I am sibling #1 in this scenario. I still feel guilty. Be as gentle as you can with yourself and with both of your siblings. It gets better as time passes - if you are lucky and all three remain cancer free (knock wood, the three of us have) - this drama will dissipate. |
Maybe she feels like her cancer and genetic diagnose allowed you to catch it sooner. Plus the advancement in treatments help.
I don’t think this is necessarily sibling rivalry. I think she’s being honest with her emotions. |
Wow! |
Op I get it. My. Sister is freakishly competitive with everything including illness so I share nothing. Mom makes everything about her and her anxiety. Her “support” is calling so you can try to calm her. I tell her very little. Both are limited. I don’t want to overwhelm friends so I find therapy and support groups helpful. |
I have a friend whose dad and sister are like that. They are constantly one-upping each other withwho has it the worst. Op, step back. Let them have their drama. |
I agree with this (I’m the wow story above). I’m not really a support group person but I find getting my mind off of it helps. I only need to know what I need to know at that time. I’m trying to set goals for whatever I can actually handle right now that interests me. I’m also trying to enjoy every day as much as I can with my family who is supportive. I don’t think about the diagnosis constantly. I’m about to go to a follow up visit this morning and I’m not even feeling nervous anymore. It is what it is, and I’m going to make the best of what time I have left. |
I had an emergency hyst at age 30 before I even could become a parent. My sister compared it to her c-section. Um no |
Infusions is a term that means to put a liquid medication or water in your body through needle in vein. Chemo is done through infusions of slow drip medication or chemo pills. What are they giving you? Maybe a preventative medicine? |
I agree. it’s better to not assume there was any negativity meant. If you’re not sure then ask. You’re better off with family support. Don’t try and second guess comments and dwell on them. |
Not every cancer drug for every type of cancer is chemo. Google is your friend. |
My sister is like this. She seemed disappointed my last scan came back all clear.
Misery loves company. |
Unrelated to my question. Infusions of what? What is being infused into your body? |
That was really insensitive of your sister. Did you let her know how upset you were? You should. |
I’m an NP, but many cancers are now being treated via immunotherapy drugs (via infusions) which is targeted at the specific cancer cells. It’s much more tolerable than traditional chemotherapy which attacks all rapidly dividing cells throughout one’s body, cancer or not. |
Google: Cancer drugs infusions. PP has to be a Boomer if they can’t figure this out themselves… |