At what age would you end opposite-sex sleepovers?

[Anonymous]

No sharing of bed beyond 9 or so and probably good idea to have separate rooms. Girls start puberty earlier and 10yo could be on her period and stains on sheets they would need some privacy.

[Anonymous]

I’m in Camp “Would-Never-Have-Started-This.”

To quote When Harry Met Sally—
“I never wanted anyone to say to me…’How come you never take me to the airport anymore?’…which is why I never take someone to the airport at the beginning of a relationship.” 🤪

Same principle here. If you don’t start it, you never have to figure out when to stop it.

[Anonymous]

Hate to break it to y’all…but girls are experimenting with each other at sleepovers as early as 9-10. The difference, I would argue, is they can’t get each other pregnant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
10 year old DS's best friend is a girl. I think her mother has put the lid on sleepovers, since he wasn't invited to the last one.

I was a bit surprised, as none of these kids are near physical or psychological puberty.

Oh well. I guess it's societal pressure.

You don't know what her daughter is doing puberty-wise. My daughter is 10 and her doctor said she'd probably get her period within a year.

[Anonymous]

My son is in 5th grade, his best buddy is a girl he's known since they were in daycare together, they're like siblings. They still have regular sleepovers together. But similarly to PP we're both keeping a close eye out for issues and have put in additional rules, the main one being they now have to sleep in separate rooms (they slept in the same bed till 2nd grade and the same room till this year). They'll probably stop altogether once they start middle school.

[Anonymous]

13 yo son's best friend is his "sister" a girl he's known since they were 2. They used to have sleepovers all the time. They don't happen anymore for obvious reasons but we will still allow the occasional sleep under were they'll hang out at each other's house till about 10 - 11pm then go home for bed. She's our neighbor and our families are very close so they're easy to arrange and monitor.

[Anonymous]

My 11 year old DD has been to a few, and I don't really mind the coed sleepovers given some parent ground rules. I prefer a bunch of kids as opposed to only 2 or 3 kids. The girls generally sleep in the same area and the boys sleep in the same area. Everyone is sleeping in sleeping bags on the floor, which I also prefer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would never have allowed this

+1. Looks too much like inviting trouble.

If you are wondering, OP - it’s time to stop.

Mom of 3DS

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
10 year old DS's best friend is a girl. I think her mother has put the lid on sleepovers, since he wasn't invited to the last one.

I was a bit surprised, as none of these kids are near physical or psychological puberty.

Oh well. I guess it's societal pressure.

You don't know what her daughter is doing puberty-wise. My daughter is 10 and her doctor said she'd probably get her period within a year.

+1 I have an almost 11yo 5th grader and they all look like little kids but several of her classmates have already have started period but the boys they are still immature and play rough and tumble which is not a good fit with the girls.

[Anonymous]

10 year old son and his girl BFF still have regular sleepovers, and they're not stopping any time soon. More precautions will be put in place as they get older.