S/o -Making new friends IN THE SAME LIFE PHASE

[Anonymous]

I'm a working FTM. I work full time outside of the home and have a 7 month old DC. I don't have many friends as it is, who I get to spend time with often. The few friends that I have are either single and/or childless and they are all scattered around the metro area. I of course don't get to see them as often as before, happy hours and weekend outings have been mostly out of the question since DC's arrival and what's worse is when we do get together, I can always feel that sense of distance since we are now in different phases of life.

I would like to make new Mom friends, who I can relate to but as a working Mom, I'm finding this very difficult. I'm not sure where/how to go about it. Many of the Mom groups I come across are for SAH moms who can have play dates and the like during the week.

Has any other first time Moms succesfully navigated this dilemma? Any tips?

[Anonymous]

by chance, several of my friends had kids around the same time, which was ideal.

then we took weekend kid-related classes - its generally the working moms who take those and through that, we met people in similar boats to us.

additionally, i randomly found that people i had known earlier and had nothing in common with, but who had kids, suddenly became great friends over the shared interest in little kiddies (or maybe the shared psychosis)

[Anonymous]

Is your child in daycare? Almost all of the mom friends I've made have been through my kids, seriously!

[Anonymous]

I had to wait really until my kids were in school to meet their friends' parents. And we are older than most of them.

[Anonymous]

We met many of our new friends with kids at the playground. Get out this summer and strike up some conversations.

[Anonymous]

Join Babytalk Moms Group on meetup.com- they have meetups for moms who SAH and also work, and the groups are broken down by when your child was born. Yes, a lot of events are for those who SAH, but you can volunteer to be an organizer and plan something at a park, a playdate at home, mom's night out, etc. I have made a TON of friends through this group.

Did you stay in touch with any parents you met in your birthing classes? Reach out to them!

Join a Gymboree, My Gym, etc. class. They have classes on Saturdays and Sundays and it's a great way to meet other parents. The classes are also broken down by age, so you will meet others in the same boat as you (and most of the parents who go to Gymboree on the weekends work outside the home).

Advertise for a playgroup on DCUM and/or Craigslist. Make it by age and location so you meet friends who live closer by and have kids in the same age range as yours.

If your LO is in daycare, ask one of the moms to go out for coffee sometime, or invite them over for a playdate.

Probably the biggest way I've met people is through playdates through all of the above. I have planned and attended probably 50 playdates in the past year!

Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Most of the moms groups have working mothers. They just need someone like you to organize weekend events. If you put something together I'm sure you will find some similarly situated women will join you.

[Anonymous]

I'm the same as 9:53. (had to think back about whether *I* wrote that post and forgot, but I didn't.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Join Babytalk Moms Group on meetup.com- they have meetups for moms who SAH and also work, and the groups are broken down by when your child was born. Yes, a lot of events are for those who SAH, but you can volunteer to be an organizer and plan something at a park, a playdate at home, mom's night out, etc. I have made a TON of friends through this group.

Did you stay in touch with any parents you met in your birthing classes? Reach out to them!

Join a Gymboree, My Gym, etc. class. They have classes on Saturdays and Sundays and it's a great way to meet other parents. The classes are also broken down by age, so you will meet others in the same boat as you (and most of the parents who go to Gymboree on the weekends work outside the home).

Advertise for a playgroup on DCUM and/or Craigslist. Make it by age and location so you meet friends who live closer by and have kids in the same age range as yours.

If your LO is in daycare, ask one of the moms to go out for coffee sometime, or invite them over for a playdate.

Probably the biggest way I've met people is through playdates through all of the above. I have planned and attended probably 50 playdates in the past year!

Good luck!

All of the above. Seriously.