When am i too old for more kids?

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Anonymous wrote:"Good for you...you'll be 50 in 10 years while I will be only 38....talk to me then"

"VERY FUNNY! I think that women in their 20's in the end will make better parents because we will have the stamina to run our children from soccer pratice to football practice and then on to basketball practice...where as the women in their 40's will be old and decrepit by the time their kid is 10....hey good luck with that....hope the osteoporosis doesn't effect your ability to take your kids out to the park and push them on the swing. "

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WHO are you, you crazy young gals? Thanks for proving that immaturity rules this thread! I'll take my 10 years, thank you. When you grow up and figure out how to handle your life, you can come to the "mature" ones.

OHHHHHH it's okay for the over 40 women to talk trash about the 20 year old mothers...but then when we start sticking up for ourselves then we are immature?? Sounds like most of you women can't take the heat...so get on out of the kitchen!

At least we can bring home the bacon AND fry it up in a pan. But, being oh so young, I guess you won't get THAT cultural allusion.

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Here's a tip for the young moms. You always feel young, no matter how old you are. I think you guys are a lot more conscious of any age gap than we older moms are. I have a neighbor who's around 30 and our babies are about a month apart. We were really friendly until she learned that I was 40. Then she totally stopped calling. I honestly didn't feel like there was a big age gap but it clearly made her uncomfortable and actually I remember feeling a bit that way myself when I was 30. Anyway, the point is, just wait until you are 40 and see how you feel. And maybe you'll want another kid then, who knows?

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Anonymous wrote:Not the first to point this out in this thread, but can we get a little middle ground, please? It's not either 19 or 45. Many people have children in their early thirties after several years of working. For example, I know many mothers who have recently had children after 6 or so years of law practice. They are financially stable AND still fairly young. So, it can't be that you have to be in your 40s to be financially stable, and, the comparison should not always be with unwed 19 year olds with little chance of financial sucess. I think people would feel less judgmental of you if they understood better why your 30s was not an appropriate time for you to have children, seeing as how many women are able to establish a career by this point in their lives. My guess is that the answers vary a lot, but I doubt that it takes most women 20 years post-college to become financially prepared to support a child, especially if you have a spouse who works. Anyway, please stop creating this 45 with 3 degrees vs. 19 and homeless dischotomy. The fact is that many women have kids b/t 30 and 35.

Financial Stability here. The subject of the post was whether 40 is too late to have kids. I think alot of older women sensed a lack of support from some here in their own decision to go ahead and have kids at 40+. So they all pointed out the distinct advantages of having children at 40+ that aren't commonly seen when women are younger.

Sure, there are some highly educated women in their 30's who may be earning a strong income. But the advantage of women who are 40+ is that not only do more of them have a stronger education, they, more importantly, have had more time to accumulate MONEY (I'm being blunt and not cushioning my words diplomatically as one other poster asked me to do LOL). This brings them peace of mind, and it also allows them to quit their jobs if they desire to focus solely on raising their child as a SAHM. It has many advantages. The older moms also have more relationship stability.

This isn't to say 30+ moms are clueless, unproductive, or unable to raise children properly. This is to not deny advantages the 40+ moms have.

Will all of you people just stop! Just because you have a nice little nest egg or more education doesn't mean that you are going to be a better mother! Being a mother is something that you learn while raising your kid. "Financial Stability" or whatever you want to call yourself, I have a better name for you...how about "Self Righteous" Get off your high horse and come on back down to reality. Most of our mothers and grandmothers had their babies at a very young age and I am pretty damn sure that we all turned out just fine. My mother is my hero, she taught me patience, love, respect and trust....something I am currently teaching my son...and something that I don't need a college degree to instill in him. Everyone who is saying that women in their 40's with more money and more education will be better mothers, make me sick! Sounds like you need to grow up to me.

Silly goose. Have you learned nothing on this board? One has to be at least 37 [i] to have the wisdom to select the best developmental toys, foods, and apparel to equip a baby to ace a test and get into the only preschool in town that will be able to cope with their extraordinary, unprecedented talent, 99.9 percentile genius, and the sophistication that they've acquired living with such accomplished parents. After that, at about 41, a parent has what it takes to select the soccer program that will help them catch the eye of the Ivy League athletic recruiters, and have the money to deal with the Ivies' lack of scholarships, and then have the social experience to throw a wedding that makes the style section.

That is the ONLY way that a child can become a happy, well-developed person.

VERY FUNNY! I think that women in their 20's in the end will make better parents because we will have the stamina to run our children from soccer pratice to football practice and then on to basketball practice...where as the women in their 40's will be old and decrepit by the time their kid is 10....hey good luck with that....hope the osteoporosis doesn't effect your ability to take your kids out to the park and push them on the swing.

HEY! I'M 40 AND JUST RAN 10 MILES IN UNDER AN HOUR! THAT'S UNDER A 6 MILE MILE!!! I BET YOU CAN'T KEEP UP WITH ME! I ALSO HAVE 4 KIDS ALL UNDER 8 AND HAVE NO PROBLEM KEPINGUP WITH ALL THEIR SCHOOL AND ATHELTIC EVENTS!

Good for you...you'll be 50 in 10 years while I will be only 38....talk to me then

NO NEED TO TALK IN 10 YEARS, I'LL STILL BE MILES AHEAD OF YOU!

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Turn your hearing aid up, honey, you're yelling!


Sorry... couldn't resist.

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You give true meaning to the word BITCH!

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I'm 17:36, was the bitch comment directed at me? I was just kidding; hence the "sorry, couldn't resist" disclaimer at the end of my post. Really, that one was just too easy for me to let it go. I'm not one of the "40-year-olds are all dried up" juvenile posters (though I am the one who pointed out that Financial Stability Poster was really just talking about more, more, more money).

But the hearing aid comment was just a joke. You know you're not supposed to type in all caps on a message board, anyway!

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Anonymous wrote:"Good for you...you'll be 50 in 10 years while I will be only 38....talk to me then"

"VERY FUNNY! I think that women in their 20's in the end will make better parents because we will have the stamina to run our children from soccer pratice to football practice and then on to basketball practice...where as the women in their 40's will be old and decrepit by the time their kid is 10....hey good luck with that....hope the osteoporosis doesn't effect your ability to take your kids out to the park and push them on the swing. "

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WHO are you, you crazy young gals? Thanks for proving that immaturity rules this thread! I'll take my 10 years, thank you. When you grow up and figure out how to handle your life, you can come to the "mature" ones.

OHHHHHH it's okay for the over 40 women to talk trash about the 20 year old mothers...but then when we start sticking up for ourselves then we are immature?? Sounds like most of you women can't take the heat...so get on out of the kitchen!

At least we can bring home the bacon AND fry it up in a pan. But, being oh so young, I guess you won't get THAT cultural allusion.

You know, at your age eating bacon could be detrimental to your health...Lipitor can only handle so much. Plus you should think twice before feeding that crap to your kids, mommy dearest. Focus on Calcium, you wanna have strong bones to endure child birth and delivery...wouldn't want you to break a hip.

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Anonymous wrote:"Good for you...you'll be 50 in 10 years while I will be only 38....talk to me then"

"VERY FUNNY! I think that women in their 20's in the end will make better parents because we will have the stamina to run our children from soccer pratice to football practice and then on to basketball practice...where as the women in their 40's will be old and decrepit by the time their kid is 10....hey good luck with that....hope the osteoporosis doesn't effect your ability to take your kids out to the park and push them on the swing. "

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WHO are you, you crazy young gals? Thanks for proving that immaturity rules this thread! I'll take my 10 years, thank you. When you grow up and figure out how to handle your life, you can come to the "mature" ones.

OHHHHHH it's okay for the over 40 women to talk trash about the 20 year old mothers...but then when we start sticking up for ourselves then we are immature?? Sounds like most of you women can't take the heat...so get on out of the kitchen!

At least we can bring home the bacon AND fry it up in a pan. But, being oh so young, I guess you won't get THAT cultural allusion.

You know, at your age eating bacon could be detrimental to your health...Lipitor can only handle so much. Plus you should think twice before feeding that crap to your kids, mommy dearest. Focus on Calcium, you wanna have strong bones to endure child birth and delivery...wouldn't want you to break a hip.

Seriously, all normal people out there, please ust ignore and stop feeding this whack-job troll! She obviously just enjoys being mean-spirited and ugly to people. Why encourage her?

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Listen sugar, I will be able to enjoy my retirement and menopause without a toddler running around. "Yuck" is what your child will say when she sees your sagging jaw line and it will be your child that is embarassed when or if you can even make it to the high school graduation and the bleachers don't accomodate walkers. Don't get all sad when little sally asks why you look like little susies grandma and not her mom.

So you'll be enjoying your retirement with no toddlers running around; in fact, with kids all grown up and your husband remarried to a younger woman to have round two in his fifties (Yuck!!!!) while I try to navigate the bleachers with my walker. I'll take navigating the bleachers with my walker, thanks. My teenage kids can hold my elbows and help me up the steps.

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Listen sugar, I will be able to enjoy my retirement and menopause without a toddler running around. "Yuck" is what your child will say when she sees your sagging jaw line and it will be your child that is embarassed when or if you can even make it to the high school graduation and the bleachers don't accomodate walkers. Don't get all sad when little sally asks why you look like little susies grandma and not her mom.

So you'll be enjoying your retirement with no toddlers running around; in fact, with kids all grown up and your husband remarried to a younger woman to have round two in his fifties (Yuck!!!!) while I try to navigate the bleachers with my walker. I'll take navigating the bleachers with my walker, thanks. My teenage kids can hold my elbows and help me up the steps.

And what makes you think that your husband won't leave you...it is 2008 hun, get over yourself!

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Listen sugar, I will be able to enjoy my retirement and menopause without a toddler running around. "Yuck" is what your child will say when she sees your sagging jaw line and it will be your child that is embarassed when or if you can even make it to the high school graduation and the bleachers don't accomodate walkers. Don't get all sad when little sally asks why you look like little susies grandma and not her mom.

So you'll be enjoying your retirement with no toddlers running around; in fact, with kids all grown up and your husband remarried to a younger woman to have round two in his fifties (Yuck!!!!) while I try to navigate the bleachers with my walker. I'll take navigating the bleachers with my walker, thanks. My teenage kids can hold my elbows and help me up the steps.

And what makes you think that your husband won't leave you...it is 2008 hun, get over yourself!

agreed. what makes you think that your hubby isn't over that that 20 year olds house during his lunch break.....

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Financial Stability here...I kinda like the label now. LOL

When I argued the older mom's perspective, I was criticized for providing no evidence other than my observation and opinion. So I provided statistical evidence and a survey also. When a counterargument is impossible most mature women remain silent or acknowledge that our point has some merit. Occasionally with some people, one will see the venom spew, the crude comments, and the other side resorting to name-calling. They must...after all they're cornered with no other sensible, rational counterargument at this point and they feel they must salvage their dignity. And then one sees their true anger and desperation as revealed in the crude and lowly comments we've just now read. Yes, there is alot of ugliness in what is being revealed with some of these younger women's comments about older women, because it's not based on facts or statistics or articles but rather insults such as the comments about depends undergarments, the sagging jawline, hormone replacement, none of which have anything to do with an older woman's ability to be a great parent.
The beauty in these ugly comments is that it also reveals the maturity level of the poster, and she has now become the poster child of teenage or immature women on DCUM. Congratulations are in order I suppose.

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Anonymous wrote:Financial Stability here...I kinda like the label now. LOL

When I argued the older mom's perspective, I was criticized for providing no evidence other than my observation and opinion. So I provided statistical evidence and a survey also. When a counterargument is impossible most mature women remain silent or acknowledge that our point has some merit. Occasionally with some people, one will see the venom spew, the crude comments, and the other side resorting to name-calling. They must...after all they're cornered with no other sensible, rational counterargument at this point and they feel they must salvage their dignity. And then one sees their true anger and desperation as revealed in the crude and lowly comments we've just now read. Yes, there is alot of ugliness in what is being revealed with some of these younger women's comments about older women, because it's not based on facts or statistics or articles but rather insults such as the comments about depends undergarments, the sagging jawline, hormone replacement, none of which have anything to do with an older woman's ability to be a great parent.
The beauty in these ugly comments is that it also reveals the maturity level of the poster, and she has now become the poster child of teenage or immature women on DCUM. Congratulations are in order I suppose.

Well, Thank you...I will accept the congratulations and oh by the way...it's not just one of us that is posting...it's several. Whether you like to see if or not...your 40 over lifestyle is not socially acceptable. You put yourself and your unborn children at risk. Not a smart idea.

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Listen sugar, I will be able to enjoy my retirement and menopause without a toddler running around. "Yuck" is what your child will say when she sees your sagging jaw line and it will be your child that is embarassed when or if you can even make it to the high school graduation and the bleachers don't accomodate walkers. Don't get all sad when little sally asks why you look like little susies grandma and not her mom.

So you'll be enjoying your retirement with no toddlers running around; in fact, with kids all grown up and your husband remarried to a younger woman to have round two in his fifties (Yuck!!!!) while I try to navigate the bleachers with my walker. I'll take navigating the bleachers with my walker, thanks. My teenage kids can hold my elbows and help me up the steps.

And what makes you think that your husband won't leave you...it is 2008 hun, get over yourself!

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At least i'll still have my kids underfoot when he does.

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By then, you'll be 6 feet under right???