If your teen is sexually active...

[Anonymous]

Teens will find a way. That’s one of the more exciting parts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Teens will find a way. That’s one of the more exciting parts.

This. You don't have to make it easy for them. I'm fact, you shouldn't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, they are having sex already. Teens always figure it out.

Not necessarily. If they are 17, highly likely. But if they are 13-16 it is definitely possible they have been dating a year and not had sex

[Anonymous]

You are incredibly naive OP. They are definitely having sex.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My house and her house when parents aren't around, or discreetly if they are I guess. They're about to graduate from high school, have been together for 9 months, and I'm not going to shame them for it. As long as they're not making it super obvious, it's fine by me.

Yeah, I'm so not into shaming here. I'm pretty sex positive, and both kids are total straight-edge cautious types. It's not the fact that someday my kid will have sex that bothers me. I just can't figure out how (or if), practically, to leave them some space. We're very close, so if I'm away from the house, chances are good the kid has tagged along with me. If they're home, I'm probably home.

Why not ask your child how or if they need some space?

[Anonymous]

Realized DS was having son was having $ex in his car (found the condom wrapper.) His girlfriend isn't allowed to be at our house if we aren't here....and her parents don't want him there if they aren't home....

I have a feeling once he gets to college...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Realized DS was having son was having $ex in his car (found the condom wrapper.) His girlfriend isn't allowed to be at our house if we aren't here....and her parents don't want him there if they aren't home....

I have a feeling once he gets to college...

He’s gonna do what every college student does?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Teens will find a way. That’s one of the more exciting parts.

This. You don't have to make it easy for them. I'm fact, you shouldn't.

I honestly do not understand this point of view. What's wrong with safe, consensual sex? Why not let your teen have sex at home in their bed with the door closed? Better that than in a car, or some other dirty unsafe place.

[Anonymous]

No, she isn't to my knowledge, but she did ask me if I could buy her a vibrator. I did, so of course I know she has one.

[Anonymous]

There's always a few kids in HS whose parents are never around, so that house is the hookup house. There's also:

place of employment
school facilities after hours
after school activity facility
secluded park/woods
driving to motel (seriously)
cousin's best friend's cousin's house

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Teens will find a way. That’s one of the more exciting parts.

This. You don't have to make it easy for them. I'm fact, you shouldn't.

I honestly do not understand this point of view. What's wrong with safe, consensual sex? Why not let your teen have sex at home in their bed with the door closed? Better that than in a car, or some other dirty unsafe place.

This has to be a teen posting. There's many dangers: emotional fallout when the relationship sours, improper use of b.c. leading to pregnancy or sti, becoming subject of gossip at school which leads to bullying, etc. It seems many of the teen suicides that make the news have some element of romance gone bad or sexual embarrassment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, she isn't to my knowledge, but she did ask me if I could buy her a vibrator. I did, so of course I know she has one.

WTF? When in the history of ever has a child asked their mother to buy her a vibrator!??!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, she isn't to my knowledge, but she did ask me if I could buy her a vibrator. I did, so of course I know she has one.

WTF? When in the history of ever has a child asked their mother to buy her a vibrator!??!

Mine asked me for one. . .and I only feel grateful that she and I have developed the kind of relationship where she feels comfortable asking for something like that. I don't know details, or pry - allow her privacy - but she definitely knows that I will answer anything and be available to help her with anything.

[Anonymous]

Omg honestly I never thought about getting my teen daughter a vibrator but now I am.

So she can lay off wanting to be with any one pump chumps that don’t try and make her feel good anyway.

Very powerful

[Anonymous]

Better in your own house than in a car or public place etc. That's my thinking, better to be in a safe place.