male drugging her and being a perv in the middle of the night without the use of a phone. Missed a chance to build character or something