Percentage of BIPOCs at your child’s top pick

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid is “White-passing” bilingual Hispanic (their first language at home was Spanish). Their high school friend group is mostly white (fcps). They will probably attend a majority white university (large flagship), but their program is diverse, compared to the general student body. I hope all goes well for them, and they don’t experience ethnic/racial micro-agressions, like I did in college.

Can you share examples?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid is “White-passing” bilingual Hispanic (their first language at home was Spanish). Their high school friend group is mostly white (fcps). They will probably attend a majority white university (large flagship), but their program is diverse, compared to the general student body. I hope all goes well for them, and they don’t experience ethnic/racial micro-agressions, like I did in college.

Can you share examples?

"tech immigrant" "robot" "drone" "unearned priviledge"
Indian parents experience it daily on DCUM

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid is “White-passing” bilingual Hispanic (their first language at home was Spanish). Their high school friend group is mostly white (fcps). They will probably attend a majority white university (large flagship), but their program is diverse, compared to the general student body. I hope all goes well for them, and they don’t experience ethnic/racial micro-agressions, like I did in college.

Can you share examples?

"tech immigrant" "robot" "drone" "unearned priviledge"
Indian parents experience it daily on DCUM

I personally sorry you had to experience these, and generally agree they are micro-aggressions directed at you, though with one exception. If we are having an honest conversation and being truthful, I think you have to agree Indians and Indian-Americans as a whole do in fact benefit from unearned privilege.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid is “White-passing” bilingual Hispanic (their first language at home was Spanish). Their high school friend group is mostly white (fcps). They will probably attend a majority white university (large flagship), but their program is diverse, compared to the general student body. I hope all goes well for them, and they don’t experience ethnic/racial micro-agressions, like I did in college.

Can you share examples?

"tech immigrant" "robot" "drone" "unearned priviledge"
Indian parents experience it daily on DCUM

I personally sorry you had to experience these, and generally agree they are micro-aggressions directed at you, though with one exception. If we are having an honest conversation and being truthful, I think you have to agree Indians and Indian-Americans as a whole do in fact benefit from unearned privilege.

unlike white people.

and black people. and latin people.

wait what were we talking about..

[Anonymous]

Not wise to view any group as one uniform monolith. Even within groups and within families, there are different social and economic experiences. I’m Indian-American and there’s a difference between the first wave that came during the 60’s and 70’s (doctors and engineers), the second wave who came during the 80’s (business people and factory workers) and then the more recent “tech immigrant wave”. Some subgroups are more privileged than others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid is “White-passing” bilingual Hispanic (their first language at home was Spanish). Their high school friend group is mostly white (fcps). They will probably attend a majority white university (large flagship), but their program is diverse, compared to the general student body. I hope all goes well for them, and they don’t experience ethnic/racial micro-agressions, like I did in college.

Can you share examples?

My roommates thought I kept my room and common areas clean because I was “used to cleaning”. People assuming I couldn’t speak English because I chose to speak in Spanish with other Latin Americans, or people mocking me speaking in Spanish at a restaurant. My own kid had to hear her classmates chant “Build that wall” when she was in elementary school. Yeah, it happens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am very happy that I went to one of the problematic "non-diverse" schools mentioned in this thread. Among other things, I'm happy I didn't have to deal with whatever is going on here. "Oppression Olympics" is right.

+1
I had thought at this point (2025) we would be past the sorting of people into their various boxes and the "oppression olympics," as you put it. Clearly, a certain segment of the population has no plans to let that go.

It’s not sorting people into their various boxes.

It’s baskets. People must be sorted into separate baskets, based on the color of their skin.

haha

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am very happy that I went to one of the problematic "non-diverse" schools mentioned in this thread. Among other things, I'm happy I didn't have to deal with whatever is going on here. "Oppression Olympics" is right.

+1
I had thought at this point (2025) we would be past the sorting of people into their various boxes and the "oppression olympics," as you put it. Clearly, a certain segment of the population has no plans to let that go.

It’s not sorting people into their various boxes.

It’s baskets. People must be sorted into separate baskets, based on the color of their skin.

Hoping this is satire…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid is “White-passing” bilingual Hispanic (their first language at home was Spanish). Their high school friend group is mostly white (fcps). They will probably attend a majority white university (large flagship), but their program is diverse, compared to the general student body. I hope all goes well for them, and they don’t experience ethnic/racial micro-agressions, like I did in college.

Can you share examples?

My roommates thought I kept my room and common areas clean because I was “used to cleaning”. People assuming I couldn’t speak English because I chose to speak in Spanish with other Latin Americans, or people mocking me speaking in Spanish at a restaurant. My own kid had to hear her classmates chant “Build that wall” when she was in elementary school. Yeah, it happens.

Forgot to add: Getting a lot of gross/negative attention from white/fratty type guys who thought my friends and I were “easy” because we danced to Latin music. Ugh! It made us feel so uncomfortable.

[Anonymous]

Genuinely curious - are people still using words like BIPOC and micro aggressions? I live in a fairly red area and was under the impression these weren’t used anymore. Seems very 2024 college campus.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Genuinely curious - are people still using words like BIPOC and micro aggressions? I live in a fairly red area and was under the impression these weren’t used anymore. Seems very 2024 college campus.

???

M'am. I think you fell down in an echo chamber and you can't get up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Genuinely curious - are people still using words like BIPOC and micro aggressions? I live in a fairly red area and was under the impression these weren’t used anymore. Seems very 2024 college campus.

They are still used in very liberal circles.

[Anonymous]

So much more complex than people on this thread are recognizing.

I’m white with BIPOC kids. Both my kids see themselves as individuals first and are turned off by identity politics and affiliation by race. OTOH, they have no interest in schools that seem to have a dominant culture—whether class-based, political, or geographical.

Racial diversity is, to them, a proxy for determining whether a school is diverse in the sense of not being monolithic in these other ways.

I think it’s an imperfect measure but also reasonably accurate in a general sense. I attended a monolithic SLAC (think frat parties and lax bros) then a very diverse grad school. Both awesome experiences, but the grad school had a MUCH wider range of experiences and people. Far more interesting, not bc of racial/ethnic diversity, but bc of what it indicated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So much more complex than people on this thread are recognizing.

I’m white with BIPOC kids. Both my kids see themselves as individuals first and are turned off by identity politics and affiliation by race. OTOH, they have no interest in schools that seem to have a dominant culture—whether class-based, political, or geographical.

Racial diversity is, to them, a proxy for determining whether a school is diverse in the sense of not being monolithic in these other ways.

I think it’s an imperfect measure but also reasonably accurate in a general sense. I attended a monolithic SLAC (think frat parties and lax bros) then a very diverse grad school. Both awesome experiences, but the grad school had a MUCH wider range of experiences and people. Far more interesting, not bc of racial/ethnic diversity, but bc of what it indicated.

My white DS was comfortable with the socioeconomic diversity of his HS and wanted something similar for his college.

He got admitted to a private that is racially diverse (almost the same percentage of white students as his HS), but the economic aspect couldn’t be fully replicated at a private as it could be at a public like Rutgers, Temple or UCs.

But he did look into the economic profile of the families of the students. For this, there was data from niche.com (although the source is unknown) and the old 2017 NYT database. There is also information about the percentage of Pell Grant recipients. While imperfect, he reassured that there would be a fairly substantial number lower middle income kids.

An imperfect science to be sure.

[Anonymous]

I think most students are looking for economic diversity, rather than pure racial diversity. The rich GDS and Sidwell black students aren't bringing anything special to campus. Students value a diversity of experience rather than color, which is increasingly meaningless among 18 year olds in 2025.