I'm fat ask me anything

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Anonymous wrote:If you could snap your fingers and be skinny, would you?

Nope.

OP - so you have no problem being over 300 lbs for the rest of your life?
Sorry, I think that is messed up.

You can't feel good, physically and its really not an attractive look. Just my opinion.

Yet another person who obviously hasn't read this whole thread
If I wanted to be this big for the rest of my life, I wouldn't be trying to change it. I've already said I want to lose weight for health reasons, more than once.
I don't know what you look like, but I may not find you attractive either

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PP, it sounds like you have a lot of self-hatred that you are projecting onto the OP and other overweight people. If you have lost the weight, it's time for some therapy to help you embrace the new you. Seriously, I know everyone says that on DCUM, but you should talk to someone to try and enjoy yourself instead of harping at other people and imagining that your experience defines that of all overweight people.

Actually I had to attend support group meetings in order to have the surgery done and what you discover is that "fat girl" experiences are universal. The group was made up of women and men from all walks of life, all ages, all stages, all professions - yet our experiences and excuses and issues were across the board the same. So yes, I have no problem "imagining" that my experience defines all overweight people.

op here. Ivee been to some of those meetings to but in a different part of the country. Everyone didnt sound like you.

These were meetings for patients who had weight loss surgery. Everyone in the room had lost or was in the process of losing significant weight. That's when most people are able to face up to their past experiences. As the weight comes off, you see that you are leaving that person behind so it's not as hard to fess up.

I've been to a few of these meetings like I said before I considered the surgery. It was required of me. In the end I decided it wasn't for me.
Most require you to meet with a therapist prior to the surgery. Did you ever figure out why you hated yourself so much? I think it bothers you that I don't.

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We will have to agree to disagree.It doesn't matter if you believe me or not. Maybe you just came across shitty men, I don't know. I don't know you, or where you were looking. Plenty of people have weight loss surgery, and gain it back why? Because they didn't change their habits. WLS is not a magic pill. I am currently seeing a dietician, and therapist ( for many reasons) please don't pretend that because you knew people " like me" you know what it's like to be me. I feel sorry for you honestly. I feel sorry that you could love yourself from the inside until you lost the weight. That makes me sad. My normal, decent, boyfriend is attracted to all types of women, INCLUDING me. Even the plus sized pin-up, porn industry is a multi million dollar industry that money is coming from somewhere. My friend Dan wrote for the Village voice " ask a guy who likes fat chicks". He is sane, normal, and an overall awesome person. He is just attracted to fat women. There are plenty of "normal" guys just like him. Like I said before I want to lose weight soley for health reasons. I don't think I'm at a healthy weight. That said I'm not going to hate my body because it's not perfect. Yes I am sexy, yes I am beautiful, I'm fun to be around, I'm caring, and deserving of love. I am a person, There are more things to me than my weight! I am someones sister, someones daughter, and a friend to many. I did state earlier in the thread that I used to binge eat all the time. I don't know why I'm reiterating this. Since I've been seeing my dietician, I don't feel the need to do that anymore.

WLS is actually a "magic pill" - at least for the first few years. It physical forces you to eat differently and less. Now, after the first few years, you can then work your way back up to gaining weight. But if one has surgery, then pursues therapy assuming they have emotional eating issues, in a few years they should be able to maintain a healthy weight.

Why waste time and money with a dietician? You don't need one because you already know what and how to eat, you just don't do it. I have yet to meet a fatty who hasn't been on enough diets to know the calorie count or WW points value of just about any food!

LOL!!! We will never agree. My dr who I saw when considering wls at HOLY CROSS HOSPITAL told me "it's not a magic pill". Yes your body will police itself if you eat bad things, but for how long? I know someone who had the surgery, and has now gained it all back. I've seen or heard about it happening a lot. Hell even some of the BL contestants had surgery before the show. I started seeing a dietician to learn proper portion sizes. You never answered my question. You had WLS to change your body, what are you going to do to change your personality?

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Anonymous wrote:being fat is not healthy.

you can explain all you want about how traffic supposedly stops for you when you wabble down the street or how your current husband/or man is so supportive of you that he packs your purse with snacks when yall go out.

bottom line your health is at risk being fat. be happy with yourself and content with your looks/figure but know you have to maintain some level of health so you can live longer

At least get your insults correct, dip-shit. It's WADDLE or WOBBLE. Not WABBLE.

Actually I don't "Wabble" down the street. I'm a scooter babe silly

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Anonymous wrote:If you could snap your fingers and be skinny, would you?

Nope.

OP - so you have no problem being over 300 lbs for the rest of your life?
Sorry, I think that is messed up.

You can't feel good, physically and its really not an attractive look. Just my opinion.

Oh, and I don't feel good physically. I have to buy 3 seats on the plane and my bed sores constantly hurt when my CNA rolls my body from side to side to clean me.

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If only everyone had to walk around with their weakness apparent to all. You would go into a job interview and the interviewer would immediately see that you can't control your temper, or can't control your urge to gamble, or you drink too much, or can't control your finances, or can't be faithful to your spouse. Maybe if it was obvious to the rest of the world what your problems were you wouldn't be so quick to judge those that are forced to wear their problems around for you to lob contempt at.

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To the PP in South Arlington- Can you leave your email address?

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Anonymous wrote:To the PP in South Arlington- Can you leave your email address?

Just created a new e-mail address - [e-mail].

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Whatever haters. Back on topic:

OP, where do you hang out on weekends?

Was your previous BF white?

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LOL!!! We will never agree. My dr who I saw when considering wls at HOLY CROSS HOSPITAL told me "it's not a magic pill". Yes your body will police itself if you eat bad things, but for how long? I know someone who had the surgery, and has now gained it all back. I've seen or heard about it happening a lot. Hell even some of the BL contestants had surgery before the show. I started seeing a dietician to learn proper portion sizes. You never answered my question. You had WLS to change your body, what are you going to do to change your personality?

Up to three years - certainly long enough to readjust one's eating habits. Yes, some people gain the weight back but that doesn't mean one has to gain the weight back. It's not a requirement after surgery to regain weight. And there are certainly many, many people who have succeeded.

I have never met a fatty who couldn't give the exact portion sizes that one should eat based on numerous diets they have been on.

Some people like being fat. It's their persona. They just feel more comfortable fat. You sound like you are one of them.

My personality did change - for the better. I used to have your personality - defensiveness, a million excuses for being fat, self-righteous, delusional about my actual situation, etc and so forth.

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My personality did change - for the better. I used to have your personality - defensiveness, a million excuses for being fat, self-righteous, delusional about my actual situation, etc and so forth.

ummmmm. yeah.

So, do you think fat people should hate themselves? Do you think feeling unworthy of love and respect is a recipe for success? I don't see OP making excuses, she says she eats too much and that she is fat because of that. No denial on her part. You on the other hand are in complete denial about what an asshole you are

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LOL!!! We will never agree. My dr who I saw when considering wls at HOLY CROSS HOSPITAL told me "it's not a magic pill". Yes your body will police itself if you eat bad things, but for how long? I know someone who had the surgery, and has now gained it all back. I've seen or heard about it happening a lot. Hell even some of the BL contestants had surgery before the show. I started seeing a dietician to learn proper portion sizes. You never answered my question. You had WLS to change your body, what are you going to do to change your personality?

Up to three years - certainly long enough to readjust one's eating habits. Yes, some people gain the weight back but that doesn't mean one has to gain the weight back. It's not a requirement after surgery to regain weight. And there are certainly many, many people who have succeeded.

I have never met a fatty who couldn't give the exact portion sizes that one should eat based on numerous diets they have been on.

Some people like being fat. It's their persona. They just feel more comfortable fat. You sound like you are one of them.

My personality did change - for the better. I used to have your personality - defensiveness, a million excuses for being fat, self-righteous, delusional about my actual situation, etc and so forth.

NP here, can you just stop?! How many times do you have to use that word (I can just imagine the derisive sneer on your face when you say it) to prove that you're a fat hating bigot? WE GET IT, you hate fat people. But
weight discrimination is still discrimination. Substitute any other pejorative and it would be much more obvious. And for the record, it doesn't seem like you lost the self-righteous title...

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Anonymous wrote:Whatever haters. Back on topic:

OP, where do you hang out on weekends?

Was your previous BF white?

I hang out in Georgetown, or when my girlfriends come to visit we got to Baltimore. I spend a lot of time in Fairfax, I like the great American Restaurants.
My previous bf was half Italian and half bengali( Bangladesh). I could care less about race. I just wanted a nice guy with a backbone.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you exercise regularly? What do you do?

No. I am one of those people who starts and then stops. I feel very self conscious when I go to the gym.
I do walk a mile or two 5 days a week.

OP, I used to be self conscious too. I was always overweight as a kid and even through adulthood. I work out a lot now and there are a couple things I wish I'd figured out earlier -

1. People who work out at the gym are generally much more concerned about their own bodies than yours. Whether it's one more mile, one more rep, ten more pounds...
2. Starting out at the gym is much harder than keeping it up, in a lot of ways. The first five trips to the gym and much harder than trips 50-55!
3. Weight lifting will really make you much more confident about your body!

When I see someone who is clearly just getting started with a workout routine I want to give them a hug and a high five. I don't judge that 300 lb woman walking 2 MPH on the treadmill. I am proud of her because I know how hard it is to get started.

I really encourage you to lift weights - I have always struggled with my weight and I really started to enjoy exercise when I started weightlifting. I love focusing on what my body can DO and not just what it looks like. It sounds like you're really confident, and you'd like that aspect

Do you want a workout buddy? I live in South Arlington and you sound like you'd be fun to hang out with!

Thanks for this! I just moved to MD, otherwise I'd take you up on it. I do enjoy lifting weights. I really want to get my endurance up. I miss the energy working out gave me.

Gym goer here. Re: the bolded part, me too! And when I see them there day after day making progress, I admire them.

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there was something higher then the eye could see, something sweeter then the nose could smell, but the heart could feel it, and the heart can tell