S/O Question for people who wouldn't go to a wedding if your kids aren't invited

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Anonymous wrote:I think this is sort of a cultural thing too. I have lots of Indian friends and they absolutely wouldn't attend without children. I think the cultural thing might be skewing results.

^THIS Many cultures are like this. I think it's a weird American thing that separate generationally

I am American and I think it's weird and sad.

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Anonymous wrote:^ Both deserve a lot of blame. The sister shouldn't have had a hissy about her kids not being invited, and instead she should have just declined the invitation. The bride shouldn't get upset with her sister for not attending. Simple. If you're having a child free wedding, that's fine, but you have to accept that many guests who don't live in town aren't going to be able to come.

Again, an invitation is not a summons.

Guy PP again: this is BS, she should have just gone solo. If she’s OK doing overnight girls-week-type getaways, then she can suck it up and go to the wedding solo. However, your own sister should be a clear exception to the no-kids edict.

Disagree. If it were just no kids at ceremony and reception but the whole family was welcome for the wedding weekend that might be workable, but no kids for a 4 day weekend across the country is a really big ask. That's three overnights! That's take multiple days off work territory already.

Not everyone does "overnight girl's week" type getaways, I love my friends but that is just not a thing we've ever done, so i think the "if she's ok with" may be a red herring.

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Selfish ask from bridezilla bride, but sister should just have politely declined. They both sound like nightmares.

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Anonymous wrote:I think this is sort of a cultural thing too. I have lots of Indian friends and they absolutely wouldn't attend without children. I think the cultural thing might be skewing results.

^THIS Many cultures are like this. I think it's a weird American thing that separate generationally

Your parents live with you, you take care of their bills, but they help take care of your children?

These are also normal, “not American” cultural things. We could get into some of the others, but it’s probably not the place or time.

Point is- different cultures have different values, and things that are important. There was probably a time when all ththe families were in the same town/ community / whatever, and the celebration included EVERYBODY by default. That’s not the case any more.

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Anonymous wrote:What is surprising to me are the number of people who apparently think fancy hotel black tie gala weddings are actually fun instead of something to be endured because you like your family and friends. I find them so boring!

Me too! X1000 when it’s a destination. Forgive me for not wanting you to dictate where I spend my one vacation per year.

And my day in, day out is a mess of sticky fingers, chasing DD around, working, and basically participating in the grind. I wouldn’t trade my life for anything, but what a treat to have a reason to buy a pretty dress, get my hair and nails done, celebrate inone of my friend’s most important moments, and enjoy purely adult conversation, while sipping a few adult drinks.

And the thread is about children at weddings, not destination weddings. I’m sorry that after your wedding, you resent other weddings so much, but the fact that you’re so bitter and refuse to attend someone else’s wedding because doesn’t include your children speaks more about you than it does them.

Your treat is someone else's hell. Nothing about having to shop for a dress, or pretty-princess myself up sounds appealing in any way.

I think on this thread, almost everyone agreed that they would just get a sitter for a local no-kids wedding. So, the destination and out-of-town child-free weddings are highly relevant to the thread, as those are the ones people don't want to do without their kids. Just to give an example, if someone close to me were getting married in California, Hawaii, Europe, or somewhere else I actually wanted to visit, I would attend the wedding but then make a longer family vacation out of it. If my kids aren't included, it's not worth the time and expense to arrange for a multi-day sitter, pay for airfare for myself and husband, pay for hotel rooms, and pay for everything else involved in the wedding.

I agree... in which case, you’re u just RSVP regrets. This isn’t as hard as people are making it out to be. The bridal couple even sent yiu a card with postage!

I think what a lot of people are saying is that yes, we do, and that's it- no malice or ill will, just an rsvp of no and a congratulations card to the couple. There is someone on here who insinuates (or actually, says outright) that this means we have terrible priorities and are ruining our kids childhoods by not attending without them. Oh, and destroying our friendships. Without that one troll this thread would have died on page 2.

Actually, multiple people have disagreed with you multiple times. But go ahead and think that there's a single troll on here that has a crazy viewpoint. Whatever makes you feel better.

Yeah it's a real coincidence that multiple people come here all at once, respond in a flurry of anger and insults to everything with the same tone, and then retreat simultaneously

Sigh. I am one of the people with whom you disagree. There are many others who are not me who have posted similar things. I, personally, was off work and therefore my computer for a long weekend, hence, no more responses from me. Everyone else probably just got tired of arguing with you, because you are incredibly tiring. You can feel free to respond and roll your eyes as many times as you'd like to this post, since I have zero interest in coming back to see what you've said.