Private school or trust fund

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I care about the formation of my kids' characters, minds, and hearts. Cold hard cash will form them, but not in a way I value.

Lol character and hearts are formed at home. You don’t have to send kids to private school for that.

Yes, but not JUST at home. I don't understand why people can't accept that since kids are at school for 6.5 hours per day (more if they do before or after care), the kids are shaped and affected by that environment. Of course a school's values and of course the peer group's values matter to character formation. Why wouldn't they?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:One of my kids is a high achiever and profoundly gifted, so trust fund. They literally teach themself by reading, observing and asking a million questions. They learned multiplication and division in kindergarten by begging for math story problems at bedtime. The other is average and needs the advantages of a better peer group and smaller classes, so private.

I agree with this. If you have a very bright kid, it does not matter where they go. They will seek resources and thrive in most places. Private is best for average and above average kid.

We have a bright kid who tests very highly and grasps new info well, but unfortunately is very very VERY influenced by peer group. That meant he was coasting through public and spend most of his school time learning from other students' behaviors. We put him in private and he still copies other students' behaviors, but more of them are in line with what we want for him. Public school had a lot of nice kids and we met so many nice families, but the rudeness, low-class behaviors and language, and actual violence of too many of the kids made us leave. Similarly, we had some nice and caring teachers in public, but too many had a "school is jail" mentality and just leaned on apps and learning videos. We picked a private with a traditional curriculum that is writing heavy and he is thriving.

[Anonymous]

You and your spouse have a HUGE role in your child's character development. I would never leave that up to teachers. That is not their job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You and your spouse have a HUGE role in your child's character development. I would never leave that up to teachers. That is not their job.

Nobody suggested that. However, your kids spend a lot of time in the classroom and are influenced by their peers. I’m not sure you realize how bad behavior has become at some public schools. It is best not to expose your kids to that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How much would the tuition and fees you spend k-12 be worth at graduation if held in a trust fund that held S&P. What would it be worth when they retire?

If the value of private over public worth giving up that retirement account for your kids?

Absolutely not

Especially in Trumps economic fails

Public til it’s completely destroyed by Don the con and his sycophants

Then use the money to survive

They are coming for maximum pain the more you have saved if he doesn’t crash the dollar the better

If you’re such a fan of public schools, why are you on the private school form?

That poster pops up in so many different threads and rants in this style, no matter the topic. It's raining? It's Trump! A leaf fell to the ground? It's Trump!

Best is to scroll right over her screeds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One of my kids is a high achiever and profoundly gifted, so trust fund. They literally teach themself by reading, observing and asking a million questions. They learned multiplication and division in kindergarten by begging for math story problems at bedtime. The other is average and needs the advantages of a better peer group and smaller classes, so private.

I agree with this. If you have a very bright kid, it does not matter where they go. They will seek resources and thrive in most places. Private is best for average and above average kid.

We have a bright kid who tests very highly and grasps new info well, but unfortunately is very very VERY influenced by peer group. That meant he was coasting through public and spend most of his school time learning from other students' behaviors. We put him in private and he still copies other students' behaviors, but more of them are in line with what we want for him. Public school had a lot of nice kids and we met so many nice families, but the rudeness, low-class behaviors and language, and actual violence of too many of the kids made us leave. Similarly, we had some nice and caring teachers in public, but too many had a "school is jail" mentality and just leaned on apps and learning videos. We picked a private with a traditional curriculum that is writing heavy and he is thriving.

I'm the PP with two different kids. We put our profoundly gifted child in a public magnet school, and they let her to go to the library during math to work on AOPS. She finished Beast Academy level 5 online at the end of second grade and then moved on to regular AOPS, but missed the comics, so that hasn't been as much fun. Also, dual language immersion and the challenge of a foreign language were helpful. Private didn't have the same accommodations. Our public is in an affluent neighborhood, so we don't face the same issues you describe with peer group, though the peer group at the local private is better and more social, especially for the parents. The writing is better at the private, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One of my kids is a high achiever and profoundly gifted, so trust fund. They literally teach themself by reading, observing and asking a million questions. They learned multiplication and division in kindergarten by begging for math story problems at bedtime. The other is average and needs the advantages of a better peer group and smaller classes, so private.

I agree with this. If you have a very bright kid, it does not matter where they go. They will seek resources and thrive in most places. Private is best for average and above average kid.

We have a bright kid who tests very highly and grasps new info well, but unfortunately is very very VERY influenced by peer group. That meant he was coasting through public and spend most of his school time learning from other students' behaviors. We put him in private and he still copies other students' behaviors, but more of them are in line with what we want for him. Public school had a lot of nice kids and we met so many nice families, but the rudeness, low-class behaviors and language, and actual violence of too many of the kids made us leave. Similarly, we had some nice and caring teachers in public, but too many had a "school is jail" mentality and just leaned on apps and learning videos. We picked a private with a traditional curriculum that is writing heavy and he is thriving.

I'm the PP with two different kids. We put our profoundly gifted child in a public magnet school, and they let her to go to the library during math to work on AOPS. She finished Beast Academy level 5 online at the end of second grade and then moved on to regular AOPS, but missed the comics, so that hasn't been as much fun. Also, dual language immersion and the challenge of a foreign language were helpful. Private didn't have the same accommodations. Our public is in an affluent neighborhood, so we don't face the same issues you describe with peer group, though the peer group at the local private is better and more social, especially for the parents. The writing is better at the private, too.

It is crazy for a second grader learning AOPS!!! you DS must be a genius. and yes, for those genius, it doesnt matter where they go, they will always find their way to shine out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How much would the tuition and fees you spend k-12 be worth at graduation if held in a trust fund that held S&P. What would it be worth when they retire?

If the value of private over public worth giving up that retirement account for your kids?

Absolutely not

Especially in Trumps economic fails

Public til it’s completely destroyed by Don the con and his sycophants

Then use the money to survive

They are coming for maximum pain the more you have saved if he doesn’t crash the dollar the better

If you’re such a fan of public schools, why are you on the private school form?

That poster pops up in so many different threads and rants in this style, no matter the topic. It's raining? It's Trump! A leaf fell to the ground? It's Trump!

Best is to scroll right over her screeds.

A poster proposing trust funds over private school also consistently pops up in a lot of threads. I doubt OP's question is genuine.

The private school forum seems to attract a lot of trolls.

[Anonymous]

In my family, we've always done both.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How much would the tuition and fees you spend k-12 be worth at graduation if held in a trust fund that held S&P. What would it be worth when they retire?

If the value of private over public worth giving up that retirement account for your kids?

Absolutely not

Especially in Trumps economic fails

Public til it’s completely destroyed by Don the con and his sycophants

Then use the money to survive

They are coming for maximum pain the more you have saved if he doesn’t crash the dollar the better

If you’re such a fan of public schools, why are you on the private school form?

That poster pops up in so many different threads and rants in this style, no matter the topic. It's raining? It's Trump! A leaf fell to the ground? It's Trump!

Best is to scroll right over her screeds.

A poster proposing trust funds over private school also consistently pops up in a lot of threads. I doubt OP's question is genuine.

The private school forum seems to attract a lot of trolls.

No idea if OP is a troll. But the “should we spend this money on tuition or provide it to our kid in another form” question is a pretty common dilemma for parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How much would the tuition and fees you spend k-12 be worth at graduation if held in a trust fund that held S&P. What would it be worth when they retire?

If the value of private over public worth giving up that retirement account for your kids?

Absolutely not

Especially in Trumps economic fails

Public til it’s completely destroyed by Don the con and his sycophants

Then use the money to survive

They are coming for maximum pain the more you have saved if he doesn’t crash the dollar the better

If you’re such a fan of public schools, why are you on the private school form?

That poster pops up in so many different threads and rants in this style, no matter the topic. It's raining? It's Trump! A leaf fell to the ground? It's Trump!

Best is to scroll right over her screeds.

A poster proposing trust funds over private school also consistently pops up in a lot of threads. I doubt OP's question is genuine.

The private school forum seems to attract a lot of trolls.

I bet this thread was started in Money and Finances. That's really where it belongs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One of my kids is a high achiever and profoundly gifted, so trust fund. They literally teach themself by reading, observing and asking a million questions. They learned multiplication and division in kindergarten by begging for math story problems at bedtime. The other is average and needs the advantages of a better peer group and smaller classes, so private.

I agree with this. If you have a very bright kid, it does not matter where they go. They will seek resources and thrive in most places. Private is best for average and above average kid.

We have a bright kid who tests very highly and grasps new info well, but unfortunately is very very VERY influenced by peer group. That meant he was coasting through public and spend most of his school time learning from other students' behaviors. We put him in private and he still copies other students' behaviors, but more of them are in line with what we want for him. Public school had a lot of nice kids and we met so many nice families, but the rudeness, low-class behaviors and language, and actual violence of too many of the kids made us leave. Similarly, we had some nice and caring teachers in public, but too many had a "school is jail" mentality and just leaned on apps and learning videos. We picked a private with a traditional curriculum that is writing heavy and he is thriving.

I'm the PP with two different kids. We put our profoundly gifted child in a public magnet school, and they let her to go to the library during math to work on AOPS. She finished Beast Academy level 5 online at the end of second grade and then moved on to regular AOPS, but missed the comics, so that hasn't been as much fun. Also, dual language immersion and the challenge of a foreign language were helpful. Private didn't have the same accommodations. Our public is in an affluent neighborhood, so we don't face the same issues you describe with peer group, though the peer group at the local private is better and more social, especially for the parents. The writing is better at the private, too.

It is crazy for a second grader learning AOPS!!! you DS must be a genius. and yes, for those genius, it doesnt matter where they go, they will always find their way to shine out.

Yes, we started BA level one in kindergarten only because her older sibling used it for extra help, and we had an account. We discovered she has an intense love of math and wants to do it all the time. That said, regular AOPS is not as exciting. Our private schools generally don’t want to deal with kids that are that far advanced in a subject; whereas the public school librarian offered to host her whenever she wants to work on math on her own at school, so we took advantage of it. she gets to go to school and be social but they let her learn at her own pace - same with reading - they let her leave when they were teaching reading in earlier grades and just go read a chapter book in the library.

[Anonymous]

Probably 2-3m. If you have to ask, you can't afford it.

[Anonymous]

Put the money in a trust- hands down!! You never know what happens in life. Give them access to the trust at 21. This is what we did and it gives us great peace of mind.

[Anonymous]

WTF??