Grey divorces

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The couples I see divorcing after 20 or 30 years of marriage are not in a miserable marriage. They just have grown apart (different interests, want more "freemdom", want to be open for a new relationship ...).

Lol. Of course after the marriage fails they grow apart, but that ain’t why the marriage failed in the first place.

Cliches like that suit you well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's common except the stuggle part.

The gray divorces I know (at least the women) are all financially secure and more than happy being single.

I think they ones that would face financial and emotion struggle are just white knuckling it and staying.

- Women (often) get alimony and 50% of "marital assets", even if husband killed himself in big law while she was at the club (and au pair was shuttling the kids). Less provocatively, he was the primary earner in a stressful job while she enjoyed lower paying but more relaxed employment, yet...
- he loses half his net worth and -- critically -- retirement $$ at 60+, with little time to claw it back
- women are typically more social and have broader friend / support networks
- when good men marry, they (should) "grow up" and focus on family, and on work to provide for them. They lose track of partying friends and rely on work relationships that end at retirement. They may chat with their wife's friends' husbands, but that ends with divorce.
- Today's culture says "you go girl! you don't need the no stinkin' patrimony"

Woman here, not divorced but here is what my matrimonial attorney said to me years ago -
"Well, you married him."
That's the essential heart of the matter, one chose this spouse so one has to deal with it.
Someone with a long and successful marriage said years ago regarding his kids - I don't care who they are having sex with. Who they marry is far more important than that. Marriage will have a big impact on your life.

Weird.

Sounds like you lucked out, since you clearly know no one close to you in $hitty marriages to $hitty “partners.”

[Anonymous]

Lol gross

[Anonymous]

I like grey hair. Most women look better with it. The blonde dye jobs usually look awful. Even the expensive blonde dye jobs that celebrities and other rich women get. I do know q few grey women who get blonde streaks in their hair. They look ok. Still mostly grey.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ladies, it's been said that to keep a man happy, you need to do 2 things

1. Keep his belly full.

2. Keep his balls empty.

That doesn't end when the kids are out of the house or you turn 50 years old or 60 or 70.

Keeping your marriage together is easy, if you want to.

This is so not true. Especially if you marry a narcissist. Get over yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ladies, it's been said that to keep a man happy, you need to do 2 things

1. Keep his belly full.

2. Keep his balls empty.

That doesn't end when the kids are out of the house or you turn 50 years old or 60 or 70.

Keeping your marriage together is easy, if you want to.

This is so not true. Especially if you marry a narcissist. Get over yourself.

Usually it’s the women wanting out!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The couples I see divorcing after 20 or 30 years of marriage are not in a miserable marriage. They just have grown apart (different interests, want more "freemdom", want to be open for a new relationship ...).

They were miserable but they stuck it out for the kids, and when the kids left the nest, they asked themselves, what do I want to do with whatever is left of my life? Definitely not waste anymore years in a bad marriage.