Should the guy always pay?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most women do not make a lot of money and are struggling to get by so of course the man pays.

Certainly not true in the DCUM demographic, where the women are highly educated professionals.

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Who are these women that all think they’re top 1% for looks and income?? If you’re on DCUM, you’re not. I work with women who are legit top 1% in looks and wealth, and I promise they ain’t on here. You’re probably like me - the prettiest in your high school class, maybe did some modeling, now make 6 figures. Sorry, but we’re nowhere near the top.

Also pretty horrible to teach your daughters to think this way. My parents drilled it into me that because I was beautiful and came from a wealthy family, I needed to find an attractive, wealthy man. It screwed me up BAD and it took me until my mid-30s to learn what it actually important in a partner. [/quote]

I said I was top 1% brains and top 10% looks. Never said I was top 1% looks. I am not.

Dh is top 1% income and we are in top 1% NW.[/quote]

Sorry but unless you’re a 25 year old model, you’re not top 10% looks.

And top 1% brains people are NOT on DCUM. This is not a place where geniuses hang out.

Really wish women would get over their need to be competitive. No one cares how pretty you are, how smart you are, or how rich and special your H is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who are these women that all think they’re top 1% for looks and income?? If you’re on DCUM, you’re not. I work with women who are legit top 1% in looks and wealth, and I promise they ain’t on here. You’re probably like me - the prettiest in your high school class, maybe did some modeling, now make 6 figures. Sorry, but we’re nowhere near the top.

Also pretty horrible to teach your daughters to think this way. My parents drilled it into me that because I was beautiful and came from a wealthy family, I needed to find an attractive, wealthy man. It screwed me up BAD and it took me until my mid-30s to learn what it actually important in a partner.

I said I was top 1% brains and top 10% looks. Never said I was top 1% looks. I am not.

Dh is top 1% income and we are in top 1% NW.

So you're a 9 out of 10 in looks?

You realize that's pretty much model status right? Is that you?

If she’s not lying about her husband job and income, it’s totally possible that a high server married a not trashy looking lady. Also, the top law schools girls crowd tends to be better looking than average. I went to my reunion and all female classmates still look very decent in their 40s. They work, dress nicely, workout, have resources for cosmetic surgery.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who are these women that all think they’re top 1% for looks and income?? If you’re on DCUM, you’re not. I work with women who are legit top 1% in looks and wealth, and I promise they ain’t on here. You’re probably like me - the prettiest in your high school class, maybe did some modeling, now make 6 figures. Sorry, but we’re nowhere near the top.

Also pretty horrible to teach your daughters to think this way. My parents drilled it into me that because I was beautiful and came from a wealthy family, I needed to find an attractive, wealthy man. It screwed me up BAD and it took me until my mid-30s to learn what it actually important in a partner.

I said I was top 1% brains and top 10% looks. Never said I was top 1% looks. I am not.

Dh is top 1% income and we are in top 1% NW.

So you're a 9 out of 10 in looks?

You realize that's pretty much model status right? Is that you?

If she’s not lying about her husband job and income, it’s totally possible that a high server married a not trashy looking lady. Also, the top law schools girls crowd tends to be better looking than average. I went to my reunion and all female classmates still look very decent in their 40s. They work, dress nicely, workout, have resources for cosmetic surgery.

High earner, typo

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, for the people making a “feminist” argument for why men shouldn’t pay, do you think women should spend money on dates? Waxing, makeup, those shouldn’t be one sided expenses for you bastions of egalitarianism right?

Because this is really just a lot of cheap men pretending feminism and, whine funny, it’s kind of sad.

Makeup and waxing stay with you when the date is over, and if you didn’t date, you’d be doing it anyway.

And the dude would be eating anyway.

He’d be eating his meal. Not his date’s meal.

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Who are these women that all think they’re top 1% for looks and income?? If you’re on DCUM, you’re not. I work with women who are legit top 1% in looks and wealth, and I promise they ain’t on here. You’re probably like me - the prettiest in your high school class, maybe did some modeling, now make 6 figures. Sorry, but we’re nowhere near the top.

Also pretty horrible to teach your daughters to think this way. My parents drilled it into me that because I was beautiful and came from a wealthy family, I needed to find an attractive, wealthy man. It screwed me up BAD and it took me until my mid-30s to learn what it actually important in a partner. [/quote]

I said I was top 1% brains and top 10% looks. Never said I was top 1% looks. I am not.

Dh is top 1% income and we are in top 1% NW.[/quote]

Sorry but unless you’re a 25 year old model, you’re not top 10% looks.

And top 1% brains people are NOT on DCUM. This is not a place where geniuses hang out.

Really wish women would get over their need to be competitive. No one cares how pretty you are, how smart you are, or how rich and special your H is. [/quote]

She probably meant top 1% for her age .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Read this poster who commented after you: men get invested financially in women and dates they like. It’s the men’s world. Yes, if a guy wants me to split the check my conclusion is he doesn’t find me hot so no point continue seeing him.

This is also known as prostitution

You need to read up on prostitution, which is exchanging physical favors for money. Being treated to dinner by a date is, get ready, accepting a gesture of kindness and hospitality from a potential partner. There is no implication of an obligation and the kind of guy who thinks there is is the kind of guy who doesn’t get a second date.

There’s really very little to differentiate the two.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who are these women that all think they’re top 1% for looks and income?? If you’re on DCUM, you’re not. I work with women who are legit top 1% in looks and wealth, and I promise they ain’t on here. You’re probably like me - the prettiest in your high school class, maybe did some modeling, now make 6 figures. Sorry, but we’re nowhere near the top.

Also pretty horrible to teach your daughters to think this way. My parents drilled it into me that because I was beautiful and came from a wealthy family, I needed to find an attractive, wealthy man. It screwed me up BAD and it took me until my mid-30s to learn what it actually important in a partner.

I said I was top 1% brains and top 10% looks. Never said I was top 1% looks. I am not.

Dh is top 1% income and we are in top 1% NW.

So you're a 9 out of 10 in looks?

You realize that's pretty much model status right? Is that you?

This is that delusional Russian.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, for the people making a “feminist” argument for why men shouldn’t pay, do you think women should spend money on dates? Waxing, makeup, those shouldn’t be one sided expenses for you bastions of egalitarianism right?

Because this is really just a lot of cheap men pretending feminism and, whine funny, it’s kind of sad.

Makeup and waxing stay with you when the date is over, and if you didn’t date, you’d be doing it anyway.

And the dude would be eating anyway.

He’d be eating his meal. Not his date’s meal.

Any guy who is cheap enough to feel bitter for $30 tapas I ate at second date belongs to streets. Not place for him in my life

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Read this poster who commented after you: men get invested financially in women and dates they like. It’s the men’s world. Yes, if a guy wants me to split the check my conclusion is he doesn’t find me hot so no point continue seeing him.

This is also known as prostitution

You need to read up on prostitution, which is exchanging physical favors for money. Being treated to dinner by a date is, get ready, accepting a gesture of kindness and hospitality from a potential partner. There is no implication of an obligation and the kind of guy who thinks there is is the kind of guy who doesn’t get a second date.

There’s really very little to differentiate the two.

A non trashy escort in DC charges thousands per night. Go hire someone if you can afford it and don’t complain. Also stop dating if the rules of the game irritate you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who are these women that all think they’re top 1% for looks and income?? If you’re on DCUM, you’re not. I work with women who are legit top 1% in looks and wealth, and I promise they ain’t on here. You’re probably like me - the prettiest in your high school class, maybe did some modeling, now make 6 figures. Sorry, but we’re nowhere near the top.

Also pretty horrible to teach your daughters to think this way. My parents drilled it into me that because I was beautiful and came from a wealthy family, I needed to find an attractive, wealthy man. It screwed me up BAD and it took me until my mid-30s to learn what it actually important in a partner.

I said I was top 1% brains and top 10% looks. Never said I was top 1% looks. I am not.

Dh is top 1% income and we are in top 1% NW.

So you're a 9 out of 10 in looks?

You realize that's pretty much model status right? Is that you?

If she’s not lying about her husband job and income, it’s totally possible that a high server married a not trashy looking lady. Also, the top law schools girls crowd tends to be better looking than average. I went to my reunion and all female classmates still look very decent in their 40s. They work, dress nicely, workout, have resources for cosmetic surgery.

The bolded is absolutely not true.

"Not trashy looking" is not 9/10. "Very decent in their 40s" is not 9/10. Amal Clooney isn't even 9/10. There's a lawyer for you.

People truly lack perspective here or are deluding themselves.

Not everyone needs to be the honest, brightest, sexiest. It'll be ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Read this poster who commented after you: men get invested financially in women and dates they like. It’s the men’s world. Yes, if a guy wants me to split the check my conclusion is he doesn’t find me hot so no point continue seeing him.

This is also known as prostitution

You need to read up on prostitution, which is exchanging physical favors for money. Being treated to dinner by a date is, get ready, accepting a gesture of kindness and hospitality from a potential partner. There is no implication of an obligation and the kind of guy who thinks there is is the kind of guy who doesn’t get a second date.

There’s really very little to differentiate the two.

Except you'll get better value for money from a prostitute than a dinner date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Read this poster who commented after you: men get invested financially in women and dates they like. It’s the men’s world. Yes, if a guy wants me to split the check my conclusion is he doesn’t find me hot so no point continue seeing him.

This is also known as prostitution

You need to read up on prostitution, which is exchanging physical favors for money. Being treated to dinner by a date is, get ready, accepting a gesture of kindness and hospitality from a potential partner. There is no implication of an obligation and the kind of guy who thinks there is is the kind of guy who doesn’t get a second date.

There’s really very little to differentiate the two.

A non trashy escort in DC charges thousands per night. Go hire someone if you can afford it and don’t complain. Also stop dating if the rules of the game irritate you.

What "the rules" are, and should be, is the point of this thread. Not even all women agree that "the man should pay" is the rule.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, for the people making a “feminist” argument for why men shouldn’t pay, do you think women should spend money on dates? Waxing, makeup, those shouldn’t be one sided expenses for you bastions of egalitarianism right?

Because this is really just a lot of cheap men pretending feminism and, whine funny, it’s kind of sad.

Makeup and waxing stay with you when the date is over, and if you didn’t date, you’d be doing it anyway.

And the dude would be eating anyway.

He’d be eating his meal. Not his date’s meal.

Any guy who is cheap enough to feel bitter for $30 tapas I ate at second date belongs to streets. Not place for him in my life

You are owed nothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Read this poster who commented after you: men get invested financially in women and dates they like. It’s the men’s world. Yes, if a guy wants me to split the check my conclusion is he doesn’t find me hot so no point continue seeing him.

This is also known as prostitution

You need to read up on prostitution, which is exchanging physical favors for money. Being treated to dinner by a date is, get ready, accepting a gesture of kindness and hospitality from a potential partner. There is no implication of an obligation and the kind of guy who thinks there is is the kind of guy who doesn’t get a second date.

There’s really very little to differentiate the two.

A non trashy escort in DC charges thousands per night. Go hire someone if you can afford it and don’t complain. Also stop dating if the rules of the game irritate you.

I’m a married woman, no need for dates/hookers.