Was I rude or did he deserve it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You were both unprofessional. But you bringing up your compensation in that context was more unprofessional. When they go low you go high. Otherwise it’s a race to the bottom. It’s clear you don’t respect him as a boss. You should look for another job,

I wouldn't blame OP for being unprofessional. He knowingly touched a topic that's potentially sensitive for OP given her situation. I'm not sure I could respect someone like that either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Both shouldn’t have said what they said… They’re both in the wrong.

The boss was being a Richard. The OP just stood for themselves.
I'd understand the wrongness if they went for his physical appearance or his work performance, but they didn't do that.
The boss was really out of line especially when he doesn't know OP's situation.
I would've done the same.

I said the Boss was wrong for what he said. She’s wrong for saying it in an open setting. That’s a conversation she should have had one on one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your answer was good but you said it in front of other employees which is a bad idea.
Probably you should apologize .

I disagree- OP defended herself to a comment made in front of said coworkers, he deserved the response.
Frankly, I’m surprised so many people think OP needs to apologize.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Both shouldn’t have said what they said… They’re both in the wrong.

The boss was being a Richard. The OP just stood for themselves.
I'd understand the wrongness if they went for his physical appearance or his work performance, but they didn't do that.
The boss was really out of line especially when he doesn't know OP's situation.
I would've done the same.

I said the Boss was wrong for what he said. She’s wrong for saying it in an open setting. That’s a conversation she should have had one on one.

Why should OP’s response be one on one if the boss shamed her in front of others?

[Anonymous]

Boss was definitely inappropriate. “When are you getting a proper house” - seriously? It’s a put-down plain and simple. OP’s answer was … accurate. She could have said “when my income allows for it.” Same message.
But this is not a question that anyone should be asked or expected to answer. Boss should have apologized.
And he should have rented a proper space for the event.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think boss’s comment was inappropriate but so was yours. Two wrongs don’t make a right. You should have ignored it.

Both were wrong but two wrongs make it right in my opinion. People have to learn not to come at you crazy and they learn a lot quicker when you give it right back to them. He knows where rates are and that people are struggling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your answer was good but you said it in front of other employees which is a bad idea.
Probably you should apologize .

I disagree- OP defended herself to a comment made in front of said coworkers, he deserved the response.
Frankly, I’m surprised so many people think OP needs to apologize.

Me too. Good for OP. The entire interaction suggests that the boss has some major entitlement issues and OP gave an appropriate reminder that this is a job and she is paid, she doesn’t deal with this jerk because she likes him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Both shouldn’t have said what they said… They’re both in the wrong.

The boss was being a Richard. The OP just stood for themselves.
I'd understand the wrongness if they went for his physical appearance or his work performance, but they didn't do that.
The boss was really out of line especially when he doesn't know OP's situation.
I would've done the same.

I said the Boss was wrong for what he said. She’s wrong for saying it in an open setting. That’s a conversation she should have had one on one.

Why should OP’s response be one on one if the boss shamed her in front of others?

He should have have said what he said… End of discussion

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We were at work discussing some casual team-building activity and the person who had offered their house for a BBQ wouldn't be available because of a trip. A co-worker asked if we could do it in mine and I explained that I'd love to but my condo was too small for groups bigger than 3 or 4 people, to which my boss asked condescendingly "when are you getting a proper house?". So I replied "as soon as you increase my paycheck". I doubt this is going to HR, but my reply made things pretty awkward between us to the point that he's been avoiding talking to me for any reason other than work. Some co-workers say it was well-deserved while others say I'm being too sensitive about the issue and that I should be careful talking to my boss like this. What do you think?

OP, you know you have a target on your back. Your chances of advancing are slim to none and slim gave up. Start looking for a new job.

[Anonymous]

I think he was far more rude. It is so inappropriate to comment on your employees housing situation. If he even thought about taking you to HR I'd remind him how he is in a position of power and has a higher standard to uphold. He was out of line first, and more.

He deserved it for sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My grandma always says....two wrongs don't make a right, but they do keep a MFer in check. Good job OP!

I like your grandma, stealing this line haha