BF's ex gf shows up as my "people you may know" on FB

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not OP but sometimes I have ZERO friends in common and people still show up.

I literally have zero fb friends and I never/have never looked anyone or anything up on fb. The people you may know tab has easily 1,000 people listed. Scrolling through it, I see people who have the same last name as people in the 2 groups I belong to. I see people who are in similar types of groups to the 2 groups I'm in. I see no one I actually know irl. My fb name is a pseudonym and my profile picture is nondescript. My page has never been updated. Why am I on fb?

[Anonymous]

You have the BF in common.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's bad. I thought the whole point of FB was that no one would know who you look at. If you show up in people you may know just for looking at their profile, that kind defeats the whole point. Now I regret looking up anyone I'm not friends with--- happens often.

Where in the world did you get this idea?

[Anonymous]

You have friends in common. You would be surprised how personal networks intersect.

[Anonymous]

It definitely does not have to mean that they've looked at your profile.

I keep getting 'People You May Know' for a young neighbor who passed away a few months ago in an accident. I wish it would stop.

[Anonymous]

You searched for her profile, obviously.

[Anonymous]

Facebook can be considered dangerous and a time suck for several reasons. Firstly, it can contribute to a loss of productivity and time as users may get absorbed in scrolling through the endless feed of content. Moreover, the platform is designed to be addictive, encouraging prolonged usage.

Concerns about privacy and data security have also arisen, as Facebook has faced controversies related to the mishandling of user data. The platform's algorithms can create echo chambers, reinforcing existing beliefs and limiting exposure to diverse perspectives.

Lastly, excessive use of social media, including Facebook, has been linked to negative mental health outcomes, such as anxiety and depression. It's essential for users to be mindful of their online habits and consider the potential impacts on their well-being.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Either you or her or both of you searched each other.

That’s not necessarily true. I have seen plenty of people as “suggested” friends based on mutual acquaintances when I am confident neither of us searched for the other.

[Anonymous]

My "people you may know" have included exes and other random people from my past because they were in my phone or email contacts. Also anyone with mutual friends and people who have checked into the same places.

[Anonymous]

It could be searches off Facebook. Like you both looked the same Yelp review, or looked up movie times, plus you each have a friend in common or she’s in a group your friend is in. It’s weird stuff.

[Anonymous]

My clients often show up. Folks that I don’t think are searching for me. It’s phone proximity and multiple visit location. You could use the same dry cleaner or have similar Ubereats orders.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Facebook can be considered dangerous and a time suck for several reasons. Firstly, it can contribute to a loss of productivity and time as users may get absorbed in scrolling through the endless feed of content. Moreover, the platform is designed to be addictive, encouraging prolonged usage.

Concerns about privacy and data security have also arisen, as Facebook has faced controversies related to the mishandling of user data. The platform's algorithms can create echo chambers, reinforcing existing beliefs and limiting exposure to diverse perspectives.

Lastly, excessive use of social media, including Facebook, has been linked to negative mental health outcomes, such as anxiety and depression. It's essential for users to be mindful of their online habits and consider the potential impacts on their well-being.

You've highlighted several valid concerns about Facebook, including its impact on productivity, addictive design, privacy issues, potential for creating echo chambers, and effects on mental health.

Being aware of these aspects and using social media mindfully is indeed crucial for a balanced online experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it can also do with email addresses if either of you or the ex allowed Facebook access to your email address book. An ex boyfriend looked at my LinkedIn profile and his new wife started showing up in my people you might know on Facebook even though we are not otherwise linked. Weird.

+1 I’ve never allowed Facebook to do this but clearly other people I email have, because my tenants show up as people I may know and there’s no other connection.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think sometimes it’s also that you were near them for awhile. Like our lawn guy showed up
In mine. I doubt he looked me up so it’s probably that our phones are active at the same time near each other.

But also yes, you have mutual friends or she’s been peeping on you too. Everyone does it.

My lawn guy also shows up as people I may know. Until this thread, I didn’t know it was based partly on proximity. I just figured it was email/phone contacts and mutual friends.

[Anonymous]

She looked at your profile