Can we analyze jennifer lopez?

[Anonymous]

Ben writes her love letters, including while fully married with 3 kids, but people are mad at JLo for sharing them? Sigh. And I don’t even like this woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where are these letters????

She showed them to her team/friends in her documentary.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What was the final straw that broke the camel's back?

Probably J Lo revealing all of Ben’s love letters was devastating blow. In that action, it showed Ben that nothing was sacred or private. That her greed for fame, money, and branding will always be above love for him.

The album and documentary were recorded many months before being released. He’s known about the letters for a long time and could have left then if it bothered him so much. I believe it was the combo of the album, film, documentary and tour (that were all about him) flopping that made him throw in the towel. He felt like he was reliving the Gigli humiliation.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What was the final straw that broke the camel's back?

Probably J Lo revealing all of Ben’s love letters was devastating blow. In that action, it showed Ben that nothing was sacred or private. That her greed for fame, money, and branding will always be above love for him.

The album and documentary were recorded many months before being released. He’s known about the letters for a long time and could have left then if it bothered him so much. I believe it was the combo of the album, film, documentary and tour (that were all about him) flopping that made him throw in the towel. He felt like he was reliving the Gigli humiliation.

Plus her need for constant adoration and having the extended paid entourage around. Not many could put up with that. When it comes down to it, he's still a Boston boy at heart and wants a quieter life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Where are these letters????

She showed them to her team/friends in her documentary.

Where is the documentary??

So, she didn’t publish the letters? Then what’s the big deal? I don’t understand why this is SO awful?

Did he really write to her while he was married?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What was the final straw that broke the camel's back?

Probably J Lo revealing all of Ben’s love letters was devastating blow. In that action, it showed Ben that nothing was sacred or private. That her greed for fame, money, and branding will always be above love for him.

The album and documentary were recorded many months before being released. He’s known about the letters for a long time and could have left then if it bothered him so much. I believe it was the combo of the album, film, documentary and tour (that were all about him) flopping that made him throw in the towel. He felt like he was reliving the Gigli humiliation.

Plus her need for constant adoration and having the extended paid entourage around. Not many could put up with that. When it comes down to it, he's still a Boston boy at heart and wants a quieter life.

He has more of an entourage than she does. Dude has an entire staff bringing him booze and donuts.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What was the final straw that broke the camel's back?

Probably J Lo revealing all of Ben’s love letters was devastating blow. In that action, it showed Ben that nothing was sacred or private. That her greed for fame, money, and branding will always be above love for him.

The album and documentary were recorded many months before being released. He’s known about the letters for a long time and could have left then if it bothered him so much. I believe it was the combo of the album, film, documentary and tour (that were all about him) flopping that made him throw in the towel. He felt like he was reliving the Gigli humiliation.

Plus her need for constant adoration and having the extended paid entourage around. Not many could put up with that. When it comes down to it, he's still a Boston boy at heart and wants a quieter life.

If the projects the PP listed hadn’t flopped, he’d be fine with the circus life. He lost interest because JLo failed at a few things, which, even worse, were about him. If he wanted a quiet life, he wouldn’t have dated a young starlet and called the paps every time they hung out. He’s as big a narcissist as JLo, he was just embarrassed because the perfection slipped.

[Anonymous]

Honestly - I may be the only one that feels this way but I feel bad for her. She thought she found the love of her life and wanted to shout it to the world. I’m not sure that’s such a bad thing. He’s just as much guilty as she is. Okay so maybe she didn’t vet enough but how many men continuously do a switcheroo. He left one marriage a drunk and cheater. I highly doubt his ex knew he would be that way. JLo is a serial monogamist, rather resilient and maybe a slight narcissistic but aren’t all of them? I think she truly believes in love conquering all and I truly hope she finds it. Even if it’s just on her own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly - I may be the only one that feels this way but I feel bad for her. She thought she found the love of her life and wanted to shout it to the world. I’m not sure that’s such a bad thing. He’s just as much guilty as she is. Okay so maybe she didn’t vet enough but how many men continuously do a switcheroo. He left one marriage a drunk and cheater. I highly doubt his ex knew he would be that way. JLo is a serial monogamist, rather resilient and maybe a slight narcissistic but aren’t all of them? I think she truly believes in love conquering all and I truly hope she finds it. Even if it’s just on her own.

Agree. And I also adore her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What was the final straw that broke the camel's back?

Probably J Lo revealing all of Ben’s love letters was devastating blow. In that action, it showed Ben that nothing was sacred or private. That her greed for fame, money, and branding will always be above love for him.

Yeah, I have to say that was a huge deal. She either doesn't know him well enough to know that he'd absolutely hate that or she didn't care how he felt because her "Greatest Love Story Never Told" project was more important.

I'm not a fan or hater of either of them so I'm not invested but that right there, that was a death blow to the relationship.

H's flawed, granted...probably deeply. But he has worked a program, is likely in therapy and has been for years and has a deeper level of self awareness and therefore privacy. He is more psychologically minded bssically. She is not. It's obvious. I think he just realized it...that she has her own emptiness she tries to fill with fame and validation. And he saw that as the deeper problem it is. He said as much in regard to her always trying to fill holes inside. I agree too...he relieved the circus of twenty years ago with the negative pap attention, plus the doc failure...it just made him miserable. And he felt trapped which is his issue but in a way he was. He probably felt he lost control of his life and had to save himself.

[Anonymous]

Well Chris Rock would say he didn't want to play tambourine....and who can blame him really?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What was the final straw that broke the camel's back?

Probably J Lo revealing all of Ben’s love letters was devastating blow. In that action, it showed Ben that nothing was sacred or private. That her greed for fame, money, and branding will always be above love for him.

Yeah, I have to say that was a huge deal. She either doesn't know him well enough to know that he'd absolutely hate that or she didn't care how he felt because her "Greatest Love Story Never Told" project was more important.

I'm not a fan or hater of either of them so I'm not invested but that right there, that was a death blow to the relationship.

H's flawed, granted...probably deeply. But he has worked a program, is likely in therapy and has been for years and has a deeper level of self awareness and therefore privacy. He is more psychologically minded bssically. She is not. It's obvious. I think he just realized it...that she has her own emptiness she tries to fill with fame and validation. And he saw that as the deeper problem it is. He said as much in regard to her always trying to fill holes inside. I agree too...he relieved the circus of twenty years ago with the negative pap attention, plus the doc failure...it just made him miserable. And he felt trapped which is his issue but in a way he was. He probably felt he lost control of his life and had to save himself.

Lol I think you’re giving him waaaaay too much credit

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well Chris Rock would say he didn't want to play tambourine....and who can blame him really?

I wrote this...his dilemma is, Jennifer garner probably did spend more time on tambourine. But he didn't like that either. So i suspect he doesn't know what the hell he really wants.
It's a problem.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What was the final straw that broke the camel's back?

Probably J Lo revealing all of Ben’s love letters was devastating blow. In that action, it showed Ben that nothing was sacred or private. That her greed for fame, money, and branding will always be above love for him.

Yeah, I have to say that was a huge deal. She either doesn't know him well enough to know that he'd absolutely hate that or she didn't care how he felt because her "Greatest Love Story Never Told" project was more important.

I'm not a fan or hater of either of them so I'm not invested but that right there, that was a death blow to the relationship.

H's flawed, granted...probably deeply. But he has worked a program, is likely in therapy and has been for years and has a deeper level of self awareness and therefore privacy. He is more psychologically minded bssically. She is not. It's obvious. I think he just realized it...that she has her own emptiness she tries to fill with fame and validation. And he saw that as the deeper problem it is. He said as much in regard to her always trying to fill holes inside. I agree too...he relieved the circus of twenty years ago with the negative pap attention, plus the doc failure...it just made him miserable. And he felt trapped which is his issue but in a way he was. He probably felt he lost control of his life and had to save himself.

You must be the poster who calls Ben a “creative genius”.

[Anonymous]

I’m not saying JLo is an easy person to be with, but Ben knew who she was. He married her with a ring engraved with “I’m not going anywhere”.

She’ll be alright in the end. I’m not convinced he’ll ever be okay.