Bad choices

Anonymous
First, unless it is out-of-your-reach expensive, dig down on why she says she doesn't like the expensive school. She must have liked something about it to have applied there and is probably saying she doesn't like it because it isn't the school that was her first choice. Give her time to get over the sting, then discuss the things that made her put it on the list in the first place. Can you visit it again? Seeing happy kids there can help, as long as she can realize that those kids are just as bright and accomplished as she is -- if she goes in feeling she is too good for the school, it won't help.

Second, if the cc option is from a WL, work the school on the WL, and she may get in. Keep showing interest. Visit again. If it doesn't work, then really, it is still better to commit through the cc route than take a year off and try again (which really isn't a thing). Gap year kids commit to the school first, then defer starting for a year.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm sure you're all insanely stressed out right now; so sorry.

It's not too late to expand her options. Lots of quality schools haven't hit their deadlines yet (and many others, on the DL, will continue considering applications past their "deadlines"). What's your state of residence? And what does she want as far as big/small, urban/rural, warm/cold? Area of study?

We are in MD. Strong STEM interest


And she got rejected by UMBC with those stats? That surprises me.


PP here,

If she didn’t apply to UMBC yet then that seems like the obvious solution since their deadline hasn’t passed, she’ll get instate tuition, and they are strong in STEM. She’ll have the same transfer opportunities she would from CC or she might fall in love and stay!
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm sure you're all insanely stressed out right now; so sorry.

It's not too late to expand her options. Lots of quality schools haven't hit their deadlines yet (and many others, on the DL, will continue considering applications past their "deadlines"). What's your state of residence? And what does she want as far as big/small, urban/rural, warm/cold? Area of study?

We are in MD. Strong STEM interest


And she got rejected by UMBC with those stats? That surprises me.


+1. UMBC has a Feb. 1 deadline. If she has not applied, tell her to get on it. She can always transfer from UMBC to another school if she doesn't like it.
Anonymous
Are any additional admissions decisions still outstanding? A kid with those stats, if she applied to a decent number of safeties and targets, should not be getting shut out. If so, there may still be options but you all will need to keep an open mind and pivot quickly. I don’t think community college is the only remaining path here.
Anonymous
need info about UMBC before I can comment.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm sure you're all insanely stressed out right now; so sorry.

It's not too late to expand her options. Lots of quality schools haven't hit their deadlines yet (and many others, on the DL, will continue considering applications past their "deadlines"). What's your state of residence? And what does she want as far as big/small, urban/rural, warm/cold? Area of study?

We are in MD. Strong STEM interest


And she got rejected by UMBC with those stats? That surprises me.


+1. UMBC has a Feb. 1 deadline. If she has not applied, tell her to get on it. She can always transfer from UMBC to another school if she doesn't like it.


This is a great option. If a big school in a city doesn't appeal, she could go the total opposite route to College of Wooster, which is a tiny rural liberal arts college also has a 2/1 deadline, and is known for supporting STEM students really well (if they are more the bio/chem pre-med type over the engineering/CS/tech type). The school looks expensive on paper, but they offer a lot of merit aid that can bring it down to around in-state school prices. But I would 100% throw in the application for UMBC--it's a fantastic school for STEM and would be affordable--and not hard to transfer from at all if it wasn't her thing.
Anonymous
Last year or so there was a student on the (insane) Paying for College 101 who arrived on campus the first week of school and within a couple hours realized she had made a big mistake. that FB page rallied with lots of ideas and that kid was in at Agnes Scott living her best life that same week. (my details may be off, but it was def Agnes Scott).

Just saying, things are more flexible than they first appear.

For sure I'd be submitting a few more applications right now that are due 2/1. But then I'd have a deeper conversation and if you learn new things and have news idea, I wouldn't hesitate to have your daughter call, say, the U of Puget Sound and asked if there's any way they'd accept her late app. I would not be surprised if they said, sure. Esp if she was bringing some good (for them) test scores with her.

UMBC seems to be the obvious option, with maybe a WI and RI app (we need more details on what she does like). But then Id look a bit deeper too.

Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:OP here. Not bad stats 3.7 uw/4.6 w
Super EC

Test score? Budget? Any very strong preference for size and location, or is she open?
Anonymous
Strongly agree with submitting a UMBC application now-ish. Also, check out Iowa State: strong STEM (great engineering) school offering the traditional rah rah experience for under $30K total cost of attendance for an OOS kid with your DC's grades; Feb 8 application deadline.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:So others may learn: did she make an awful list to apply to? What happened at (what should have been) her multiple targets and safeties?

+1 List the schools she liked so people can help by suggesting similar schools whose deadlines still haven’t passed. You sound ready to give up the ship and you may not have to.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote: Last year or so there was a student on the (insane) Paying for College 101 who arrived on campus the first week of school and within a couple hours realized she had made a big mistake. that FB page rallied with lots of ideas and that kid was in at Agnes Scott living her best life that same week. (my details may be off, but it was def Agnes Scott).

Just saying, things are more flexible than they first appear.

For sure I'd be submitting a few more applications right now that are due 2/1. But then I'd have a deeper conversation and if you learn new things and have news idea, I wouldn't hesitate to have your daughter call, say, the U of Puget Sound and asked if there's any way they'd accept her late app. I would not be surprised if they said, sure. Esp if she was bringing some good (for them) test scores with her.

UMBC seems to be the obvious option, with maybe a WI and RI app (we need more details on what she does like). But then Id look a bit deeper too.
Totally correct. Any LAC outside of the USNWR T40 will have that conversation until the summer, at least, and many offer both very strong STEM and very generous financial aid, e.g., Kalamazoo, Wooster, Lawrence.
Anonymous
Dayton has a 2/1 deadline. Gives lots of merit to a kid with stats like yours
Anonymous
I second UMBC and Wooster. I’ve met great STEM grads from both. I agree that a safety had to be attainable for both admission and finances. My kid was required to apply to more than one Maryland state school. If your daughter likes Biology or Chemistry, also consider College of St Mary’s in southern Maryland.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I second UMBC and Wooster. I’ve met great STEM grads from both. I agree that a safety had to be attainable for both admission and finances. My kid was required to apply to more than one Maryland state school. If your daughter likes Biology or Chemistry, also consider College of St Mary’s in southern Maryland.


Oops, St Mary’s College of Maryland.
Anonymous
Oh come on, there must be rolling colleges she can still apply to? Or send a few apps off quickly before Feb 1 or Feb 15 deadlines.

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