Swinging in relationships

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course she wasn't enthused. This means the end of a normal relationship. A family therapist once told my husband that in his experience, absolutely all couples who did that ended up divorcing.

Your wife now knows that you are cheating.

That’s dumb. My husband and I have been non-monogamous for 15 years and are still happily married.

Major risks if all partners involved aren’t aware.

This seems like a total non sequitur from my post. Why on earth would you assume this?

[Anonymous]

6 couples around my neighborhood did this.

All divorced.

Two couples switched partners for life.

Rest all hate each other. LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I tend to think that someone brings this up with their partner because they really, really want to sleep with someone else, they’ve had their eyes in that person for a long time, and it’s the only way to attempt to light the fire without blowing up the whole house. Even if their partner is disgusted they can backpedal. I knew a couple who I’m pretty certain were swingers— very gregarious, no kids (not that having kids is always dealbreaker), both attractive, and lots of nude art on the walls. I liked them but always felt like there was another motive at hand than plain old friendship.

I don't think I would do something like this with friends or people we were otherwise socially connected with. It just seems way too messy with a lot of potential complications.

The wife hinted at something that sounded like a polyamory-type situation. In hindsight, I’d always hear them throwing around lots names, different couples they were friends with and then not friends with. Probably got into it with too many people and abandoned ship when someone felt threatened.

[Anonymous]

It’s very common where I live and many friends are in the lifestyle.

I went to scarlet ranch https://www.scarletranch.com/ this weekend for the first time and had a great time! I don’t swing or sleep with strangers but enjoy being watched with my partner in a monogamous relationship.

There are a million shades of gray in swinging/poly/enm/kink/lifestyle/ etc

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:6 couples around my neighborhood did this.

All divorced.

Two couples switched partners for life.

Rest all hate each other. LOL

Any open houses in your neighborhood? 😉

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:6 couples around my neighborhood did this.

All divorced.

Two couples switched partners for life.

Rest all hate each other. LOL

Any open houses in your neighborhood? 😉

There was a whole town like this in PG County in the 1960s-70s. Google away.

[Anonymous]

Non-monogamy worked great for us in our 20s and early 30s.

Problems arise post-kids, aging bodies, changing libidos, stressful careers and other midlife challenges. Trying to navigate closing up our relationship after a wilder youth and it's touch and go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you or your partner ever brought this up as an idea? I casually brought it up to mine and she wasn’t too enthused…

Husband here. Brought it up a few times, but long intervals of time between each mention-- she gets more curious each time and isn't as opposed to it since last time. Firmly believe that most of us desire animalistic sex at some point in our lives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course she wasn't enthused. This means the end of a normal relationship. A family therapist once told my husband that in his experience, absolutely all couples who did that ended up divorcing.

Your wife now knows that you are cheating.

That’s dumb. My husband and I have been non-monogamous for 15 years and are still happily married.

You are fringe and completely abnormal.

And that isn’t a virtue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course she wasn't enthused. This means the end of a normal relationship. A family therapist once told my husband that in his experience, absolutely all couples who did that ended up divorcing.

Your wife now knows that you are cheating.

That’s dumb. My husband and I have been non-monogamous for 15 years and are still happily married.

You are fringe and completely abnormal.

And that isn’t a virtue.

Oh, you’d be surprised. I’ve met people of every profession, class, race, and religion in the lifestyle. Doctors, lawyers, professors, diplomats, finance, tech, media, etc. it’s going on right under your nose and you’ve no idea. You couldn’t pick us out of a crowd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:6 couples around my neighborhood did this.

All divorced.

Two couples switched partners for life.

Rest all hate each other. LOL

Any open houses in your neighborhood? 😉

There was a whole town like this in PG County in the 1960s-70s. Google away.

I googled and couldn't find what you're referencing. What town?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you or your partner ever brought this up as an idea? I casually brought it up to mine and she wasn’t too enthused…

Upside down pineapple.

Works every time

Esp the swim trunks. Or an actual pineapple

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course she wasn't enthused. This means the end of a normal relationship. A family therapist once told my husband that in his experience, absolutely all couples who did that ended up divorcing.

Your wife now knows that you are cheating.

That’s dumb. My husband and I have been non-monogamous for 15 years and are still happily married.

You are fringe and completely abnormal.

And that isn’t a virtue.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:6 couples around my neighborhood did this.

All divorced.

Two couples switched partners for life.

Rest all hate each other. LOL

Any open houses in your neighborhood? 😉

There was a whole town like this in PG County in the 1960s-70s. Google away.

Please tell us more.

[Anonymous]

Don't. We tried. We were currently waiting for divorce paperwork to be finalized.