Husband Brought Bud light to Fancy Christmas Party
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Anonymous
| Your DH and the hostess were both wrong. You don’t take your own food and drink someone else’s event when it’s not a potluck. The hostess should have ignored the crass behavior and quietly removed you and the other friend from the invite list going forward if she’s that put out. However a gracious hostess would just have Bud in bottles at the bar next year and let you know in advance to leave the cooler at home. |
Anonymous
| How do you know it’s cost them $50,000? Anyway, no apology needed and don’t go next year. |
Anonymous
I agree. Does your husband have a drinking problem? Why a 70 qt cooler for two men at a party? Hostess was out of line. Someone had a tantrum or mental break and broke my toilet seat at a party one time and I didn't demand they replace it the next day! |
Anonymous
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This belongs here:
https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1174411.page |
Anonymous
Even Travis Kelce can't save Bud Light. It won't recover. |
Anonymous
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You start by saying:
"My DH has a friend from childhood that has done extremely well for himself".... So it's his friend and you should back down. |
Anonymous
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The hostess is way more out of line than your husband, OP. I say this as a super uptight, upper middle class sort of person, who would never want to see a beer at such an event. The role of the host is to make guests feel welcome. If there is a guest who breaks a social rule and brings unwanted food or drink for his own consumption, it's the host's duty to make reasonable accommodations. Yes, the beer added a vulgar note to an otherwise elegant event. But the accommodation was easy to make, and the host should have smiled and thought of it as an "eccentricity" on the part of one of the guests. Because the upper classes are never crass peasants with low tastes. They're just eccentric 
The fact that the hostess became upset and is now hounding you is beyond the pale, and shows how insecure she is about her social position. No REAL upper class person, or gracious host, would let this bother them. The correct course of action is to reply by mail on your monogrammed cardstock, expressing your regret that she is upset. It's not an apology. It's an empathetic acknowledgement of her fragility. |
Anonymous
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Take the money dynamic out of it, and this is just plain rude. Rude in the first instance to BYO food/drink to a hosted party (absent a medical reason). Rude in the second instance to ask someone else's help to do your bidding. Rude in the third instance to refuse a host's request to put it away.
Add back in the money piece, and there is also a rude bit of cultural commentary being directed at the host and his wife. |
Anonymous
| Am I the only one envisioning the hostess screaming about "NO OUTSIDE FOOD OR DRINK!!!" |
Anonymous
Same here! The host isn't the only one that is over the top! I also agree he should apologize for stressing out the hostess but not for bringing the beer. |
Anonymous
Agree, I'd stay out of it. It's between your husband, his friend and friend's wife. Your husband made a decision and he can handle the outcome on his own. |
Anonymous
She's crazy. Who cares if they are drinking Bud light over Stella? More beer for her! Geez, I would be laughing too. The hostess is a loser. |
Anonymous
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This isn’t about beer.
A host is responsible for drunk guests. The bartender can refuse to serve a drunk person and warn the host. |
Anonymous
LMFAO! Bud Light is horrible. |
Anonymous
+1 thought the same thing. |