When should my kids stop being so silly and actually listen and practice at sports?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My boys are 6 and 7, and NOT athletic at all. But I keep them in sports to build strength and they certainly need activity.

But they’re VERY wild and silly at practices…they don’t really try, and they’re not nearly as good and strong as the others.

Do we keep pushing through?

I might recommend you think about having them them do individual sports/activities rather than team stick & ball sports. Something where they're more in charge of their own destiny, so to speak.

A disruptive kid is just as much of a problem at individual sports, trust me.

[Anonymous]

If they enjoy it and can behave then it doesn’t matter their ability. But if they are being too silly, it’s probably ruining the experience for the kids who genuinely want to play and improve. It’s also frustrating for the coach. When my kids were young DH coached various sports and I was usually a manager. I couldn’t believe some of the outrageous behavior I witnessed. DS played on a soccer team at that age where kids took 30 minutes of the hour practice just to settle down enough for the coach to teach skills. Even then a few kids were kicking balls purposely into the woods or wrestling around. I stayed at the field to help the coach supervise because the coach couldn’t accomplish anything. My son complained the entire time that he hated the team as a result. Both my boys were complete goofballs at that age but we expected them to show respect to their coaches and teammates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because they are little kids and they want to fool around in their free time but you are for I guess them into an organized, structured activity. Put them in the back yard with a large cardboard box, or some wood and small nails they can pound and build. They’ve just spent all day following the rules at school.

They can do both…can do a sport 1 or 2 days after school and have the other 3 days to pound nails into the yard.

See all the threads people post about their lazy, out of shape teens—I would not pull them out. Plus they need to learn how to behave.

[Anonymous]

Please reach them respect on team sports. They sound so disruptive to the coach and team mates. Doubt they are well liked.

[Anonymous]

Team sports are not for every kid. Have you considered swim team, fencing, ballet, tennis?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My boys are 6 and 7, and NOT athletic at all. But I keep them in sports to build strength and they certainly need activity.

But they’re VERY wild and silly at practices…they don’t really try, and they’re not nearly as good and strong as the others.

Do we keep pushing through?

I’d like to hear more about your expectations about building strength. My 5 year old is in T-ball, soccer, and lacrosse—all rec, all 1-2 week practices. I put him in sports because he likes the activity, but I don’t see any of them really building his strength. I would think that would require a more intense commitment to training and maybe weight-lifting than I’m willing to take on for a 5 year old.

[Anonymous]

Have you gotten an evaluation from an occupational therapist about their strength and coordination? Some kids need occupational therapy to build muscle tone and coordination.

Ask your pediatrician about ADHD evaluation as well. Don’t assume that school will tell you anything. My ADHD kid doesn’t show disruptive behavior in school, but does struggle at home.

[Anonymous]

Read Ferdinand the Bull

[Anonymous]

For the sake of their VOLUNTEER coaches, please pull them out now unless you see a marked improvement after you speak with them. Or....become a coach!

Signed, an exhausted parent coach

[Anonymous]

Lot of judgemental f’s on this thread. So glad for you that you got a child with no thoughts of their own who is just a future sheeple who’s going to spend their whole future lives congregating on the Highway in clusters because they just must be part of a group. Guess what some kids want to do their own thing and it takes a lot more work to socialize them then you’re easy, mindless broads

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For the sake of their VOLUNTEER coaches, please pull them out now unless you see a marked improvement after you speak with them. Or....become a coach!

Signed, an exhausted parent coach

Why don’t you like take that stick up your ass and shove it in their a bit more

[Anonymous]

They asked a question and got roasted for it. Like how DARE they have sex and create a child. How DARE that child not be exactly like every other of your mindless drone child’s that you call superior. I hate all of you . He or she asked a legitimate freaking question and you’re absolutely roasting the person to take all your gripes out on this person because YOU and your little mindless brood were once inconvenienced by a child with a different personality. I hate all of you. You do realize it takes all types of people in this world for it to function? No? You self righteous parents should be absolutely ashamed of yourself.

[Anonymous]

Other than the jumping to adhd comments lol, (let’s drug a child bc they don’t listen exactly how you want them to?)
the first page was fine except for the obvious focus on the other kids. Like yeah it’s distracting to the other kids. Hey I was a kid too and I always got sat next to the most behind, obviously grew up in poverty, developmentally delayed girl who was extremely disruptive and still weared diapers in kindergarten, because our last names were together. I hated it. But gues what. We all live in a society togther. Can’t kick that girl out of school bc she was distracting to me. You gotta deal with it. We are trying to mind our own kids who have their own strong motivations m. You deal with your little perfect little miss or mister and your life b****

[Anonymous]

What do I mean by congregating on the highway? I’m talking about all the people who speed up only to sit right behind someone else while driving. Seems like most people like to drive in groups with others. Except when it make the most sense and you give yourselves a whole car length at a red light. In your big SUV. If we all thought the same way and acted like that then there would be so many traffic Jams. Thankfully there are people like me and my child who have an independent personality. So yeah: you ain’t better

[Anonymous]

I am trying to stop negativity and this was triggering. Please understand that people do the best they can. And it’s not all just about your well behaved child. And telling them to teach them whatever is easier for you said then done just bc your kid was a certain kind of way does not mean all the credit goes to you. Some kids have shit parents and listen. Some kids can have the best parents who try and they need a lot more work.