+1 this exactly!!! |
I’d probably just laugh “yes and you’re the most humble too” |
The thing is, if you’re convinced other people are boring, you will miss out on what’s interesting about them. It closes you off to the world. It hurts you more than them.
Talk to her about curiosity. What might she be missing? How might incuriosity diminish her experience in the world? How might a bit of curiosity enrich it? Challenge her to notice things about others: tiny interactions, little details that less astute observers might miss. Challenge her to pay attention, then notice how noticing feels. |
Or just say you go girl! |
Humility is a virtue, maybe she needs to learn this. And I’ll tell you that despite what you might think her peers pick up on this mentality, it’s not so easily hidden. Words alone don’t hide it. |
Is she in sports? My very athletic children that play travel sports quickly learn that there is always someone better than you. Teaches humility. |
+1 My DD 15 is also like OP’s and although I know it’s not right I secretly like hearing her confidence come out. Wish I had an ounce of it! |
This. This can be tough with kids...girls in particular, in my experience. You want them to be confident, but humble. The best thing you can do is model humility and try to teach your children that everyone has strengths and weaknesses. I always point out my kids' strengths, but I also let them know when they need to work on themselves. It seems like you need to talk to your daughter about that. Also, talking about how great you are, etc., is often actually a sign of insecurity. When she puts other people down, she's really just exposing her own insecurities. You should make sure she understands that. |
Actually, this is often a sign of a lack of confidence/insecurity. The truly confident are humble. Your daughter, like you, lacks confidence. |
Cut her down back to size with a well-placed insult.
E.g. "Larla has such disgusting eyebrows" You "Yeah, she should go to the person who waxed your's" or "I wonder what Larla is saying to her mom about your flat a$$" Your her mom, you will know what cuts her down If you can't think of anything, "Wow, that was a really b----- thing to say" If she wants to to engage in frat house talk, she can take it too. |
This is psychotic advice. WTF is wrong with you? |
Without reading the rest of the responses, (1) this is a natural phase, (2) she's also imitating what she hears from other girls at school so don't villainize her as a mean girl, (3) just enjoy that she's even talking to you at all! Some parents would give anything to have their teens talk to them regularly, even if it's just to trash other kids at school. Heck, they would even join in just to have some connection. |
stfu larla. |
Pretty much this. But is she right, OP? Also, she can trash people to you but you should encourage her to consider any redeeming qualities these people might have. |
Seems like DD sees the worst in people… |