What to wear to appear attractive but not seem like you are trying?

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Anonymous wrote:Trust me - men don't notice what women wear. They notice whether they're overall attractive or not. So you need to find a casual outfit that flatters your figure and that's the right color for your skin tone. Do you have an hourglass figure? Wear something that defines your waist. Do you have nice legs? Maybe you want a casual skirt, or skinny pants. Maybe you have a cute top with a decolletage (appropriate for work) that frames your upper torso and face nicely. Play up your best features. Don't overdo the make-up. Jewelry is merely a vehicle to draw attention to certain parts of your body. Use sparingly for best effect.

And a word to the wise. You're scared people will know you want attention if you dress a certain way. No. People try on various styles depending on their moods. No one will put 2 and 2 together, as in "Larla put on this fitted dress to meet Larlo!". And if one person does. SO WHAT? No one will care.

I might put one spin on the dressing up. I’ve noticed that when I dress, people don’t assume I’m playing with style. Rather they assume there is a professional event worthy of dressing up. So people are likely to think that you are dressing up for the guest because you want to make a good professional impression, which on top of everything I am sure you do! (Another way of saying don’t get embarrassed if people assume you are dressing up for X. They don’t necessarily mean romantically).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Trust me - men don't notice what women wear. They notice whether they're overall attractive or not. So you need to find a casual outfit that flatters your figure and that's the right color for your skin tone. Do you have an hourglass figure? Wear something that defines your waist. Do you have nice legs? Maybe you want a casual skirt, or skinny pants. Maybe you have a cute top with a decolletage (appropriate for work) that frames your upper torso and face nicely. Play up your best features. Don't overdo the make-up. Jewelry is merely a vehicle to draw attention to certain parts of your body. Use sparingly for best effect.

And a word to the wise. You're scared people will know you want attention if you dress a certain way. No. People try on various styles depending on their moods. No one will put 2 and 2 together, as in "Larla put on this fitted dress to meet Larlo!". And if one person does. SO WHAT? No one will care.

And under 30

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wear an outfit that makes you feel confident and smile.

I was coming here to say, wear the outfit you feel most confident in

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, de zone ng the opportunity of the 90 degree day today to wear a dress (not a sundress, it's black and has cap sleeves, but is jersey and definitely shows off my assets). Blowing out my hair and hoping my office colleagues just think I'm embracing the warm weather with some joie de vivre and don't realize I'm dressing up for our guest!

You have to let us know how it goes! However it turns out, I hope you feel beautiful and enjoy yourself :)

OP here and thank you all for encouraging me to wear a dress. I've gotten a ton of compliments today, and feeling like my best self around my crush, who I'm doing post-work drinks with later (with others as well, but still). So glad I get to do drinks in a cute dress instead of my usual jeans, which would be too hot today anyway!

Having a pretty swell Monday, thanks DCUM for the tips!

[Anonymous]

It depends on your body type. Highlighting your asset. Look up how to dress for
Your body type (rectangle, pear, triangle, etc)

[Anonymous]

Men like casual dresses a lot. They also don’t follow trends in women’s clothing so it doesn’t need to be trendy to get their attention. When I was dating, I wore a cotton button-down shirt-dress a ton. It wasn’t super tight but showed off my legs. Or a t-shirt dress in a fun color. Men also seem to like bright shoes, which could be a sneaker, sandal, or bootie depending on weather and the rest of the outfit.

No one will think it’s “weird” for you to look a little bit nicer than usual. People in general are worried about themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, de zone ng the opportunity of the 90 degree day today to wear a dress (not a sundress, it's black and has cap sleeves, but is jersey and definitely shows off my assets). Blowing out my hair and hoping my office colleagues just think I'm embracing the warm weather with some joie de vivre and don't realize I'm dressing up for our guest!

You have to let us know how it goes! However it turns out, I hope you feel beautiful and enjoy yourself :)

OP here and thank you all for encouraging me to wear a dress. I've gotten a ton of compliments today, and feeling like my best self around my crush, who I'm doing post-work drinks with later (with others as well, but still). So glad I get to do drinks in a cute dress instead of my usual jeans, which would be too hot today anyway!

Having a pretty swell Monday, thanks DCUM for the tips!

How did it go?

[Anonymous]

Clothes that fit. A more refined appearance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wear jeans that fits you well and get a blowout.

+1 to getting a blowout.

Also, it seems like jeans are only flattering on people who have perfect bodies. So I always wonder why jeans are so popular?

In any case, I would up your shoe game. Nice sneakers are cute, but not particularly flattering. Maybe a nicer shoe or some cute boots?

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OP, updates?
BTW, I cannot stand wearing jeans in weather above 80 degrees. I'm glad you wore a sundress!

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OP here. It went well in that I had some fun conversations with him and we left on a good note, but nothing more than that (we socialized but only with other people from the office so it was very platonic). I'll see him again in another few months, at a conference. I'll probably post here to figure out what to wear to that too!

[Anonymous]

Just wear one of your favorite outfits for work. Or go buy a new one that’s still in the family of what you’d normally wear but more awesome

[Anonymous]

The black jersey dress sounds cute. I'm glad you're happy with how things went.

I agree that men DO like dresses. They act like they don't notice, but they do.