Missing college student in the Dominican Republic from Ashburn

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As of today, 3/17 - what’s the common theory?

The latest might be: there's something in that pocket of his that he was holding on to on the video footage on his way back to hotel in the morning.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why people are blaming the guy, and her friends, for not keeping close track of her (as if she were a child)- particularly when they too, were all drinking.

It was very very common in college for one of us to “go home with a guy” or “crash somewhere else” or whatever. In the AM people were either sleeping in, or had places to be. A person would not necessarily be missed until afternoon at the earliest. Which seemed to be the case here.

Now many could say “how terrible, so irresponsible!” and they would not be wrong. It IS irresponsible. And dangerous! But it is not uncommon behavior among partying college kids at all. Particularly if this activity is in a confined space like a college campus or resort (as opposed to going out to clubs etc or somewhere more unusual).

I think it is very understandable (and very believable) that no one realized she was missing until later in the day. They all thought she was with others and/or sleeping, and this would not really be considered unusual college behavior.

Yes but I think posters think the friends could have made sure she was definitely not going on the excursion (someone said Venmo history was released and she had Venmo her friend for the outing). When they heard the young man had not returned (not sure if that part matches timeline), they could have assumed that she was still with him.

I cannot imagine a scenario in which I do not check in with my friend to confirm she’s OK when she has spent multiple hours with a man She has only just met especially when she’s paid a large sum to go on this excursion. Nothing flagged in her friends heads that something was odd or off that she was hooking up with some random guy And missing out on the excursion?

You? Me? Yes of course. But them? They are foolish college girls, presumably running on a few hours sleep and probably very hungover. And didn’t want to miss the excursion they paid for, either. Odds are they woke up not long before the scheduled pickup time (not leaving a lot of extra time to search for their friend) and assumed she was with him and probably sleeping for a hangover. They had her phone so they couldn’t check with her to confirm. So they decided to go on the excursion (rather than be out $) and assumed she’d be there when they returned.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As of today, 3/17 - what’s the common theory?

The latest might be: there's something in that pocket of his that he was holding on to on the video footage on his way back to hotel in the morning.

His room key?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As of today, 3/17 - what’s the common theory?

The latest might be: there's something in that pocket of his that he was holding on to on the video footage on his way back to hotel in the morning.

alien abduction cannot be ruled out

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As of today, 3/17 - what’s the common theory?

The latest might be: there's something in that pocket of his that he was holding on to on the video footage on his way back to hotel in the morning.

His room key?

No a knife dimwit

There would be evidence you dimit. There is none.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As of today, 3/17 - what’s the common theory?

The latest might be: there's something in that pocket of his that he was holding on to on the video footage on his way back to hotel in the morning.

His room key?

No a knife dimwit

I very much so doubt he had a knife, but even if he did he would have disposed of it in the ocean. I don't think anything happened here other than a drunk drowning. He was probably black out drunk so also doesn't remember much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why people are blaming the guy, and her friends, for not keeping close track of her (as if she were a child)- particularly when they too, were all drinking.

It was very very common in college for one of us to “go home with a guy” or “crash somewhere else” or whatever. In the AM people were either sleeping in, or had places to be. A person would not necessarily be missed until afternoon at the earliest. Which seemed to be the case here.

Now many could say “how terrible, so irresponsible!” and they would not be wrong. It IS irresponsible. And dangerous! But it is not uncommon behavior among partying college kids at all. Particularly if this activity is in a confined space like a college campus or resort (as opposed to going out to clubs etc or somewhere more unusual).

I think it is very understandable (and very believable) that no one realized she was missing until later in the day. They all thought she was with others and/or sleeping, and this would not really be considered unusual college behavior.

Yes but I think posters think the friends could have made sure she was definitely not going on the excursion (someone said Venmo history was released and she had Venmo her friend for the outing). When they heard the young man had not returned (not sure if that part matches timeline), they could have assumed that she was still with him.

I cannot imagine a scenario in which I do not check in with my friend to confirm she’s OK when she has spent multiple hours with a man She has only just met especially when she’s paid a large sum to go on this excursion. Nothing flagged in her friends heads that something was odd or off that she was hooking up with some random guy And missing out on the excursion?

She didn’t have her phone (they did), so they couldn’t communicate with her that way. There are also other scenarios, even if she was not with Ribe. For all they know, she could be pretty much anywhere on the resort: at breakfast getting some food or coffee, at the pool or beach lying around/zonked out in a lounger, at the hotel gift shop buying some ibuprofen or Gatorade to deal with a hangover headache. It is a sizable resort.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think people need to realize that nearly all parties involved (other than Ribe’s family) would like to see this blamed on foul play by Ribe.

It would make the girl’s family and friends feel better (this isn’t her fault, this isn’t the friends’ fault, it is HIS fault). Certainly the resort and the DR would like to see this pinned on him as well (DR is safe! This resort is safe! no fault of ours!). They don’t want any bad press, particularly considering their dependence on tourism.

Not saying Ribe couldn’t be guilty. Of course it is possible. But understand the circumstances of this at least.

This is starting to remind me of Amanda Knox situation where the police were convinced of who was guilty and weren’t going to listen to reason. And the media zeroed in on odd behavior of a POI (Amanda) and just declared she was guilty, with very bizarre allegations (cult ritual, threesome gone wrong, etc). people just making stuff up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They don’t have good camaraderie

This is what struck me as well. Fairweather friends, party friends.

She seems like an odd man out in that group, the others seem more cautious, restrained if you will.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's been 12 days of detention and questioning. Charge or release him. US needs to demand his return. If/when DR chooses to charge him, I'm confident our dear leader will ship him back in chains.

If we still have a Constitution, we are all entitled to certain presumptions including innocent until proven guilty. He needs to be released. Where's US LE now?

I mean, I'm in the camp of thinking this was a drowning and the man is not guilty, but you know this is all going down in the Dominican Republic right? It's so American to think the US Constitution applies to investigations in foreign countries.

It happens. Know before you leave to which country you are traveling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why people are blaming the guy, and her friends, for not keeping close track of her (as if she were a child)- particularly when they too, were all drinking.

It was very very common in college for one of us to “go home with a guy” or “crash somewhere else” or whatever. In the AM people were either sleeping in, or had places to be. A person would not necessarily be missed until afternoon at the earliest. Which seemed to be the case here.

Now many could say “how terrible, so irresponsible!” and they would not be wrong. It IS irresponsible. And dangerous! But it is not uncommon behavior among partying college kids at all. Particularly if this activity is in a confined space like a college campus or resort (as opposed to going out to clubs etc or somewhere more unusual).

I think it is very understandable (and very believable) that no one realized she was missing until later in the day. They all thought she was with others and/or sleeping, and this would not really be considered unusual college behavior.

Yes but I think posters think the friends could have made sure she was definitely not going on the excursion (someone said Venmo history was released and she had Venmo her friend for the outing). When they heard the young man had not returned (not sure if that part matches timeline), they could have assumed that she was still with him.

I cannot imagine a scenario in which I do not check in with my friend to confirm she’s OK when she has spent multiple hours with a man She has only just met especially when she’s paid a large sum to go on this excursion. Nothing flagged in her friends heads that something was odd or off that she was hooking up with some random guy And missing out on the excursion?

You? Me? Yes of course. But them? They are foolish college girls, presumably running on a few hours sleep and probably very hungover. And didn’t want to miss the excursion they paid for, either. Odds are they woke up not long before the scheduled pickup time (not leaving a lot of extra time to search for their friend) and assumed she was with him and probably sleeping for a hangover. They had her phone so they couldn’t check with her to confirm. So they decided to go on the excursion (rather than be out $) and assumed she’d be there when they returned.

🤷🏻‍♀️ sure, last we saw Sudiksha she was super drunk with the drunk dude what's-his-name, at the red flag beach, at 5am. Oh, and we have her phone. Let's text other drunk dude and then hurry to meet up with our day boat. Else we'll lose our $24 excursion deposit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think people need to realize that nearly all parties involved (other than Ribe’s family) would like to see this blamed on foul play by Ribe.

It would make the girl’s family and friends feel better (this isn’t her fault, this isn’t the friends’ fault, it is HIS fault). Certainly the resort and the DR would like to see this pinned on him as well (DR is safe! This resort is safe! no fault of ours!). They don’t want any bad press, particularly considering their dependence on tourism.

Not saying Ribe couldn’t be guilty. Of course it is possible. But understand the circumstances of this at least.

The DR wantds it to be a drowning.

Didn't a few German tourists recently "drown" there same beach or nearby? Anyone know what German authorities found afterwards or any pending investigation in that incident?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why people are blaming the guy, and her friends, for not keeping close track of her (as if she were a child)- particularly when they too, were all drinking.

It was very very common in college for one of us to “go home with a guy” or “crash somewhere else” or whatever. In the AM people were either sleeping in, or had places to be. A person would not necessarily be missed until afternoon at the earliest. Which seemed to be the case here.

Now many could say “how terrible, so irresponsible!” and they would not be wrong. It IS irresponsible. And dangerous! But it is not uncommon behavior among partying college kids at all. Particularly if this activity is in a confined space like a college campus or resort (as opposed to going out to clubs etc or somewhere more unusual).

I think it is very understandable (and very believable) that no one realized she was missing until later in the day. They all thought she was with others and/or sleeping, and this would not really be considered unusual college behavior.

Yes but I think posters think the friends could have made sure she was definitely not going on the excursion (someone said Venmo history was released and she had Venmo her friend for the outing). When they heard the young man had not returned (not sure if that part matches timeline), they could have assumed that she was still with him.

I cannot imagine a scenario in which I do not check in with my friend to confirm she’s OK when she has spent multiple hours with a man She has only just met especially when she’s paid a large sum to go on this excursion. Nothing flagged in her friends heads that something was odd or off that she was hooking up with some random guy And missing out on the excursion?

You? Me? Yes of course. But them? They are foolish college girls, presumably running on a few hours sleep and probably very hungover. And didn’t want to miss the excursion they paid for, either. Odds are they woke up not long before the scheduled pickup time (not leaving a lot of extra time to search for their friend) and assumed she was with him and probably sleeping for a hangover. They had her phone so they couldn’t check with her to confirm. So they decided to go on the excursion (rather than be out $) and assumed she’d be there when they returned.

🤷🏻‍♀️ sure, last we saw Sudiksha she was super drunk with the drunk dude what's-his-name, at the red flag beach, at 5am. Oh, and we have her phone. Let's text other drunk dude and then hurry to meet up with our day boat. Else we'll lose our $24 excursion deposit.

If they were responsible and of sound mind, they wouldn’t have left her in that situation in the first place. You really think anything would be different a few hours later?

For all we know, Sudiksha was the crazy friend who pulled sh!t like this all the time (wandering off with random guys etc). And would not listen to reason. Many of us had a friend like that in college. It may not have seemed particularly out of character.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why people are blaming the guy, and her friends, for not keeping close track of her (as if she were a child)- particularly when they too, were all drinking.

It was very very common in college for one of us to “go home with a guy” or “crash somewhere else” or whatever. In the AM people were either sleeping in, or had places to be. A person would not necessarily be missed until afternoon at the earliest. Which seemed to be the case here.

Now many could say “how terrible, so irresponsible!” and they would not be wrong. It IS irresponsible. And dangerous! But it is not uncommon behavior among partying college kids at all. Particularly if this activity is in a confined space like a college campus or resort (as opposed to going out to clubs etc or somewhere more unusual).

I think it is very understandable (and very believable) that no one realized she was missing until later in the day. They all thought she was with others and/or sleeping, and this would not really be considered unusual college behavior.

Yes but I think posters think the friends could have made sure she was definitely not going on the excursion (someone said Venmo history was released and she had Venmo her friend for the outing). When they heard the young man had not returned (not sure if that part matches timeline), they could have assumed that she was still with him.

I cannot imagine a scenario in which I do not check in with my friend to confirm she’s OK when she has spent multiple hours with a man She has only just met especially when she’s paid a large sum to go on this excursion. Nothing flagged in her friends heads that something was odd or off that she was hooking up with some random guy And missing out on the excursion?

You? Me? Yes of course. But them? They are foolish college girls, presumably running on a few hours sleep and probably very hungover. And didn’t want to miss the excursion they paid for, either. Odds are they woke up not long before the scheduled pickup time (not leaving a lot of extra time to search for their friend) and assumed she was with him and probably sleeping for a hangover. They had her phone so they couldn’t check with her to confirm. So they decided to go on the excursion (rather than be out $) and assumed she’d be there when they returned.

🤷🏻‍♀️ sure, last we saw Sudiksha she was super drunk with the drunk dude what's-his-name, at the red flag beach, at 5am. Oh, and we have her phone. Let's text other drunk dude and then hurry to meet up with our day boat. Else we'll lose our $24 excursion deposit.

so that is the reason they are guilty and should be charged with a crime! Pure genius. DR LE needs to consult with the likes of you here to solve the case.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think people need to realize that nearly all parties involved (other than Ribe’s family) would like to see this blamed on foul play by Ribe.

It would make the girl’s family and friends feel better (this isn’t her fault, this isn’t the friends’ fault, it is HIS fault). Certainly the resort and the DR would like to see this pinned on him as well (DR is safe! This resort is safe! no fault of ours!). They don’t want any bad press, particularly considering their dependence on tourism.

Not saying Ribe couldn’t be guilty. Of course it is possible. But understand the circumstances of this at least.

The DR wantds it to be a drowning.

Didn't a few German tourists recently "drown" there same beach or nearby? Anyone know what German authorities found afterwards or any pending investigation in that incident?

People drown in the ocean. Especially at night. Rip currents and red flag warnings aren't as closely monitored at night because locals KNOW you don't swim in the ocean at night.

This is a tragic situation, but I haven't heard anything to show that this was other than bad decisions by drunk college students.