Tragedy at Regis

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Terrible. One of my friends from college went there. He’s one of the few that have passed too. It’s 50.

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Anonymous wrote:So sad. Every guy I’ve known from Regis has been a genuinely great person.

Me too. Also, never met a Regis grad who lived in Manhattan. I grew up a few blocks away and didn’t know anyone who went there until I was out of college. They all commuted - from NJ, CT, SI or Westchester- and are all very smart and successful.

My HS aged son played sports when younger with an UES/UWS Manhattan kid who I am pretty sure is now at Regis. Always seemed like a nice kid (and a pretty good athlete). Pretty sure he was from an upper middle class professional family.

Other than that kid I always thought there was a bifurcation between fairly wealthy legacies and others with money who could donate money (all smart kids) and then smart, motivated, down-to-earth low income kids to fulfill their mission who used it to really advance in society. I'm not Catholic and generally don't like the idea of religious schools but I have always had a very favorable view of Regis.

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Anonymous wrote:So sad. Every guy I’ve known from Regis has been a genuinely great person.

Me too. Also, never met a Regis grad who lived in Manhattan. I grew up a few blocks away and didn’t know anyone who went there until I was out of college. They all commuted - from NJ, CT, SI or Westchester- and are all very smart and successful.

Well you have to be baptized Roman Catholic, and a top student to apply.

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Anonymous wrote:https://nypost.com/2025/11/14/us-news/regis-hs-teen-who-leaped-to-death-was-to-be-punished-for-controversial-stance-in-ethics-class-sources/

The “very shy” 16-year-old who tragically leaped to his death at New York City’s famed Regis High School had gotten into hot water after taking a controversial stance in his ethics class, sources told The Post on Friday.

Very shy and controversial stance taker sound at odds

I heard he was in trouble. What for?

Wow. Really? That’s what you want to know?

Yes. Do you have a dc at a Jesuit school? If so, you’d understand why I’m asking

Yes, I do. Would you want strangers on the internet speculating about your child’s struggles?

Really? Which one? If you truly do have a child at a Jesuit school, what could you possibly consider I might be asking about?

Do you truly have a child in a Jesuit school?

A specific, identifiable child’s troubles are not your business.

Ok so you obviously don’t have a teen at one of these schools. Move on, Karen

And you obviously don’t either.

Why do you want to know the private details?

I do. You clearly don’t, but go on lying. So weird of you.

Jesuit schools have some advantages - i have dc across different types of NYC schools including Jesuit- - they focus on the whole person, service to others, etc- but they are also very strict about things that you probably can’t imagine because your dc go to regular private schools.

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Anonymous wrote:So sad. I feel horrible for everyone. So much stress on kids these days. I have a kid in HS and want him to succeed but also try to manage stress levels. I look at the DCUM college board and it is scary and toxic.

This incident has nothing to do with academic stress. and has nothing to do with toxic and scary (albeit this may be true) DCUM college board.

How do you know this?

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Anonymous wrote:This was a post that stood out to me from the Reddit thread on this




This is abjectly horrible. My condolences to the boy’s family. I went to Regis about a decade ago and this has definitely re-opened discussion with my friends on our high school experiences.

Personally, I have many fond memories of the school. I truly felt like I “found my people” while attending high school. From my perspective, the academic environment was super collaborative. My buddies and I would always bang out open homework items together in the cafeteria prior to advisement. That being said, my rose-tinted nostalgia goggles definitely look past some of the school’s blatant flaws.

Commuting paired with the workload is absolutely brutal if you are from outside Manhattan. I was not getting more than 6 hours of sleep a night during the week, ever. This is just not remotely healthy for anyone. Also, while I found being surrounded by peers driven by academics stimulating, it’s super hard not to feel inadequate. You will likely go from being the best student in your middle school to having multiple people who are better at every subject than you. It can be really hard to accept if your self-worth is solely tied to academic achievement.

One last thing I will ramble about. Mental health was absolutely a struggle for MANY during my time there. It was jarring hearing some stories from my peers at retreats. With that being said, I don’t recall Regis ever emphasizing mental health all that much. Sure, the resources were (and still are) there, but I don’t recall much discussion about how to take care of yourself, how to cope, or prioritization of well being.

Ultimately, I understand a tragedy like this can’t just be boiled down to a singular cause. It’s likely some distillation of interpersonal conflict, systemic failures, and the social climate. I implore Regis and its community to examine themselves in these times. Life is so much greater than academic achievement and we need to take mental health seriously.

I agree with this poster

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Anonymous wrote:This was a post that stood out to me from the Reddit thread on this




This is abjectly horrible. My condolences to the boy’s family. I went to Regis about a decade ago and this has definitely re-opened discussion with my friends on our high school experiences.

Personally, I have many fond memories of the school. I truly felt like I “found my people” while attending high school. From my perspective, the academic environment was super collaborative. My buddies and I would always bang out open homework items together in the cafeteria prior to advisement. That being said, my rose-tinted nostalgia goggles definitely look past some of the school’s blatant flaws.

Commuting paired with the workload is absolutely brutal if you are from outside Manhattan. I was not getting more than 6 hours of sleep a night during the week, ever. This is just not remotely healthy for anyone. Also, while I found being surrounded by peers driven by academics stimulating, it’s super hard not to feel inadequate. You will likely go from being the best student in your middle school to having multiple people who are better at every subject than you. It can be really hard to accept if your self-worth is solely tied to academic achievement.

One last thing I will ramble about. Mental health was absolutely a struggle for MANY during my time there. It was jarring hearing some stories from my peers at retreats. With that being said, I don’t recall Regis ever emphasizing mental health all that much. Sure, the resources were (and still are) there, but I don’t recall much discussion about how to take care of yourself, how to cope, or prioritization of well being.

Ultimately, I understand a tragedy like this can’t just be boiled down to a singular cause. It’s likely some distillation of interpersonal conflict, systemic failures, and the social climate. I implore Regis and its community to examine themselves in these times. Life is so much greater than academic achievement and we need to take mental health seriously.

Well, it's not just Regis.
Kids regularly get up at 5:30am to commute from Queens to Bronx Science (there is no direct train between these boroughs). There was even a kid from Staten Island who would make that commute. Stuy didn't have it as bad, but there were still kids commuting there from Staten Island.
It's not like there aren't decent high school options in Queens and Staten Island. There are actually some really great HS options in Queens and SI Tech is highly ranked.
These families chose this punishing commute.

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Anonymous wrote:This was a post that stood out to me from the Reddit thread on this




This is abjectly horrible. My condolences to the boy’s family. I went to Regis about a decade ago and this has definitely re-opened discussion with my friends on our high school experiences.

Personally, I have many fond memories of the school. I truly felt like I “found my people” while attending high school. From my perspective, the academic environment was super collaborative. My buddies and I would always bang out open homework items together in the cafeteria prior to advisement. That being said, my rose-tinted nostalgia goggles definitely look past some of the school’s blatant flaws.

Commuting paired with the workload is absolutely brutal if you are from outside Manhattan. I was not getting more than 6 hours of sleep a night during the week, ever. This is just not remotely healthy for anyone. Also, while I found being surrounded by peers driven by academics stimulating, it’s super hard not to feel inadequate. You will likely go from being the best student in your middle school to having multiple people who are better at every subject than you. It can be really hard to accept if your self-worth is solely tied to academic achievement.

One last thing I will ramble about. Mental health was absolutely a struggle for MANY during my time there. It was jarring hearing some stories from my peers at retreats. With that being said, I don’t recall Regis ever emphasizing mental health all that much. Sure, the resources were (and still are) there, but I don’t recall much discussion about how to take care of yourself, how to cope, or prioritization of well being.

Ultimately, I understand a tragedy like this can’t just be boiled down to a singular cause. It’s likely some distillation of interpersonal conflict, systemic failures, and the social climate. I implore Regis and its community to examine themselves in these times. Life is so much greater than academic achievement and we need to take mental health seriously.

Well, it's not just Regis.
Kids regularly get up at 5:30am to commute from Queens to Bronx Science (there is no direct train between these boroughs). There was even a kid from Staten Island who would make that commute. Stuy didn't have it as bad, but there were still kids commuting there from Staten Island.
It's not like there aren't decent high school options in Queens and Staten Island. There are actually some really great HS options in Queens and SI Tech is highly ranked.
These families chose this punishing commute.

Agree, the commutes are bad, although I disagree that there are no ‘decent’ schools in queens or Staten Island- each borough has one of the SHSAT schools- but yes, some people might think Stuy or bust. The point that I was trying to make upstream that one poster was flipping out about is that Jesuit schools can also be very strict about personal responsibility in a way that regular schools are not. IYKYK. I wonder if that contributed here.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This was a post that stood out to me from the Reddit thread on this




This is abjectly horrible. My condolences to the boy’s family. I went to Regis about a decade ago and this has definitely re-opened discussion with my friends on our high school experiences.

Personally, I have many fond memories of the school. I truly felt like I “found my people” while attending high school. From my perspective, the academic environment was super collaborative. My buddies and I would always bang out open homework items together in the cafeteria prior to advisement. That being said, my rose-tinted nostalgia goggles definitely look past some of the school’s blatant flaws.

Commuting paired with the workload is absolutely brutal if you are from outside Manhattan. I was not getting more than 6 hours of sleep a night during the week, ever. This is just not remotely healthy for anyone. Also, while I found being surrounded by peers driven by academics stimulating, it’s super hard not to feel inadequate. You will likely go from being the best student in your middle school to having multiple people who are better at every subject than you. It can be really hard to accept if your self-worth is solely tied to academic achievement.

One last thing I will ramble about. Mental health was absolutely a struggle for MANY during my time there. It was jarring hearing some stories from my peers at retreats. With that being said, I don’t recall Regis ever emphasizing mental health all that much. Sure, the resources were (and still are) there, but I don’t recall much discussion about how to take care of yourself, how to cope, or prioritization of well being.

Ultimately, I understand a tragedy like this can’t just be boiled down to a singular cause. It’s likely some distillation of interpersonal conflict, systemic failures, and the social climate. I implore Regis and its community to examine themselves in these times. Life is so much greater than academic achievement and we need to take mental health seriously.

Well, it's not just Regis.
Kids regularly get up at 5:30am to commute from Queens to Bronx Science (there is no direct train between these boroughs). There was even a kid from Staten Island who would make that commute. Stuy didn't have it as bad, but there were still kids commuting there from Staten Island.
It's not like there aren't decent high school options in Queens and Staten Island. There are actually some really great HS options in Queens and SI Tech is highly ranked.
These families chose this punishing commute.

Agree, the commutes are bad, although I disagree that there are no ‘decent’ schools in queens or Staten Island- each borough has one of the SHSAT schools- but yes, some people might think Stuy or bust. The point that I was trying to make upstream that one poster was flipping out about is that Jesuit schools can also be very strict about personal responsibility in a way that regular schools are not. IYKYK. I wonder if that contributed here.

The PP said there are decent schools in other boroughs. So people subject their kids to brutal commutes because they are so obsessed with what they think are allegedly better brands.

When we visited Stuy and Bx Science we saw so many kids who looked like zombies (particularly Stuy). Not a lot of smiles or happiness. Just trudging about their business. So many of these kids have fulfilled their parents life dreams for them by getting into these schools that they don’t know what is next. It is like the dog who caught its tail. So many of them then end up at cuny or suny which they could have done from a much more convenient, less stressful place.

The worst are the kids at Bx Sci who feel like failures because they didn’t make Stuy.

TL/DR - parents need to chill. Schools need to chill. Kids need to chill. Happiness and peacefulness are highly underrated.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This was a post that stood out to me from the Reddit thread on this




This is abjectly horrible. My condolences to the boy’s family. I went to Regis about a decade ago and this has definitely re-opened discussion with my friends on our high school experiences.

Personally, I have many fond memories of the school. I truly felt like I “found my people” while attending high school. From my perspective, the academic environment was super collaborative. My buddies and I would always bang out open homework items together in the cafeteria prior to advisement. That being said, my rose-tinted nostalgia goggles definitely look past some of the school’s blatant flaws.

Commuting paired with the workload is absolutely brutal if you are from outside Manhattan. I was not getting more than 6 hours of sleep a night during the week, ever. This is just not remotely healthy for anyone. Also, while I found being surrounded by peers driven by academics stimulating, it’s super hard not to feel inadequate. You will likely go from being the best student in your middle school to having multiple people who are better at every subject than you. It can be really hard to accept if your self-worth is solely tied to academic achievement.

One last thing I will ramble about. Mental health was absolutely a struggle for MANY during my time there. It was jarring hearing some stories from my peers at retreats. With that being said, I don’t recall Regis ever emphasizing mental health all that much. Sure, the resources were (and still are) there, but I don’t recall much discussion about how to take care of yourself, how to cope, or prioritization of well being.

Ultimately, I understand a tragedy like this can’t just be boiled down to a singular cause. It’s likely some distillation of interpersonal conflict, systemic failures, and the social climate. I implore Regis and its community to examine themselves in these times. Life is so much greater than academic achievement and we need to take mental health seriously.

Well, it's not just Regis.
Kids regularly get up at 5:30am to commute from Queens to Bronx Science (there is no direct train between these boroughs). There was even a kid from Staten Island who would make that commute. Stuy didn't have it as bad, but there were still kids commuting there from Staten Island.
It's not like there aren't decent high school options in Queens and Staten Island. There are actually some really great HS options in Queens and SI Tech is highly ranked.
These families chose this punishing commute.

Agree, the commutes are bad, although I disagree that there are no ‘decent’ schools in queens or Staten Island- each borough has one of the SHSAT schools- but yes, some people might think Stuy or bust. The point that I was trying to make upstream that one poster was flipping out about is that Jesuit schools can also be very strict about personal responsibility in a way that regular schools are not. IYKYK. I wonder if that contributed here.

The PP said there are decent schools in other boroughs. So people subject their kids to brutal commutes because they are so obsessed with what they think are allegedly better brands.

When we visited Stuy and Bx Science we saw so many kids who looked like zombies (particularly Stuy). Not a lot of smiles or happiness. Just trudging about their business. So many of these kids have fulfilled their parents life dreams for them by getting into these schools that they don’t know what is next. It is like the dog who caught its tail. So many of them then end up at cuny or suny which they could have done from a much more convenient, less stressful place.

The worst are the kids at Bx Sci who feel like failures because they didn’t make Stuy.

TL/DR - parents need to chill. Schools need to chill. Kids need to chill. Happiness and peacefulness are highly underrated.

I completely agree. I did a long commute with one of my dc (1.5 hours each way) because of prestige and we decided not to do it again. It was too much and not worth it. Sleep is far too important in high school.

And I agree, there are actually a lot of good schools in NYC. There is no reason to kill yourself to go to one of 3.

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Honestly, they should build a couple more SHSAT schools that are geographically convenient to places that have lots of high-scoring kids; say another one in Queens (Flushing or Jackson Heights, maybe) and one in Harlem to cover upper Manhattan. In addition to getting kids more sleep, this would take some pressure off of Stuy and Bronx Science: given the choice between going to the 8th best specialized high school that's 15 minutes from your house or the 2nd best one that's an hour, a lot of families will choose the former.

[Anonymous]

Maybe charge a little bit of tuition to fund fixing the windows. Who has 5th floor windows that open wide enough to jump out?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, they should build a couple more SHSAT schools that are geographically convenient to places that have lots of high-scoring kids; say another one in Queens (Flushing or Jackson Heights, maybe) and one in Harlem to cover upper Manhattan. In addition to getting kids more sleep, this would take some pressure off of Stuy and Bronx Science: given the choice between going to the 8th best specialized high school that's 15 minutes from your house or the 2nd best one that's an hour, a lot of families will choose the former.

There are now eight SHSAT schools (as you noted). Stuy, Bronx Science, Brooklyn Tech, Brooklyn Latin, Staten Island, Queens (blanking on the names of those), HSMSE and American Studies (near Bronx Science). So there are now ones in every borough. HSMSE is on the campus of City College in Harlem. It is quite small but has become extremely popular - the cutoff the past few years has been higher than Bronx Science as a lot of UWS and UES are choosing it over the longer commute. My child struggled choosing which of the two to rank higher (they cleared the score for both but chose something else). We found Brooklyn Latin to be very odd but know many who are happy and have done well there.

So I don't understand why someone would go through the hell of commuting to Bronx Science from Queens or Brooklyn or worst yet, Staten Island. It is a great place but not worth putting yourself through the misery of those really long commutes. Stuy actually happens to be relatively centrally located as lots of subway lines converge there and it is obviously very close to Brooklyn and more manageable from Staten Island (though still not sure it is worth the boat ride).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, they should build a couple more SHSAT schools that are geographically convenient to places that have lots of high-scoring kids; say another one in Queens (Flushing or Jackson Heights, maybe) and one in Harlem to cover upper Manhattan. In addition to getting kids more sleep, this would take some pressure off of Stuy and Bronx Science: given the choice between going to the 8th best specialized high school that's 15 minutes from your house or the 2nd best one that's an hour, a lot of families will choose the former.

I like this idea.

We are new to private school after my DD completed public elementary, and we got email about Regis. Ours is not a religious school but there was apparently a tragedy earlier in the year, before we joined. I think my husband and I have been very naive about some of the pressure the kids feel and really are under at every competitive (whatever the context) school.

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Anonymous wrote:I believe another NYC private also dealt with a faculty-related suicide this week, so slightly different situation. Very sad.

so tragic. which one was that

Anyone know which school this was?