If you said no to beach week...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My child is a freshman and I’ve always known it’s going to be a no. I doubt there will even be a discussion about it. It’s just totally not on our radar.

I admire your parenting.

Why?

This is a parent that raised kids she can not trust.

Beach week is not a requirement however if your child is not capable of going then they are not ready for college or HS graduation for that matter

This is why kids fail out of college and life.

If your kid is 18 when beach week occurs it’s not your call.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What are all these perfect little cherubs doing for a week if they aren’t hooking up and drinking?

They're hiding and embarrassed that their parents don't trust them. They are watching social media and wishing they were there. One thing they are not- thanking their parents. Let your young adult live.

That’s pretty pathetic if that’s all they can think of to do. And if they’re embarrassed not to “fit in,” that’s not parenting I’d brag about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is marked safe from Beach Week.

https://chantillynews.org/12841/opinions/parents-should-condemn-senior-beach-week-discourage-illegal-activities/#:~:text=Beach%20week%20is%20a%20period,to%20exist%20today%20among%20teenagers.

https://wobx.com/2023/06/08/fraud-surrounding-beach-week-threatens-north-carolinas-visitor-economy/?fbclid=IwAR0CkWq7nLUwWgyn21Kyo2U0rcp1w3ukEAF6WGAMu1QQc-gp_w2IKkY8Ms4#

https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2018/09/parents-beach-week/571576/

https://www.insidenova.com/headlines/outer-banks-to-northern-virginia-teens-take-beach-week-elsewhere/article_05fa05de-ad61-11ed-ac9b-d74f48490b69.html

My parents wouldn’t let me go, and I’m forever grateful. I heard the stories. My daughters didn’t want to go, after they heard the stories.
I’m glad there are good parents out there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My child is a freshman and I’ve always known it’s going to be a no. I doubt there will even be a discussion about it. It’s just totally not on our radar.

I admire your parenting.

Why?

This is a parent that raised kids she can not trust.

Beach week is not a requirement however if your child is not capable of going then they are not ready for college or HS graduation for that matter

This is why kids fail out of college and life.

If your kid is 18 when beach week occurs it’s not your call.

Ha ha! You wish. The kids who are taught boundaries, go to college, and excel in all ways.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter’s friend group just left for a great week. 7 of them in Dewey beach. A parent is staying in Ocean City, but just for emergency. I’m expecting her to create great memories!

Parents on this thread seem so insufferable.

I struggle with the part where parents have to mislead and lie to the person renting them the house. How do you all get around the fact in your brain that no one would rent to a group of kids this age and someone had to sign for them and misrepresent the situation? All these beach houses have rules against this. This is a genuine question. This part bothers me.

Some landlords are really cracking down on it too. I don’t know about Dewey but I’ve heard in OBX of landlords doing random drop bys and asking to see the adult who leased the place.

I told my ds he was welcome to go if he found someone willing to rent to high school grads. I refused to sign or co-sign. Of course he found someone and paid a steep deposit. Before he and his friends left, parents met with everyone to go over basic rules and leaving the house in good shape. There were no issues and they got their deposit back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What are all these perfect little cherubs doing for a week if they aren’t hooking up and drinking?

Lots of mini golf, arcades, go karting, shopping, movies, junk food.

You have a lot to learn.

Well I have all of the receipts and the location points and I spent the week with them. Not saying they didn’t drink but if they did, it wasn’t their major source
Of entertainment.

Most of this group are athletes who have school scholarships and are still playing their sports.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My child is a freshman and I’ve always known it’s going to be a no. I doubt there will even be a discussion about it. It’s just totally not on our radar.

I admire your parenting.

Why?

This is a parent that raised kids she can not trust.

Beach week is not a requirement however if your child is not capable of going then they are not ready for college or HS graduation for that matter

This is why kids fail out of college and life.

If your kid is 18 when beach week occurs it’s not your call.

You have got to be a teenager and trolling. I refuse to believe a fully grown adult could be this ignorant and lacking in reasoning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you not trust your child? What’s going to happen when your child is at college?

To say no when all of their friends are going sounds cruel without a good reason or other plans.

What if you stayed close by and their car had to stay at your place? Is there anything you could compromise on? Or another child’s parents took a couple of kids to a different beach and kids had their own hotel room, but parents were there. Work with your child or you will hear nothing next year.

Are you insane?? You make parenting decisions based on what other kids do?!!!! lol.

These aren’t kids. They are adults. Beach Week is a preview of the college party scene. What are you going to do in three months when you find out Larla is going to a frat party?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most of this group are athletes who have school scholarships and are still playing their sports.

I have a son and daughter that are both current D1 athletes. They tell me stories all the time about how crazy team parties are. The athletes all party in conjunction with one another to keep things in the family. Just wait until their college team initiation. If they tell you they’re going to a team formal ask them what that entails. That you don’t know how much athletes drink means your child is hiding things from you.

[Anonymous]

Some of the parents in this thread are so ignorant and not ready to allow their adult child to grow-up. We are just about the only country that allows 18-year-olds to go into the military, but does not let them drink. Regardless, let them be! Stop worrying about other 18 yo's. You've had 18 years to instill great values, now it is time to let them soar.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most of this group are athletes who have school scholarships and are still playing their sports.

I have a son and daughter that are both current D1 athletes. They tell me stories all the time about how crazy team parties are. The athletes all party in conjunction with one another to keep things in the family. Just wait until their college team initiation. If they tell you they’re going to a team formal ask them what that entails. That you don’t know how much athletes drink means your child is hiding things from you.

I appreciate your sharing your experiences. That is not consistent with ours, which is still end of HS. I am glad that we are not in an area where drinking has not been an issue. But, I do appreciate knowing what to think about for the future.

And, my head is not in the sand. My siblings and I were some of the worst of the worst. Fortunately my kids have not followed in those footsteps.