Son was called a monkey by a Hispanic child

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure how to say this in an inoffensive way but I’ll try . . .

It could very well be a cultural thing without any ill intent. Latinos simply do not have the same, shall we say, sensitivities when it comes to these kinds of things. They will refer to others in Spanish by references to race, weight, and other physical attributes and mean nothing of it. If your eyes are even slightly slanted, for example, your nickname will often be “Chino.” I could go on.

All I’m saying is that you really shouldn’t place much stock in what a 9 or 10 year old Salvadoran kid might say. It’s just a different way of thinking than native born Americans are accustomed to.

Yes, imported racism and colorism? Why does that fact that a Latino is being racist make it ok, just because as you say, it is part of their culture?

I’m not going to argue with you about this. I’m merely stating a fact about Latino culture from someone who knows it well. My point stands: there’s a different level of sensitivity in Latino culture when it comes to these things, and it doesn’t necessarily mean it’s a more racist or colorist culture in the pejorative sense.

It doesn't f* matter. The OP's child should not be exposed to racism because of whatever bs Latino sensitivity. It's ALL about OP and their child feelings.

You’re f- cultural sensitivity and understanding - it’s al me me me me me. Amirite

You're responding to a white European.

[Anonymous]

Team OP never would say what the consequences for the slur caller ought to be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Team OP never would say what the consequences for the slur caller ought to be.

Not OP but discipline means to teach. If OP doesnt bring it up to the teacher/admin and they dont bring it up to the family then how will the kid who used the slur and their family know not to say that here, regardless of their culture, they live in the US and shouldnt call a black child a monkey. Or 'mono', no matter how affectionately the term is in its 'root' culture.
If the kid who used 'monkey' as a slur knowingly used it as a slur then he and his family are being corrected and taught that it wont be tolerated.
Regardless it needs to be brought to their attention.

[Anonymous]

In her stand up routine Wanda Sykes joked that she can call her kids monkeys but her French wife can’t. It was very funny.

I’m white and absolutely have referred to my kids as little monkeys. I’d never say that about a black kid though because I know better.

We’re now 20 pages into this thread and OP has yet to come back and provide any context or follow up thoughts. Until she does, I’m not convinced that the boy who called her son a monkey had racist intent. I’m giving the benefit of the doubt here. I’m not saying he shouldn’t be talked to, gently, and have things explained to him. He definitely should. But I’m not going to label a 9 year old a racist without more context.

[Anonymous]

Is curious George racist? Obviously the man in the yellow hat is a poacher. What about monkeys jumping on the bed?

[Anonymous]

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A few other rude and racist slurs

Calling a White person a Cracker or a
Latino a Spic

Stop playing DUMB yallllll

My daughter in 6th grade had a mixed group of friends. A new girl came in and caused all kinds of trouble. She called one girl an ugly monkey. She didn’t say it to her face. There were two black boys who called my daughter, the only white girl in their friend circle, a cracker. The boys, stereotyping white girls being “goofy ass crackers” and them asking why would the other girls want to hang around with my daughter, that was hurtful.

The girl called a monkey is a mixture of races. The girl who said it had the same skin tone.

By middle school the bullies know what they are saying.

You are watching too many old episodes of the Jeffersons, imagining what you think black people are saying around the kitchen table. It is like when Obama was accused of calling someone a cracker and he said that is racists imagine what black people call white people.

What is the Jeffersons. And you screaming about the racism you see everywhere , you’ve got to be a troll. No one is that illogical. WTF does sitting around a table talking have to do with middle school kids in school being mean? Cracker is used in rap music and it’s on TikTok and every day language and who cares? It’s not the same as using the N word. So STFU already.

[Anonymous]

Here’s an old episode of The Jeffersons

https://youtu.be/jouShCwvweY

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
A few other rude and racist slurs

Calling a White person a Cracker or a
Latino a Spic

Stop playing DUMB yallllll

My daughter in 6th grade had a mixed group of friends. A new girl came in and caused all kinds of trouble. She called one girl an ugly monkey. She didn’t say it to her face. There were two black boys who called my daughter, the only white girl in their friend circle, a cracker. The boys, stereotyping white girls being “goofy ass crackers” and them asking why would the other girls want to hang around with my daughter, that was hurtful.

The girl called a monkey is a mixture of races. The girl who said it had the same skin tone.

By middle school the bullies know what they are saying.

You are watching too many old episodes of the Jeffersons, imagining what you think black people are saying around the kitchen table. It is like when Obama was accused of calling someone a cracker and he said that is racists imagine what black people call white people.

What is the Jeffersons. And you screaming about the racism you see everywhere , you’ve got to be a troll. No one is that illogical. WTF does sitting around a table talking have to do with middle school kids in school being mean? Cracker is used in rap music and it’s on TikTok and every day language and who cares? It’s not the same as using the N word. So STFU already.

Ok, you have no idea what "The Jeffersons" or what "kitchen table talk" means...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is curious George racist? Obviously the man in the yellow hat is a poacher. What about monkeys jumping on the bed?

It is racist to call a black person a monkey

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In her stand up routine Wanda Sykes joked that she can call her kids monkeys but her French wife can’t. It was very funny.

I’m white and absolutely have referred to my kids as little monkeys. I’d never say that about a black kid though because I know better.

We’re now 20 pages into this thread and OP has yet to come back and provide any context or follow up thoughts. Until she does, I’m not convinced that the boy who called her son a monkey had racist intent. I’m giving the benefit of the doubt here. I’m not saying he shouldn’t be talked to, gently, and have things explained to him. He definitely should. But I’m not going to label a 9 year old a racist without more context.

We don't have to give the boy the benefit of the doubt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Team OP never would say what the consequences for the slur caller ought to be.

That's not her problem its up to who she reports the incident to.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is curious George racist? Obviously the man in the yellow hat is a poacher. What about monkeys jumping on the bed?

It is racist to call a black person a monkey

Yes it is. Does the child understand racism.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
A few other rude and racist slurs

Calling a White person a Cracker or a
Latino a Spic

Stop playing DUMB yallllll

Latino is just as offensive as spic, really more so than spic, as spic is just short for Hispanic. Ironical huh?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Team OP never would say what the consequences for the slur caller ought to be.

Not OP but discipline means to teach. If OP doesnt bring it up to the teacher/admin and they dont bring it up to the family then how will the kid who used the slur and their family know not to say that here, regardless of their culture, they live in the US and shouldnt call a black child a monkey. Or 'mono', no matter how affectionately the term is in its 'root' culture.
If the kid who used 'monkey' as a slur knowingly used it as a slur then he and his family are being corrected and taught that it wont be tolerated.
Regardless it needs to be brought to their attention.

+1. It is a kindness to explain to the boy now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is curious George racist? Obviously the man in the yellow hat is a poacher. What about monkeys jumping on the bed?

It is racist to call a black person a monkey

Yes it is. Does the child understand racism.

You can sit and ponder that grand philosophical question meant to provide sympathy to the racist while telling the boy and mom offended to "calm down", while OP reports and I applaud her for doing so.