When you're at a dinner party and there's only wine, no other drinks

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Anonymous wrote:What do the must have only wine with nice day dinner say to Morman or Muslim guests who don't drink? Or do you not invite them?

My friends are not observant.

Mormons don't drink most of these other things like tea or soda anyway due to caffeine.

Mormons LOVE soda! They can have caffeine. They cannot have HOT drinks like coffee or tea.

Oh!! I'm that PP and didn't actually know that. I thought their concern with coffee/tea was caffeine. Thanks for educating me.

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Anonymous wrote:Now that soda is pretty unpopular, I don’t stock it unless we’re having some kind of BBQ. For a dinner party, I’d certainly offer people water, beer, wine, or coffee/tea, but it’s unlikely that I’ll have something like lemonade on hand unless there are children.

We always offer flat and sparkling water, but I don’t consider soda and lemonade adult dinner drinks.

Amen. Water, sparkling water, and wine is what you will find at my dinner table. During cocktail hour, I certainly offer more--soda, juice, etc., along with beer and other alcoholic beverages.

Lemonade and iced tea are for BBQs and casual pizza dinners, not formal dinner parties. Unless you are 8.

But why is soda and juice ok for cocktail hour but not for a dinner? I truly don't understand this. I'm an adult who doesn't like water and doesn't drink alcohol. When I eat dinner either at home or at a restaurant I either have soda or juice. I know sugary drinks aren't good but I don't eat dessert/sweets and I don't smoke/drink alcohol, so I figure it's ok. I just find that if I only drink water the food just doesn't taste appealing and I have very little appetite.

Because for formal dinners, wine or water is meant to enhance--or at least not distract from--the flavors of the food. That's what wine pairings are all about. Making a beautiful filet mignon only to have someone bring Diet Coke to the table is tacky--it just lowers the level of formalitly that your host was trying to achieve. Again, for a pizza dinner, soda is fine; but not for formal dining.

Given that the head chef of the Michelin star restaurant where I worked during college would always drink Diet Coke with his dinners (including when he invited us to his home and cooked amazing food) I’m OK with folks drinking that with a dinner I prepare.

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I would only serve iced tea with a brunch or lunch. Who drinks ice tea at night?

Lemonade is a kid drink. I am sure you can suffer through one meal with water. Or bring a water bottle filled with your fruit punch and no one will know.

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Anonymous wrote:Related question: why don't many of you have other options in the house other than wine/beef, coffee/tea and water? Why don't you drink other types of beverages? Yes they're sugary and not healthy but how is this different than keeping cookies/pastries/cupcakes/ice cream in the house?

I don't keep desserts in the house, either. If I want a treat it will be something I can chew. I bought OJ for my boyfriend and haven't had any of it. I would rather eat an orange.

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Anonymous wrote:What do the must have only wine with nice day dinner say to Morman or Muslim guests who don't drink? Or do you not invite them?

My friends are not observant.

Mormons don't drink most of these other things like tea or soda anyway due to caffeine.

Mormons LOVE soda! They can have caffeine. They cannot have HOT drinks like coffee or tea.

Makes sense.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's ok to have only one alcohol choice like... I have friends over and we have wine. But I also always have (and offer) filtered water, various seltzers, other non alcoholic choices. I'd be annoyed if someone expected I had a bar. I can't make you a vodka soda in a short glass three lemons, carcass out (iykyk).

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's ok to have only one alcohol choice like... I have friends over and we have wine. But I also always have (and offer) filtered water, various seltzers, other non alcoholic choices. I'd be annoyed if someone expected I had a bar. I can't make you a vodka soda in a short glass three lemons, carcass out (iykyk).

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I will pick out a wine for dinner. I also often have a theme cocktail. If someone wants something else, I point them to the bar cart and let them know I have soda and tonic, and to have at it.

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And I wish there was a full bar so I could order an espresso martini. Get over it! Wine and water are the two staples anyway. Unless it's a kid's party, no one is going to put out jugs of lemonade! OMG...

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This website hade me realize how many truly crazy people there are in the world. Thinking that soda "compliments the taste of fancy dishes" and wine coolers are acceptable to be served at a fancy dinner party? It's just so... eye opening.

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Anonymous wrote:There should be still and sparkling water or is this a trailer home

Omg cracked me up.

Obviously not offering water was an oversight. It's asking a lot of the host to have all sorts of other options available too though.

Seriously? They should plan and spend $$$ to buy the right wine, but shouldn’t spend even a minute for guests who don’t drink? If I go to a dinner or party and am sent to the sink to get a drink, I definitely remember that. Really poor hosts.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's ok to have only one alcohol choice like... I have friends over and we have wine. But I also always have (and offer) filtered water, various seltzers, other non alcoholic choices. I'd be annoyed if someone expected I had a bar. I can't make you a vodka soda in a short glass three lemons, carcass out (iykyk).

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I will pick out a wine for dinner. I also often have a theme cocktail. If someone wants something else, I point them to the bar cart and let them know I have soda and tonic, and to have at it.

Yes, this is the point… you spend time and effort planning for drinkers, but you don’t plan a mocktail or anything remotely interesting for non drinkers. Hosting means that you think about the comfort and enjoyment of your guests. What if you came to my house for dinner and I offered only tap water with no wine? I bet you’d be on DCUM complaining…

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Anonymous wrote:Now that soda is pretty unpopular, I don’t stock it unless we’re having some kind of BBQ. For a dinner party, I’d certainly offer people water, beer, wine, or coffee/tea, but it’s unlikely that I’ll have something like lemonade on hand unless there are children.

We always offer flat and sparkling water, but I don’t consider soda and lemonade adult dinner drinks.

This. So weird of op to expect it.

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more people are crappy hosts than are good hosts,

They prefer a hey look at me everyone vs making sure everyone is taken care of.

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We host all the time. We have 2-3 types of wine, flat and sparkling water, diet coke, and some type of other non alcoholic drink. Between friends with health issues, friends trying to cut back on drinking, or various other reasons, there is always at least one person not drinking. I've never cared what people drink. I can't imagine judging someone for having lemonade.

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