No kids weddings rant

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Anonymous wrote:I am actually laughing out loud at my desk to return to this thread this morning and learn that OP ELOPED!

(Also willing to bet no one thinks her kids are that cute at weddings, but that's another issue).

Was coming to say this, too. I don’t care what people say out loud about OP’s kids (it has to be nice or else you’re an asshole), I’d bet the farm that many in their heads were thinking “get that kid out from underfoot” or “ok we’ve admired your kids enough, it’s adult time now” or something along those lines.

And then posts like this show that there are aholes on both sides of this debate.

OP is full of herself, but if you see a kid at a wedding and get bent you are just as bad. They usually ARE cute and having fun and making family memories that will last forever. Some of my best childhood memories are the weddings I was able to attend (aunts and uncles).

People will plan a wedding, you will decide if you want to attend or not and try to show up and be happy and not be a sourpuss about ANYTHING, kids being there or kids being absent. I just can't with how mean everyone has to be about weddings, its really ridiculous.

No one is getting bent about the kids being there; they just aren't nearly as cute as the parents think they are (which is almost always true in pretty much any context). And when they are running around on the dance floor, it can be a bit dangerous for the kids.

Oh for god's sake. Show me the CDC list of children terribly injured at wedding dance parties please. You're being just as bad as OP. Family generally thinks the children they love are cute. If you don't, what do you gain by making sure the parents know you think their kids are ugly? That is not the spirit one should bring to any party, wedding or not.

PP, do you generally only ever speak in hyperbole?

There are many places where children shouldn’t or don’t need to be, even if they’re adorable.

I'm not the one who invoked the word 'dangerous' regarding kids attending weddings. Hyperbole thy name is the PP before me.

I think you're digging your heels in here and I'm not sure why - you truly do not see how a dance floor filled with dancing adults (who were probably drinking) could be dangerous for a younger kid? I am sure there are plenty of times when it's not dangerous at all depending on the number of guests, the size of the dance floor, how many people are dancing, the age and size of the kids.....but you can't admit that there are scenarios where it could be dangerous? Someone posted above about some parents being so intoxicated they FORGOT to pick up their kid from the babysitter. Would you want your 3 year old flower girl dancing at those peoples' feet?

Of course I am capable of coming up with a scenario where a child could be injured at a wedding. But its a red herring and you know it. Weddings are not dangerous. Just like any event with a lot of people, there is some risk. But just as you and PP insist that children being cute is not reason to make them attend, a dance floor being active and fun isn't a reason to keep them home.

I'm sure if there were a rash of bring-children-to-wedding-only-to-have-them-grievously-injured events all the anti kids at weddings folks would be citing it left and right.

Invite them if you want, don't if you don't want, no reason to come up with a convoluted justification that makes the other side seem like bad people.

Hahaha a dance floor being active and fun is a GREAT reason to leave kids at home but ok!

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Anonymous wrote:I am actually laughing out loud at my desk to return to this thread this morning and learn that OP ELOPED!

(Also willing to bet no one thinks her kids are that cute at weddings, but that's another issue).

Was coming to say this, too. I don’t care what people say out loud about OP’s kids (it has to be nice or else you’re an asshole), I’d bet the farm that many in their heads were thinking “get that kid out from underfoot” or “ok we’ve admired your kids enough, it’s adult time now” or something along those lines.

And then posts like this show that there are aholes on both sides of this debate.

OP is full of herself, but if you see a kid at a wedding and get bent you are just as bad. They usually ARE cute and having fun and making family memories that will last forever. Some of my best childhood memories are the weddings I was able to attend (aunts and uncles).

People will plan a wedding, you will decide if you want to attend or not and try to show up and be happy and not be a sourpuss about ANYTHING, kids being there or kids being absent. I just can't with how mean everyone has to be about weddings, its really ridiculous.

No one is getting bent about the kids being there; they just aren't nearly as cute as the parents think they are (which is almost always true in pretty much any context). And when they are running around on the dance floor, it can be a bit dangerous for the kids.

Oh for god's sake. Show me the CDC list of children terribly injured at wedding dance parties please. You're being just as bad as OP. Family generally thinks the children they love are cute. If you don't, what do you gain by making sure the parents know you think their kids are ugly? That is not the spirit one should bring to any party, wedding or not.

PP, do you generally only ever speak in hyperbole?

There are many places where children shouldn’t or don’t need to be, even if they’re adorable.

I'm not the one who invoked the word 'dangerous' regarding kids attending weddings. Hyperbole thy name is the PP before me.

I think you're digging your heels in here and I'm not sure why - you truly do not see how a dance floor filled with dancing adults (who were probably drinking) could be dangerous for a younger kid? I am sure there are plenty of times when it's not dangerous at all depending on the number of guests, the size of the dance floor, how many people are dancing, the age and size of the kids.....but you can't admit that there are scenarios where it could be dangerous? Someone posted above about some parents being so intoxicated they FORGOT to pick up their kid from the babysitter. Would you want your 3 year old flower girl dancing at those peoples' feet?

Of course I am capable of coming up with a scenario where a child could be injured at a wedding. But its a red herring and you know it. Weddings are not dangerous. Just like any event with a lot of people, there is some risk. But just as you and PP insist that children being cute is not reason to make them attend, a dance floor being active and fun isn't a reason to keep them home.

I'm sure if there were a rash of bring-children-to-wedding-only-to-have-them-grievously-injured events all the anti kids at weddings folks would be citing it left and right.

Invite them if you want, don't if you don't want, no reason to come up with a convoluted justification that makes the other side seem like bad people.

Hahaha a dance floor being active and fun is a GREAT reason to leave kids at home but ok!

For you. For some people its a great reason to bring them. Why does it have to be one or the other? Why can't different people have different preferences in peace?

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Anonymous wrote:I am actually laughing out loud at my desk to return to this thread this morning and learn that OP ELOPED!

(Also willing to bet no one thinks her kids are that cute at weddings, but that's another issue).

Was coming to say this, too. I don’t care what people say out loud about OP’s kids (it has to be nice or else you’re an asshole), I’d bet the farm that many in their heads were thinking “get that kid out from underfoot” or “ok we’ve admired your kids enough, it’s adult time now” or something along those lines.

And then posts like this show that there are aholes on both sides of this debate.

OP is full of herself, but if you see a kid at a wedding and get bent you are just as bad. They usually ARE cute and having fun and making family memories that will last forever. Some of my best childhood memories are the weddings I was able to attend (aunts and uncles).

People will plan a wedding, you will decide if you want to attend or not and try to show up and be happy and not be a sourpuss about ANYTHING, kids being there or kids being absent. I just can't with how mean everyone has to be about weddings, its really ridiculous.

No one is getting bent about the kids being there; they just aren't nearly as cute as the parents think they are (which is almost always true in pretty much any context). And when they are running around on the dance floor, it can be a bit dangerous for the kids.

Oh for god's sake. Show me the CDC list of children terribly injured at wedding dance parties please. You're being just as bad as OP. Family generally thinks the children they love are cute. If you don't, what do you gain by making sure the parents know you think their kids are ugly? That is not the spirit one should bring to any party, wedding or not.

PP, do you generally only ever speak in hyperbole?

There are many places where children shouldn’t or don’t need to be, even if they’re adorable.

I'm not the one who invoked the word 'dangerous' regarding kids attending weddings. Hyperbole thy name is the PP before me.

I think you're digging your heels in here and I'm not sure why - you truly do not see how a dance floor filled with dancing adults (who were probably drinking) could be dangerous for a younger kid? I am sure there are plenty of times when it's not dangerous at all depending on the number of guests, the size of the dance floor, how many people are dancing, the age and size of the kids.....but you can't admit that there are scenarios where it could be dangerous? Someone posted above about some parents being so intoxicated they FORGOT to pick up their kid from the babysitter. Would you want your 3 year old flower girl dancing at those peoples' feet?

Of course I am capable of coming up with a scenario where a child could be injured at a wedding. But its a red herring and you know it. Weddings are not dangerous. Just like any event with a lot of people, there is some risk. But just as you and PP insist that children being cute is not reason to make them attend, a dance floor being active and fun isn't a reason to keep them home.

I'm sure if there were a rash of bring-children-to-wedding-only-to-have-them-grievously-injured events all the anti kids at weddings folks would be citing it left and right.

Invite them if you want, don't if you don't want, no reason to come up with a convoluted justification that makes the other side seem like bad people.

Hahaha a dance floor being active and fun is a GREAT reason to leave kids at home but ok!

For you. For some people its a great reason to bring them. Why does it have to be one or the other? Why can't different people have different preferences in peace?

Of course they can have different preferences! Live and let live! You said, "a dance floor being active and fun isn't a reason to keep them home." I said it's a great reason to leave kids at home. So what you MEANT to say is that "a dance floor being active and fun isn't a reason to keep them home TO ME." See how that two-way street goes?

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Anonymous wrote:I am actually laughing out loud at my desk to return to this thread this morning and learn that OP ELOPED!

(Also willing to bet no one thinks her kids are that cute at weddings, but that's another issue).

Was coming to say this, too. I don’t care what people say out loud about OP’s kids (it has to be nice or else you’re an asshole), I’d bet the farm that many in their heads were thinking “get that kid out from underfoot” or “ok we’ve admired your kids enough, it’s adult time now” or something along those lines.

And then posts like this show that there are aholes on both sides of this debate.

OP is full of herself, but if you see a kid at a wedding and get bent you are just as bad. They usually ARE cute and having fun and making family memories that will last forever. Some of my best childhood memories are the weddings I was able to attend (aunts and uncles).

People will plan a wedding, you will decide if you want to attend or not and try to show up and be happy and not be a sourpuss about ANYTHING, kids being there or kids being absent. I just can't with how mean everyone has to be about weddings, its really ridiculous.

No one is getting bent about the kids being there; they just aren't nearly as cute as the parents think they are (which is almost always true in pretty much any context). And when they are running around on the dance floor, it can be a bit dangerous for the kids.

Oh for god's sake. Show me the CDC list of children terribly injured at wedding dance parties please. You're being just as bad as OP. Family generally thinks the children they love are cute. If you don't, what do you gain by making sure the parents know you think their kids are ugly? That is not the spirit one should bring to any party, wedding or not.

Let me try again. I never said kids in weddings are ugly, but you can read so you already know that. "Children are so cute in weddings!!!" is not a reason that people should have kids at weddings despite not wanting kids at their wedding, which is what OP is arguing. I had an adults-only wedding with the exception of my niece and nephew, who were the flower girl and ring bearer. *I* thought they were cute as hell, and while most of our guests smiled when they walked down the aisle, I bet very few of them thought twice about them or could pick them out of a lineup. Even though my family might think they [and now my son] are the cutest kids on earth, objectively they are not. I have never once left a wedding and thought, "ya know what just MADE that wedding? The adorable flower girl!" OP is acting like kids being adorable in weddings is justification for being MAD that her kids are not invited to weddings, and that is absurd. They just aren't THAT CUTE to make it some weird requirement.

And I'm sure that many children are not terribly injured at weddings, even though some are small enough to get trampled on a fun dance floor, because those children have parents. Parents who have to spend their night supervising their kids instead of letting loose and having fun. Which is why bringing kids to weddings is a pain.

I agree OP is entitled and obnoxious. I don't think people already on board with a kid-free wedding care that other people think kids are cute at a wedding so I don't understand your fervent need to educate them that children ARE NOT CUTE TO EVERYONE AT A WEDDING.

If you want kids there, have them, if you don't want kids there, don't have them. If you are attending a wedding, MYOB about kids being there or not being there. I invited kids to my wedding and some parents brought their children and some arranged for sitters. Everyone got to do what they wanted to do. A remarkable concept I know! But I know how complicated and personal weddings are and think that any decision that is made is fine so long as it is well and sensitively communicated.

The PP I was responding to (possibly you?) went out of their way to postulate that OP's kids are 'not cute'. So yes there is some air between that and 'ugly' but it seems like they were going for 'unappealing' in any context. The response to my post was also clearly about generic 'kids at weddings' not OP. So i responded in kind and then you responded to me with a long diatribe about OP's post, which was, at this point, not really what was being discussed. So don't get cute with me about being able to read. You are just moving the goalposts to suit your own argument.

All I'm saying is, 'be a nice and polite guest at weddings by accepting the event as planned and not mocking guests of any age'. If you feel the need to harp on that point, then I think it reflects pretty poorly on you.

Oh boy, what a ride - I am the poster you responded to. I said I was willing to be that OP's "kids are not that cute" at weddings. You missed the "that" and think I said OP's "kids are not cute." You base your entire argument on a misquote. My point is about OP being entitled and thinking her kids are sooooooo cute that they deserve to be invited to these weddings. My response is that I doubt they are THAT CUTE [that they deserve to be invited to these weddings]. Can this thread die now?

I was responding to you and the poster after you about your general tone of being nasty about kids. It took a sidebar about being cute when another poster made the same comment, which I felt was veiled. You and I think another poster said, 'kids are not as cute as their parents think' which implies that you don't think they are cute and their parents are wearing rose colored love glasses as they fawn over their adorable tykes. This is the kind of pedantic way people talk about kids in public that many people on this website use. Maybe you are less of a jerk in real life than you come off in your posts. I hope so!

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Anonymous wrote:I am actually laughing out loud at my desk to return to this thread this morning and learn that OP ELOPED!

(Also willing to bet no one thinks her kids are that cute at weddings, but that's another issue).

Was coming to say this, too. I don’t care what people say out loud about OP’s kids (it has to be nice or else you’re an asshole), I’d bet the farm that many in their heads were thinking “get that kid out from underfoot” or “ok we’ve admired your kids enough, it’s adult time now” or something along those lines.

And then posts like this show that there are aholes on both sides of this debate.

OP is full of herself, but if you see a kid at a wedding and get bent you are just as bad. They usually ARE cute and having fun and making family memories that will last forever. Some of my best childhood memories are the weddings I was able to attend (aunts and uncles).

People will plan a wedding, you will decide if you want to attend or not and try to show up and be happy and not be a sourpuss about ANYTHING, kids being there or kids being absent. I just can't with how mean everyone has to be about weddings, its really ridiculous.

No one is getting bent about the kids being there; they just aren't nearly as cute as the parents think they are (which is almost always true in pretty much any context). And when they are running around on the dance floor, it can be a bit dangerous for the kids.

Oh for god's sake. Show me the CDC list of children terribly injured at wedding dance parties please. You're being just as bad as OP. Family generally thinks the children they love are cute. If you don't, what do you gain by making sure the parents know you think their kids are ugly? That is not the spirit one should bring to any party, wedding or not.

PP, do you generally only ever speak in hyperbole?

There are many places where children shouldn’t or don’t need to be, even if they’re adorable.

I'm not the one who invoked the word 'dangerous' regarding kids attending weddings. Hyperbole thy name is the PP before me.

I think you're digging your heels in here and I'm not sure why - you truly do not see how a dance floor filled with dancing adults (who were probably drinking) could be dangerous for a younger kid? I am sure there are plenty of times when it's not dangerous at all depending on the number of guests, the size of the dance floor, how many people are dancing, the age and size of the kids.....but you can't admit that there are scenarios where it could be dangerous? Someone posted above about some parents being so intoxicated they FORGOT to pick up their kid from the babysitter. Would you want your 3 year old flower girl dancing at those peoples' feet?

Of course I am capable of coming up with a scenario where a child could be injured at a wedding. But its a red herring and you know it. Weddings are not dangerous. Just like any event with a lot of people, there is some risk. But just as you and PP insist that children being cute is not reason to make them attend, a dance floor being active and fun isn't a reason to keep them home.

I'm sure if there were a rash of bring-children-to-wedding-only-to-have-them-grievously-injured events all the anti kids at weddings folks would be citing it left and right.

Invite them if you want, don't if you don't want, no reason to come up with a convoluted justification that makes the other side seem like bad people.

Hahaha a dance floor being active and fun is a GREAT reason to leave kids at home but ok!

For you. For some people its a great reason to bring them. Why does it have to be one or the other? Why can't different people have different preferences in peace?

Of course they can have different preferences! Live and let live! You said, "a dance floor being active and fun isn't a reason to keep them home." I said it's a great reason to leave kids at home. So what you MEANT to say is that "a dance floor being active and fun isn't a reason to keep them home TO ME." See how that two-way street goes?

You guys keep reframing the argument in your posts like the posts before it didn't exist. My comment about it not being a reason to keep them home was in direct response to a side bar about how dance floors are dangerous. Not about whether or not its fun.

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Anonymous wrote:I am actually laughing out loud at my desk to return to this thread this morning and learn that OP ELOPED!

(Also willing to bet no one thinks her kids are that cute at weddings, but that's another issue).

Was coming to say this, too. I don’t care what people say out loud about OP’s kids (it has to be nice or else you’re an asshole), I’d bet the farm that many in their heads were thinking “get that kid out from underfoot” or “ok we’ve admired your kids enough, it’s adult time now” or something along those lines.

And then posts like this show that there are aholes on both sides of this debate.

OP is full of herself, but if you see a kid at a wedding and get bent you are just as bad. They usually ARE cute and having fun and making family memories that will last forever. Some of my best childhood memories are the weddings I was able to attend (aunts and uncles).

People will plan a wedding, you will decide if you want to attend or not and try to show up and be happy and not be a sourpuss about ANYTHING, kids being there or kids being absent. I just can't with how mean everyone has to be about weddings, its really ridiculous.

No one is getting bent about the kids being there; they just aren't nearly as cute as the parents think they are (which is almost always true in pretty much any context). And when they are running around on the dance floor, it can be a bit dangerous for the kids.

Oh for god's sake. Show me the CDC list of children terribly injured at wedding dance parties please. You're being just as bad as OP. Family generally thinks the children they love are cute. If you don't, what do you gain by making sure the parents know you think their kids are ugly? That is not the spirit one should bring to any party, wedding or not.

PP, do you generally only ever speak in hyperbole?

There are many places where children shouldn’t or don’t need to be, even if they’re adorable.

I'm not the one who invoked the word 'dangerous' regarding kids attending weddings. Hyperbole thy name is the PP before me.

I think you're digging your heels in here and I'm not sure why - you truly do not see how a dance floor filled with dancing adults (who were probably drinking) could be dangerous for a younger kid? I am sure there are plenty of times when it's not dangerous at all depending on the number of guests, the size of the dance floor, how many people are dancing, the age and size of the kids.....but you can't admit that there are scenarios where it could be dangerous? Someone posted above about some parents being so intoxicated they FORGOT to pick up their kid from the babysitter. Would you want your 3 year old flower girl dancing at those peoples' feet?

Of course I am capable of coming up with a scenario where a child could be injured at a wedding. But its a red herring and you know it. Weddings are not dangerous. Just like any event with a lot of people, there is some risk. But just as you and PP insist that children being cute is not reason to make them attend, a dance floor being active and fun isn't a reason to keep them home.

I'm sure if there were a rash of bring-children-to-wedding-only-to-have-them-grievously-injured events all the anti kids at weddings folks would be citing it left and right.

Invite them if you want, don't if you don't want, no reason to come up with a convoluted justification that makes the other side seem like bad people.

Hahaha a dance floor being active and fun is a GREAT reason to leave kids at home but ok!

For you. For some people its a great reason to bring them. Why does it have to be one or the other? Why can't different people have different preferences in peace?

Of course they can have different preferences! Live and let live! You said, "a dance floor being active and fun isn't a reason to keep them home." I said it's a great reason to leave kids at home. So what you MEANT to say is that "a dance floor being active and fun isn't a reason to keep them home TO ME." See how that two-way street goes?

You guys keep reframing the argument in your posts like the posts before it didn't exist. My comment about it not being a reason to keep them home was in direct response to a side bar about how dance floors are dangerous. Not about whether or not its fun.

You can't keep saying "Let people do what they want but BE NICE" and then criticize other people for having different opinions than you. You can't keep misquoting things and then getting mad when your argument doesn't work. Go back to law school.

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Anonymous wrote:I am actually laughing out loud at my desk to return to this thread this morning and learn that OP ELOPED!

(Also willing to bet no one thinks her kids are that cute at weddings, but that's another issue).

Was coming to say this, too. I don’t care what people say out loud about OP’s kids (it has to be nice or else you’re an asshole), I’d bet the farm that many in their heads were thinking “get that kid out from underfoot” or “ok we’ve admired your kids enough, it’s adult time now” or something along those lines.

And then posts like this show that there are aholes on both sides of this debate.

OP is full of herself, but if you see a kid at a wedding and get bent you are just as bad. They usually ARE cute and having fun and making family memories that will last forever. Some of my best childhood memories are the weddings I was able to attend (aunts and uncles).

People will plan a wedding, you will decide if you want to attend or not and try to show up and be happy and not be a sourpuss about ANYTHING, kids being there or kids being absent. I just can't with how mean everyone has to be about weddings, its really ridiculous.

No one is getting bent about the kids being there; they just aren't nearly as cute as the parents think they are (which is almost always true in pretty much any context). And when they are running around on the dance floor, it can be a bit dangerous for the kids.

Oh for god's sake. Show me the CDC list of children terribly injured at wedding dance parties please. You're being just as bad as OP. Family generally thinks the children they love are cute. If you don't, what do you gain by making sure the parents know you think their kids are ugly? That is not the spirit one should bring to any party, wedding or not.

PP, do you generally only ever speak in hyperbole?

There are many places where children shouldn’t or don’t need to be, even if they’re adorable.

I'm not the one who invoked the word 'dangerous' regarding kids attending weddings. Hyperbole thy name is the PP before me.

I think you're digging your heels in here and I'm not sure why - you truly do not see how a dance floor filled with dancing adults (who were probably drinking) could be dangerous for a younger kid? I am sure there are plenty of times when it's not dangerous at all depending on the number of guests, the size of the dance floor, how many people are dancing, the age and size of the kids.....but you can't admit that there are scenarios where it could be dangerous? Someone posted above about some parents being so intoxicated they FORGOT to pick up their kid from the babysitter. Would you want your 3 year old flower girl dancing at those peoples' feet?

Of course I am capable of coming up with a scenario where a child could be injured at a wedding. But its a red herring and you know it. Weddings are not dangerous. Just like any event with a lot of people, there is some risk. But just as you and PP insist that children being cute is not reason to make them attend, a dance floor being active and fun isn't a reason to keep them home.

I'm sure if there were a rash of bring-children-to-wedding-only-to-have-them-grievously-injured events all the anti kids at weddings folks would be citing it left and right.

Invite them if you want, don't if you don't want, no reason to come up with a convoluted justification that makes the other side seem like bad people.

Hahaha a dance floor being active and fun is a GREAT reason to leave kids at home but ok!

For you. For some people its a great reason to bring them. Why does it have to be one or the other? Why can't different people have different preferences in peace?

Of course they can have different preferences! Live and let live! You said, "a dance floor being active and fun isn't a reason to keep them home." I said it's a great reason to leave kids at home. So what you MEANT to say is that "a dance floor being active and fun isn't a reason to keep them home TO ME." See how that two-way street goes?

You guys keep reframing the argument in your posts like the posts before it didn't exist. My comment about it not being a reason to keep them home was in direct response to a side bar about how dance floors are dangerous. Not about whether or not its fun.

You can't keep saying "Let people do what they want but BE NICE" and then criticize other people for having different opinions than you. You can't keep misquoting things and then getting mad when your argument doesn't work. Go back to law school.

Ok pot.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m over it. People can do what they want and I can go or not go, and I am not going to feel bad if kids weren’t invited and I can’t go.

I will say one side of my family didn’t invite kids historically, but then I invited kids to my wedding and they thought it was so nice that now they have started to invite kids.

This. I missed so many kid-free vacations and weddings. I had the first kid and first divorce, they didn't hold my hand, so screw it. I am kid-free at this nest wedding and I am not going to want to talk about my kid or theirs.

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I am generally in favor of kids at weddings but it being the couple's choice and won't complain.

However, I do think I have a legitimate gripe at my uncle, who pushed the whole family to book lodging early (before the invites for my cousin's wedding went out!) because the hotels were filling up, and the best we could find for our family of 4 was a non-refundable AirBNB - and only after we booked did they come back to tell us kids weren't allowed at the reception. Grr.

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Anonymous wrote:I couldn’t read all of this but I have a funny story. Last summer my two teenage daughters were asked by the bride’s family to come to the venue to babysit some kids upstairs in a game room type place while the wedding went on downstairs. The guests were going to pay them. One family checked in on their kid periodically and then paid my daughter at the end of the night. Later, about 30 minutes after the wedding was over, my other daughter called and was scared. She said the wedding was over and in fact the staff was almost done cleaning for that night and was turning out the lights. She looked for the parents and they were no where. I called the venue and got the manager. The guests were so drunk, they left their crying baby at the wedding and left. They had to be called and I came down there. When the mom arrived, hammered, she tried to carry her baby down the stairs and he fell back over her arm but my kid caught him. It was so bad and they never paid my daughter for the 8 hours of babysitting that night!! I did contact the mother of the bride later and she paid her about two months later. Never again!

Wow I don’t think that’s a funny story at all. I feel terrible for that poor baby. I hope you guys didn’t let this falling-down-drunk woman who almost dropped her baby drive anywhere.

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She did not drive. They were staying in rooms at the club. She just stumbled over when they called her. I did feel really sorry for the baby. She didn’t even leave him a diaper bag or any bottle or food at the beginning of the night and presumably she was sober then. Other parents gave her diapers and the club gave her a bottle to feed the baby, who was crying a lot. I shouldn’t have used funny, I really meant outrageous. The family was the cousin of the bride.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wish people would get over themselves and invite kids to their weddings. The past 2 weddings we’ve been invited to are kid-free, both family - DH’s cousin and sister. We have to travel for both of them. We decided to just send DH to his cousin’s, and we will suck it up for his sister’s and have my parents watch our 9, 6 & 3 year old. I know “it’s their wedding they can do whatever they want” but I don’t get it - no ring bearer or flower girls, no cute kids on the dance floor. Weddings are supposed to be about family coming together. Okay. Rant over.

My MIL was like this. I got tired of hearing how other people wanted my wedding to be and got married over-seas. People could come if they paid their way. I was perfectly fine with no one coming. Problem solved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wish people would get over themselves and invite kids to their weddings. The past 2 weddings we’ve been invited to are kid-free, both family - DH’s cousin and sister. We have to travel for both of them. We decided to just send DH to his cousin’s, and we will suck it up for his sister’s and have my parents watch our 9, 6 & 3 year old. I know “it’s their wedding they can do whatever they want” but I don’t get it - no ring bearer or flower girls, no cute kids on the dance floor. Weddings are supposed to be about family coming together. Okay. Rant over.

My MIL was like this. I got tired of hearing how other people wanted my wedding to be and got married over-seas. People could come if they paid their way. I was perfectly fine with no one coming. Problem solved.

I don’t understand this attitude. Is every party you host this way? You don’t care about whether or not your guests are comfortable or if anyone comes?

We had our wedding within driving distance of most of our guests, near a hotel that was nice, but also affordable, at a venue that was handicapped accessible for my grandmother.

[Anonymous]

Those of you who want to bring your kids to weddings- what time are your kids going to bed?! Most weddings go until 11 or 12. I seriously don't want to see cranky kids at a wedding that late. And it's exceptionally rude to leave wedding at 8pm. I just don't see the appeal of kids at weddings. Maybe it's okay at the actual wedding, but no kids at receptions please!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wish people would get over themselves and invite kids to their weddings. The past 2 weddings we’ve been invited to are kid-free, both family - DH’s cousin and sister. We have to travel for both of them. We decided to just send DH to his cousin’s, and we will suck it up for his sister’s and have my parents watch our 9, 6 & 3 year old. I know “it’s their wedding they can do whatever they want” but I don’t get it - no ring bearer or flower girls, no cute kids on the dance floor. Weddings are supposed to be about family coming together. Okay. Rant over.

My MIL was like this. I got tired of hearing how other people wanted my wedding to be and got married over-seas. People could come if they paid their way. I was perfectly fine with no one coming. Problem solved.

I don’t understand this attitude. Is every party you host this way? You don’t care about whether or not your guests are comfortable or if anyone comes?

We had our wedding within driving distance of most of our guests, near a hotel that was nice, but also affordable, at a venue that was handicapped accessible for my grandmother.

Our families live across the US. The majority of both families live either a 3 hour plane flight or a 6 hour plane flight away from us. We had the wedding where we live, the DC area. Both families had to travel. The good news is both families were capable of traveling so this wasn't an issue. We invited the kids of family members, because we knew that they would have traveled and we wanted to have our families there.

Not everyone lives close to their family. Not everyone has the same priorities that you do for a wedding. Why is it that is so hard for people to understand?

And yes, our venue was handicap accessible. I think that is pretty much a legal requirement now anyway. The hotel was affordable and we provided a bus for people to get to the venue from the hotel because we didn't want people to drive drunk.