To Those SAH Parents Who Want to Now Enter The Workforce

[Anonymous]

Don't give up looking for a job! It may take awhile but it is doable. In general, the market sucks right now so even those with jobs have difficulty finding work. After my child was born, I did not SAH but there were definitely times when I wished that I had and I totally respect and understand if someone made a different decision than I did. Please don't think that ALL employers will look negatively on your decision to stay home. Even though I did not do it, if someone that I really liked was a SAH, that would not deter me from hiring the person. As someone who has had to hire people before, I like employees that are good at what they do but also value quality of life and outside activities. The fact that you SAH shows me you have this quality. Anyhow, GOOD LUCK!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't give up looking for a job! It may take awhile but it is doable. In general, the market sucks right now so even those with jobs have difficulty finding work. After my child was born, I did not SAH but there were definitely times when I wished that I had and I totally respect and understand if someone made a different decision than I did. Please don't think that ALL employers will look negatively on your decision to stay home. Even though I did not do it, if someone that I really liked was a SAH, that would not deter me from hiring the person. As someone who has had to hire people before, I like employees that are good at what they do but also value quality of life and outside activities. The fact that you SAH shows me you have this quality. Anyhow, GOOD LUCK!!!

I appreciate that you are trying to give encouragement, but my guess is that you are in the minority. A woman who has been organized and motivated enough to both have a career and a family will always score more points in my book than a SAHM when making hiring decisions. Add in someone who is healthy and active and I give double credit.

[Anonymous]

Thanks, OP!

PP, you are a woman, right?

Just another reason why it sucks to have a female boss.

SAHMs sold look for men to hire them when they go back.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don't give up looking for a job! It may take awhile but it is doable. In general, the market sucks right now so even those with jobs have difficulty finding work. After my child was born, I did not SAH but there were definitely times when I wished that I had and I totally respect and understand if someone made a different decision than I did. Please don't think that ALL employers will look negatively on your decision to stay home. Even though I did not do it, if someone that I really liked was a SAH, that would not deter me from hiring the person. As someone who has had to hire people before, I like employees that are good at what they do but also value quality of life and outside activities. The fact that you SAH shows me you have this quality. Anyhow, GOOD LUCK!!!

I appreciate that you are trying to give encouragement, but my guess is that you are in the minority. A woman who has been organized and motivated enough to both have a career and a family will always score more points in my book than a SAHM when making hiring decisions. Add in someone who is healthy and active and I give double credit.

Why?

[Anonymous]

OK OP - you totally are a SAHM. Cute motivation speech, though!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don't give up looking for a job! It may take awhile but it is doable. In general, the market sucks right now so even those with jobs have difficulty finding work. After my child was born, I did not SAH but there were definitely times when I wished that I had and I totally respect and understand if someone made a different decision than I did. Please don't think that ALL employers will look negatively on your decision to stay home. Even though I did not do it, if someone that I really liked was a SAH, that would not deter me from hiring the person. As someone who has had to hire people before, I like employees that are good at what they do but also value quality of life and outside activities. The fact that you SAH shows me you have this quality. Anyhow, GOOD LUCK!!!

I appreciate that you are trying to give encouragement, but my guess is that you are in the minority. A woman who has been organized and motivated enough to both have a career and a family will always score more points in my book than a SAHM when making hiring decisions. Add in someone who is healthy and active and I give double credit.

Why?

Because they're doing two jobs at once. Obviously. Not to mention continuing to be intellectually stimulated and a financial provider. How is that not clear? (not the PP you're responding to by the way)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don't give up looking for a job! It may take awhile but it is doable. In general, the market sucks right now so even those with jobs have difficulty finding work. After my child was born, I did not SAH but there were definitely times when I wished that I had and I totally respect and understand if someone made a different decision than I did. Please don't think that ALL employers will look negatively on your decision to stay home. Even though I did not do it, if someone that I really liked was a SAH, that would not deter me from hiring the person. As someone who has had to hire people before, I like employees that are good at what they do but also value quality of life and outside activities. The fact that you SAH shows me you have this quality. Anyhow, GOOD LUCK!!!

I appreciate that you are trying to give encouragement, but my guess is that you are in the minority. A woman who has been organized and motivated enough to both have a career and a family will always score more points in my book than a SAHM when making hiring decisions. Add in someone who is healthy and active and I give double credit.

Why?

Because they're doing two jobs at once. Obviously. Not to mention continuing to be intellectually stimulated and a financial provider. How is that not clear? (not the PP you're responding to by the way)

I am the pp and I agree with this poster. I have earned a masters while working f/t while having a my first DC. I now have 2 DC and my DH works f/t also. We also manage to work out 5-6 days a week and I coach a team that my oldest is on. I know how hard I work and how organized I have to be and I respect those characteristics.

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Anonymous wrote:Don't give up looking for a job! It may take awhile but it is doable. In general, the market sucks right now so even those with jobs have difficulty finding work. After my child was born, I did not SAH but there were definitely times when I wished that I had and I totally respect and understand if someone made a different decision than I did. Please don't think that ALL employers will look negatively on your decision to stay home. Even though I did not do it, if someone that I really liked was a SAH, that would not deter me from hiring the person. As someone who has had to hire people before, I like employees that are good at what they do but also value quality of life and outside activities. The fact that you SAH shows me you have this quality. Anyhow, GOOD LUCK!!!

I appreciate that you are trying to give encouragement, but my guess is that you are in the minority. A woman who has been organized and motivated enough to both have a career and a family will always score more points in my book than a SAHM when making hiring decisions. Add in someone who is healthy and active and I give double credit.

Why?

Because they're doing two jobs at once. Obviously. Not to mention continuing to be intellectually stimulated and a financial provider. How is that not clear? (not the PP you're responding to by the way)

I am the pp and I agree with this poster. I have earned a masters while working f/t while having a my first DC. I now have 2 DC and my DH works f/t also. We also manage to work out 5-6 days a week and I coach a team that my oldest is on. I know how hard I work and how organized I have to be and I respect those characteristics. [/quot


Well, on your deathbed, dear PP, I am sure those hours spent "working hard" at working out and on your career will warm your heart more than the hours with your children, or the hours you found time to do nothing but be present for your life. Why do you need to be so busy? What are you running from? Funny to think how the hunters and gatherers we're descended from had so much more free time than we do. I bet you don't know how to relax unless you're paying big bucks for it. e]

[Anonymous]

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I am the pp and I agree with this poster. I have earned a masters while working f/t while having a my first DC. I now have 2 DC and my DH works f/t also. We also manage to work out 5-6 days a week and I coach a team that my oldest is on. I know how hard I work and how organized I have to be and I respect those characteristics.

Yeah but being type-A and being super-organized and driven are NOT the qualities needed in every job. Certainly not in my career. Maybe your approach is suited to the world of lobbyists and lawyers etc., but you do realize there is life outside corporate America, right?

[Anonymous]

OP - Hope your job doesn't involve writing. Your writing skills are very poor and you don't seem very bright.

[Anonymous]

I went back to work after my divorce. It wasn't too difficult to do, actually. DC has the second-best job market in the country.

Lots and lots of moms around here stay home for a few years and then go back to work. Or they cut their work hours back drastically while their children are young. It only seems to be a problem here on DCUM.

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Anonymous wrote:Don't give up looking for a job! It may take awhile but it is doable. In general, the market sucks right now so even those with jobs have difficulty finding work. After my child was born, I did not SAH but there were definitely times when I wished that I had and I totally respect and understand if someone made a different decision than I did. Please don't think that ALL employers will look negatively on your decision to stay home. Even though I did not do it, if someone that I really liked was a SAH, that would not deter me from hiring the person. As someone who has had to hire people before, I like employees that are good at what they do but also value quality of life and outside activities. The fact that you SAH shows me you have this quality. Anyhow, GOOD LUCK!!!

I appreciate that you are trying to give encouragement, but my guess is that you are in the minority. A woman who has been organized and motivated enough to both have a career and a family will always score more points in my book than a SAHM when making hiring decisions. Add in someone who is healthy and active and I give double credit.

Why?

Because they're doing two jobs at once. Obviously. Not to mention continuing to be intellectually stimulated and a financial provider. How is that not clear? (not the PP you're responding to by the way)

I am the pp and I agree with this poster. I have earned a masters while working f/t while having a my first DC. I now have 2 DC and my DH works f/t also. We also manage to work out 5-6 days a week and I coach a team that my oldest is on. I know how hard I work and how organized I have to be and I respect those characteristics.

Please share your schedule! Would love to see how you manage to work this out - when do you work out, for example? Every day before work? After work? Who watches your children while you're working and working out? When do you go to school? Before work? After work?

So curious. After all, there are only so many hours in a day. How many hours do you spend with your kids on an average weekday?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - Hope your job doesn't involve writing. Your writing skills are very poor and you don't seem very bright.

ha ha - I am actually a litigator.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don't give up looking for a job! It may take awhile but it is doable. In general, the market sucks right now so even those with jobs have difficulty finding work. After my child was born, I did not SAH but there were definitely times when I wished that I had and I totally respect and understand if someone made a different decision than I did. Please don't think that ALL employers will look negatively on your decision to stay home. Even though I did not do it, if someone that I really liked was a SAH, that would not deter me from hiring the person. As someone who has had to hire people before, I like employees that are good at what they do but also value quality of life and outside activities. The fact that you SAH shows me you have this quality. Anyhow, GOOD LUCK!!!

I appreciate that you are trying to give encouragement, but my guess is that you are in the minority. A woman who has been organized and motivated enough to both have a career and a family will always score more points in my book than a SAHM when making hiring decisions. Add in someone who is healthy and active and I give double credit.

So you do realize that calling all SAHMs disorganized and unmotivated just makes you look stupid, right? PP, go ahead, get out there and meet some mom friends! You can do it!! There is a whole world out there outside your cubicle!!

[Anonymous]

When I hire someone for a job, I don't give a crap if they SAH or WOH, but my criteria include:
1. Is this person the most qualified candidate with up to date skills?
2. Is this person going to put in 100 percent effort to get this job done?
If someone SAH for a long period of time, they may not meet criteria one.

In terms of criteria 2, to be completely candid, it would probably have disqualified me from getting my own job. I work hard, but having two young kids, I simply can't put in the same effort as a single person without similar commitments. I do a good job and work late when needed, but I simply can't stay there until 7 or 8 pm on a regular basis checking and rechecking work to make sure it is perfect. Luckily for me, whoever hired me had different criteria, and I hope they are satisfied with the effort I put in.