When you're at a dinner party and there's only wine, no other drinks

[Anonymous]

So many posters here sound like terrible hosts. Don't be grudge people who want something other than wine + your dirty tap water.

[Anonymous]

The only drinks I ever have in my house are water, wine, and whisky. That's what I offer guests. I'm not going to buy something different just for you when I have something you'll already drink. If you want a coke, bring your own coke.

[Anonymous]

All you hosts should start offering Izzes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only drinks I ever have in my house are water, wine, and whisky. That's what I offer guests. I'm not going to buy something different just for you when I have something you'll already drink. If you want a coke, bring your own coke.

hos·pi·tal·i·ty
/ˌhäspəˈtalədē/
noun
noun: hospitality
the friendly and generous reception and entertainment of guests, visitors, or strangers.

[Anonymous]

This thread is so funny. I have LOL numerous times reading the ridiculous things people post. Thanks for the entertainment, DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Just ask for a glass of water or stay home. If I’m a guest at a dinner party I am grateful for the effort and the invitation. You sound like a pill and may be off the guest list the next time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Recently I was at a lovely dinner party where the host went to great lengths to provide lots of lovely food and wine.

But it's a huge pet peeve of mine when the host just has wine on the table and does not offer any other beverage for dinner (not even water). There were both wine and water glasses out but no water or other drink was ever offered.

I don't drink alcohol and had to ask the host for some water. But I wish there had been iced tea, lemonade or something other than boring water offered. I don't enjoy eating food when I have to wash it down with boring water. I do drink plenty of water but with meals I like something with some taste like iced tea. If I was eating dinner at a restaurant I would order iced tea or soda.

Everyone else just drank wine with no other beverage but even if you do drink alcohol I don't see how you can eat an entire meal and not have your thirst quenched. I need lots of liquid to wash down my food, water at least.

Anyone else have this same pet peeve? This happens nearly every time I'm invited to a dinner party. There is plenty of wine but non alcoholic beverages are always an afterthought and rarely, if ever, offered.

When I host a dinner party I provide wine but always have lemonade, cranberry juice, iced tea, water and sodas out as well on a separate table.

You had to bother a busy and frazzled host to ask for water, why? This seems extremely passive-aggressive to me. You can't go an hour or two without water? Grow up and cut the passive-aggressive 'hey everyone, did you know I am sober' attention craving routine. And I mean that very sincerely. You know exactly what you're doing. Good for you you're sober, stop tripping over yourself to shove it in everyone's face. Nobody cares and nobody has to cater to your every whim. Be gracious you were invited to a free dinner, don't get on a public forum and b**** after the fact. Classless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just ask for a glass of water or stay home. If I’m a guest at a dinner party I am grateful for the effort and the invitation. You sound like a pill and may be off the guest list the next time.

THANK YOU. +1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All you hosts should start offering Izzes

All you boring tee-totaling leeches can sit your butts home. It's not like you tee-totalers bring any humor or charm to the table anyways. Then you literally can't help yourself, you have to compulsively overtly or faux-coy brag that you're sober in EVERY social setting. Annoying buzzkills.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So many posters here sound like terrible hosts. Don't be grudge people who want something other than wine + your dirty tap water.

Most dinner parties that I go to end in whiskey and have beer for the guys

[Anonymous]

We offer wine/beer and water/seltzer. It wouldn’t cross my mind to offer lemonade to an adult nor to offer iced tea at dinner time, and we never stock sodas. As long as you can get yourself a glass of water, I fail to see the issue. I’m not whining because my tea that I typically drink at home in the evenings isn’t offered to me post dinner at a friend’s house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So many posters here sound like terrible hosts. Don't be grudge people who want something other than wine + your dirty tap water.

People who host are generally affluent. It's not like dinner parties are hosted in some 100 year old inner city school. Affluent people live in nice homes with pure water, modern plumbing and fixtures, and either via excellent muni and/or excellent muni plus an expensive home filtration system.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just say- “oh I’m just going to get some water” and use the sink. Why is this a big deal?

Because OP doesn't want 'boring old water'. She wants the host to provide a wide range of options for whatever beverage whim she is feeling. Heaven forbid she bring her own.

[Anonymous]

OMG I adored this thread the first time again, and I'm loving the trip down memory lane. Thank you for resurrecting it, whoever you are!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just say- “oh I’m just going to get some water” and use the sink. Why is this a big deal?

Because OP doesn't want 'boring old water'. She wants the host to provide a wide range of options for whatever beverage whim she is feeling. Heaven forbid she bring her own.

You know OP would get dragged if she said she brought her own drink to a dinner party, and rightfully so.