So your version of “is it real/worth it” involves what your boss thinks about it? Huh. Cool. |
So your response to: people are harassing this girl- is - ?? |
Every single time I talk to girls it’s this fun. |
Did OP ever say how old the girl is? If she's a younger teen, then this is a real problem (assuming the people asking are older than her) because the age of consent in VA is 18. She clearly needs to find a different job. If she's 18 or over, then she really needs to be able to deal with that firmly and know how to stand up for herself, or talk to the manager, if a customer won't take no for an answer. |
You are clearly not a lawyer. These things are always based on a reasonable person standard. One person claiming harassment does not magically make it so. Petty slights, annoyances, and isolated incidents (unless extremely serious) will not rise to the level of illegality. To be unlawful, the conduct must create a work environment that would be intimidating, hostile, or offensive to reasonable people.https://www.eeoc.gov/harassment |
Np. The alternative might be for mom to possibly just come with her DD to work, and when this happens she could intervene to speak directly with these creeps face to face! |
This is not the job for her.
I see older divorced women hit on young men in these situations all the time. The concentration part…. huge part of working in a restaurant ( yes I have worked in one) is social interaction and being able to adapt. Getting hit on, complaining customers, bratty children are all part of the job. If these types of things can “break your concentration” this is not the job for you. |
Also asking for someone’s number is not a pervert or inappropriate. This is a normal social interaction. Say no thank you or sorry not interested. If you don’t give an answer they might keep asking.
Any touching is NOT appropriate and is when you need a manager. |
I remember that Ask a Manager letter about their scheduling chatbot getting hit on.
https://www.askamanager.org/2024/01/men-are-hitting-on-my-scheduling-bot-because-it-has-a-womans-name.html Unfortunately this is something you end up dealing with, it sucks, but it's reality. I'm a government attorney in a very standard field and have been hit on (and harassed) by members of the public just over business phone calls. One of my colleagues was sent dick picks. Our office had to institute rules banning communication from members of the public who a use communications (harder to do because it's a public job). Her employer should have standards for patrons that cross the line and she needs to practice formulating a response. |
She said that her daughter is 17, and the men hitting on her are in their mid-twenties. |
Not While They’re Working |
Ugh found the pervert again. 17 is underage. Sorry you’re attracted to children but you need to calm down. |
Huh??? 20 somethings are grown men. What the actual fucc is wrong with you? |
Harassing a teen girl at her job is inappropriate. You need to stop. |
If you are hitting on a teen girl while she’s waiting your table, you’re harassing her. It does not need to involve touching. Please stop harassing children because you’re creepily attracted to them. |