That’s who she’s thinking about when she posts these things. Not you. |
yep |
Yes, she's over 40. Her page doesn't look like she's trying to be an influencer. Her photography isn't that great. So I don't think that's it. |
She's on Tiktok but doesn't post as much there. |
Great. I thought it might be something like that. |
XDH does this. He even posts pics of people he dated after they broke up. Some women have told him to stop doing this (or so my kids say), and you should do the same. If she doesn't listen to your wishes and stop, then run. |
It could also be her competing with a friend or colleague, trying to prove how much better her life is. Or to prove to her parents or siblings that she's in a good relationship or something. It's not always an ex. But especially in this day and age and for someone this age, there is no question that she is posting this stuff for a specific audience. I know a woman who regularly posts stuff that is 100% aimed at a former friend with whom she had a falling out. She will post stuff that she thinks will make that friend jealous. It's not a healthy attitude BUT it's also not her trying to prove anything to an ex. I think she's happy with her partner and not thinking about another man. Actually, the guy she's with shares her penchant for pettiness so he might even be in on it. Maybe you could say something, like "who do you post this stuff for? I know it's not me because I was there." See how she responds. |
This is the same person - if they were doing it 10 years ago @ 30, why wouldn't they do it now, 10 years later @ 40? Some people are just like this. |
No, not normal.
I'm dating a wonderful man (we are also in our 40s) and we have never posted on social media together. It's just not necessary. Not that I would object to him posting something but I don't feel the need to broadcast our relationship. This is obviously bothering you, OP. Can you bring it up and say something? |
Every woman thinks she's the star in her very own movie. |
Run |
If you're both over 40, yeah that's problematic. That's the behavior of 20 somethings. |
Some people outgrow it, though. I didn't do this with relationships, but when I was late 20s and early 30s, I definitely was kind of insecure and used social media to project a certain image and try and impress certain people or make them jealous. Vacation photos, pics with my friends out at some cool new restaurant, selfie when I was #feelingcute (yes, you an make fun of me). But I grew up, realized I was doing this stuff for validation and just feeding my own insecurity. I quit Facebook and made my instagram private and started posting way, way less. I'm just more mature. It was a phase and I evolved beyond it. I know other women my age (early to mid 40s) who did the same. If I met someone my current age who was still doing this aggressively, I would feel bad for them. It's not a very good way to try and make yourself feel better. The likes and views feel good at first but in the end it's empty. |
This is what it always comes down to. |
Thanks for all of your input. After thinking about it it does seems that she's creating this content for a specific reason. Not sure what. Also, not sure that this is something I want to be a part of. Constantly making videos while we're out is getting old pretty quick. |