St. Anslems lawsuit alleges racism and harassment

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The kid probably didn’t belong there. But that’s hardly exculpatory for the school if the facts are as alleged.

He might have done fine had the school acted differently. The comment that the boys get “naughtier” as they get older made my skin crawl. The adults abdicated their roles and left a Lord of the Flies dynamic in play. While waxing on about the morals of the school. SMH.

And how would you know this, Jane Doe?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The kid probably didn’t belong there. But that’s hardly exculpatory for the school if the facts are as alleged.

I wonder if the family actually disclosed the son's autism and what it entails during the admissions process.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some people care about the quality of HS education distinct from college destination. I’m aiming to send my kids to an elite private HS, but prefer they attend an HBCU for undergrad, which would strike many people on this board as crazy.

Honest question here...why?

Not the PP but doing the exact same thing, elite HS and HBCU college. Why would I not do this? Why wouldn’t I want my child to attend the same school that three generations in our family have attended?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some people care about the quality of HS education distinct from college destination. I’m aiming to send my kids to an elite private HS, but prefer they attend an HBCU for undergrad, which would strike many people on this board as crazy.

Honest question here...why?

I'm not the PP or the parent of a Black child, but I can understand this. In a world that is so harsh to Black children (and adults), parents want to give those children every advantage academically and then have them come of in an environment filled with love, belonging, and support. If this is difficult to understand, you may be White or belong to a privileged group - and you can ask yourself how it feels any time you are an "only" or in the minority in a group or situation.

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[Anonymous]

I am so sorry for this child and family, and grateful they are bringing this horrible behavior to light. This situation has occurred at many schools in the area and people regularly chime in with some version of “that’s not our experience. X School is amazing.” Some students have very positive experiences and the same schools where students feel tormented…both can be true.

Reading this complaint, I am so thankful that we opted not to send our neurodivergent son there for HS, despite their encouragement, both emotional and financial (scholarship offer). It was just a gut feeling and I’m glad I listened.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am so sorry for this child and family, and grateful they are bringing this horrible behavior to light. This situation has occurred at many schools in the area and people regularly chime in with some version of “that’s not our experience. X School is amazing.” Some students have very positive experiences and the same schools where students feel tormented…both can be true.

Reading this complaint, I am so thankful that we opted not to send our neurodivergent son there for HS, despite their encouragement, both emotional and financial (scholarship offer). It was just a gut feeling and I’m glad I listened.

If your son is truly neurodivergent and pretty extensively on the spectrum--e.g., autistic--you made the right decision. If your son is a tad socially awkward and/or very cerebral/intellectual and/or insecure in predominantly "jock" or "bro" environments, he would find a very welcoming, diverse, and kind community at the Abbey. Many boys find a place of belonging, community, and flourishing at this school. Those who are extreme on the spectrum would struggle on a number of levels, as they would most places.

[Anonymous]

I love how posters continue to blindly take the side of the plaintiff based on the plaintiffs complaint as if it’s in anyway objective or factual by default. I mean, it could be, but it also might not be.

[Anonymous]

I love how skeptics of the complaint assume that what’s been alleged is the full body of facts that the plaintiffs have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know anything about the facts in this particular complaint, but as the parent of an autistic student at a different private school (before we pulled him), the disability-related harassment and the adults using autism to blame the victim are very familiar and very believable.

I read the lawsuit and honestly, the racial stuff is awful and shocking but the anti-autism stuff doesn’t surprise me at all as a parent at another private.

I’ve seen teachers literally look away when kids with autism were being harassed by peers (yes, I intervened). Our school let two boys with autism get harassed for years before counseling them out when they finally stepped up to defend themselves. One administrator said out loud to me that “puberty will only make it harder for these boys and we can’t support them.” While that may be true, it seems like autism is the last area around which schools openly discriminate and have a lot of dispassion for supporting current students who struggle socially because of it.

[Anonymous]

An autistic kid beat the crap out of my son (at a public school) and there was no recourse, certainly no lawsuit that would have been entertained.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:An autistic kid beat the crap out of my son (at a public school) and there was no recourse, certainly no lawsuit that would have been entertained.

There should have been. Depending on the autistic child’s specifics an argument could be made that they couldn’t be held responsible, but there’s a lawsuit against the school and the adults who should have been protecting your son. They were responsible for stopping the situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:An autistic kid beat the crap out of my son (at a public school) and there was no recourse, certainly no lawsuit that would have been entertained.

Please you can always sue, you go to the doctor's get a report, go to a shrink get a report, and sue. You can also call the police. Assault is assault. There is always recourse it just depends on how far you are willing to push and pursue.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:An autistic kid beat the crap out of my son (at a public school) and there was no recourse, certainly no lawsuit that would have been entertained.

Please you can always sue, you go to the doctor's get a report, go to a shrink get a report, and sue. You can also call the police. Assault is assault. There is always recourse it just depends on how far you are willing to push and pursue.

Devil is in the details and depends on the state. Sovereign immunity may apply.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An autistic kid beat the crap out of my son (at a public school) and there was no recourse, certainly no lawsuit that would have been entertained.

Please you can always sue, you go to the doctor's get a report, go to a shrink get a report, and sue. You can also call the police. Assault is assault. There is always recourse it just depends on how far you are willing to push and pursue.

Devil is in the details and depends on the state. Sovereign immunity may apply.

Well, I wouldn’t have sued the kid or his family because I don’t actually blame them. And I don’t really blame the school because they are dealing with the least restrictive environment requirement/ manifestation of disability, etc. I blame the systemic factors put in place by the powers that be, but they are immune to suit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An autistic kid beat the crap out of my son (at a public school) and there was no recourse, certainly no lawsuit that would have been entertained.

Please you can always sue, you go to the doctor's get a report, go to a shrink get a report, and sue. You can also call the police. Assault is assault. There is always recourse it just depends on how far you are willing to push and pursue.

Devil is in the details and depends on the state. Sovereign immunity may apply.

Well, I wouldn’t have sued the kid or his family because I don’t actually blame them. And I don’t really blame the school because they are dealing with the least restrictive environment requirement/ manifestation of disability, etc. I blame the systemic factors put in place by the powers that be, but they are immune to suit.

It sounds like you didn’t want to deal with it. There are many entities you could have made a case against depending on the situation and what you were targeting for “blame” - responsible individuals at the school, the school itself, the school district, the county…