S/O: So what do men find attractive?

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Anonymous wrote:Confidence

A woman said this.

For the umpteenth time, men do not give a sht about your confidence. That is what YOU like in men, not what they like in you.

i disagree back in my twenties my friends were so much more confident then me yet objectively I was a lot more attractive then them, they were more chatty to men where I was shy so never got approached really.

That’s not confidence, that’s approachability. It involves the art of flirting with a man and smiling at him so you seek friendly and easy to approach.

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a round bubbly butt and a thin body.

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Anonymous wrote:I love this post.

LW: I want to know what men find physically attractive.

Men: Here's what we find physically attractive.

Men: Here are some other things we find physically attractive.

Women: Wrong! Short hair, professional accomplishments, and confidence are what's REALLY attractive! Also, you guys are probably fat and gross losers. How dare you say what you find attractive in this thread specifically soliciting your opinion on this.

Women (not all) don’t want a truthful response. They want you to project their answers about what they find attractive in women! C’mon boys, this is lesson 101! Honesty is one sided in male/female relationships. They’re blatantly honest, you walk on eggshells scrambling for the right response, then they accuse you of lying! I could never be a lesbian, even if my extremely high standards were met! My standards are somewhat lower for men who make me feel like the most beautiful woman they’ve ever laid eyes on. ~ signed a beautiful woman you’ve never laid eyes on (confident, always kind & compassionate, honest unless it will hurt someone deeply, love sex and a bit shallow when warranted) p.s. I like long hair on guys ...

You’re a dude.

I am a woman, promise...packed up donations for a charity event at 5 am and delivered, unloaded heavy boxes etc...still not a dude!

What does this have to do with anything? It's not going to convince anyone on an anonymous message board of anything, and has nothing to do with gender to boot. I tamed a kangaroo at 6 pm last night, and ate a pound of jalapenos earlier today...am I a man or a woman? That's right, you have no idea, because it's completely irrelevant.

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I met my DW at work 25 years ago. She was very smart (top MBA school), very pretty in a girl next door way and had a good sense of humor. She dressed very conservatively but other than seeing her legs she revealed little. We'd periodically flirt a little bit but I had no interest in dating a co-worker. Finally, I asked her out and she quickly accepted. On our first date she showed up at the restaurant in a short, black cocktail dress that did little to hide a wonderful body. Her hair was down, she had some makeup on and it was clearly a different person then I saw at work. A few dates later I got the full reveal and never looked back.

[Anonymous]

Silence is sexy as hell.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I prefer a woman who is kinky.

most are until you marry them

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Confidence

A woman said this.

For the umpteenth time, men do not give a sht about your confidence. That is what YOU like in men, not what they like in you.

i disagree back in my twenties my friends were so much more confident then me yet objectively I was a lot more attractive then them, they were more chatty to men where I was shy so never got approached really.

If it's actually true that men approached them and not you, then objectively they were more attractive than you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Confidence

A woman said this.

For the umpteenth time, men do not give a sht about your confidence. That is what YOU like in men, not what they like in you.

i disagree back in my twenties my friends were so much more confident then me yet objectively I was a lot more attractive then them, they were more chatty to men where I was shy so never got approached really.

I mean, firstly, you may not have been "objectively" more attractive than your friends. And what you're talking about isn't what people talk about when they say "confidence" is important. It is obviously useful to be confident enough to engage socially with the opposite sex, but that's mostly just meeting a very minimum threshold.

Some guys absolutely do prefer confident women. Others like women that lean on them more and make them feel in charge. It's not I think something that broadly attracts men in the way that say long hair or certain other features do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Serious question-do men like a challenge anymore?

1. Women who describe themselves as giving men a "challenge" are usually just difficult people that like to see their personal flaws as some kind of saucy appeal.

2. Most men do not want their dating lives to be a challenge. They want it to be enjoyable and pleasant.

3. The challenge-dynamic where the man is expected to work for your affection sets a bad precedent for the relationship.

4. If you try to give men a "challenge" you will disproportionately attract people who want to overcome the challenge and sleep with you and then move on.

5. The whole "challenge" dynamic where women are expected to male things difficult and men are supposed to fight through it, is heavily interrelated with a lot of bad and harmful things in our culture (sexual assault, harassment, etc). It's not good for women and not good for men.

[Anonymous]

Large, natural breasts... E cup or larger and not on a BBW.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Serious question-do men like a challenge anymore?

1. Women who describe themselves as giving men a "challenge" are usually just difficult people that like to see their personal flaws as some kind of saucy appeal.

2. Most men do not want their dating lives to be a challenge. They want it to be enjoyable and pleasant.

3. The challenge-dynamic where the man is expected to work for your affection sets a bad precedent for the relationship.

4. If you try to give men a "challenge" you will disproportionately attract people who want to overcome the challenge and sleep with you and then move on.

5. The whole "challenge" dynamic where women are expected to male things difficult and men are supposed to fight through it, is heavily interrelated with a lot of bad and harmful things in our culture (sexual assault, harassment, etc). It's not good for women and not good for men.

This is exactly the problem. Women are very good at hiding their true nature until after marriage. All of a sudden, they find their voice, deny you sex, and pull out those challenge cards.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Serious question-do men like a challenge anymore?

1. Women who describe themselves as giving men a "challenge" are usually just difficult people that like to see their personal flaws as some kind of saucy appeal.

2. Most men do not want their dating lives to be a challenge. They want it to be enjoyable and pleasant.

3. The challenge-dynamic where the man is expected to work for your affection sets a bad precedent for the relationship.

4. If you try to give men a "challenge" you will disproportionately attract people who want to overcome the challenge and sleep with you and then move on.

5. The whole "challenge" dynamic where women are expected to male things difficult and men are supposed to fight through it, is heavily interrelated with a lot of bad and harmful things in our culture (sexual assault, harassment, etc). It's not good for women and not good for men.

This is very true. And this is why you see many successful actresses and models ended up marrying jerks and divorcing them a few years later.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I prefer a woman who is kinky.

most are until you marry them

There's something in the wedding cake, I think.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Large, natural breasts... E cup or larger and not on a BBW.

I'm with you there! My wife has G cups. She's curvy but not a BBW. Too bad she doesn't put out. For me, at least.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Large, natural breasts... E cup or larger and not on a BBW.

I'm with you there! My wife has G cups. She's curvy but not a BBW. Too bad she doesn't put out. For me, at least.

I have 34 D's and they are like catnip to my DH.