I think you can have a conversation on the boy bestie and how you noticed it has changed her dynamic with her current bf and if your daughter has noticed a difference.
My dd15 and I tend to talk like this on her long trips to practice and once a week we do a girl dinner. I am very open to mistakes and learning and showing the possible other perspectives she might be to immature to see. My DD has opened up a lot that way and looks for advice. But otherwise that's about as far as it goes. Teens all make mistakes and have to learn to love with it. She might have to as well. |
I'd say the biggest problem is that you are reading the text messages of your 17 yr old. |
I wouldn't know about it because I wouldn't be reading the texts of a 17 yr old. When does that stop? |
I wouldn't take her tone in the texts seriously. The bragging might be to mask some guilt and to encourage positive feedback. Who she is at 17 isn't who she will be, ask her how things are going with her boyfriend. She probably won't tell you, which is okay, but it means she doesn't want you disappointed. If she does tell you, try not to be judgmental and understand where she's at and guide her as a gentle voice of reason. |