No one eats in this house

[Anonymous]

^^^^goodness but I’m laughing at your bread and pb lol

[Anonymous]

Haha. For the "crumbs and fingerprints in my kitchen" poster, I would eat messy chips all over her bedrooms. And in the tub. Maybe a nice flaky, buttery croissant while touch all the mirrors. But at least it's not the kitchen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I learned to take non-noisy food after my first visit to his parent's house. He even warned me that "my parents are kind of weird about food" but I was NOT prepared. What he should have said was "since both parents are huge marathoners and health nuts, they either eat air & water or tons of pasta with butter, depending on the day."

The first full day there, breakfast was black coffee (no cream or sugar in the house) and two very soft boiled eggs. I'm allergic to eggs and can only eat 100% hard boiled or else I break out in hives. I explained this to my future FIL who then proceeded to lecture me about how food allergies weren't real and the best cure to bombard my body with the offending food until it accepted it. Like, for real. Peanut allergy? Blasphemy! Eat this tub of peanut butter until you can't breathe and you'll be cured!

Lunch that day was a wedge salad, but not the yummy kind with bacon and blue cheese. No, it was a head of iceberg lettuce cut into 4 wedges and then sprinkled with oil & vinegar and salt & pepper. Dinner was a chicken breast each, 1c of steamed broccoli each, and a 1/2c brown rice each. Like, literally, portioned out. There were no seconds or leftovers.

I told my fiance that we needed to borrow his parent's car and run a fake errand because I had passed the hangry mark 2 hours prior. We hit up McDonald's and then I grabbed a bunch of snacks from the grocery store.

Unfortunately, I didn't factor in the "noise" associated with the food items I bought and was quickly found out. "I heard a crunching sound from your room. Do you have chips in there? We don't allow chips in our home or food in the bedrooms." I felt like a scolded child and my chips were confiscated. I cried. It was bad.

Now I buy my snacks before we arrive and take them out of their noisy wrappers and put them in ziploc bags. No more chips, though. Last time I was there, I had a loaf of bread and a jar of peanut butter in my suitcase and would eat illegal sandwiches in my room.

What complete a**holes. I have never typed that before on DCUM. Are you married yet? Did your fiancee stand up to his parents for treating you so poorly? I would never visit them again. I might not even invite them to our wedding. What truly selfish people, to not consider that you don't eat exactly like them and most importantly have a severe food allergy. Why did your fiancee not insist on a hotel?

[Anonymous]

It would take one visit and I would NEVER stay in a house like that again. NEVER.

I don't want someone pushing their eating disorder on me for multiple days in a row. It's great that eating disorder works for you, but it does not for me.

And be honest about why. "Your disordered relationship with food makes staying in your home incredibly uncomfortable"

[Anonymous]

In a lot of these cases...there are a lot of older women of a certain generation with unresolved issues--food issues (scarcity, fear of certain "bad" foods, food hoarding, not wasting spoiled food), eating disorders and starvation (keep in mind, these are women who often smoked or starved during pregnancy ), OCD issues.

All that is common in the younger generation, too, but I feel like they are more aware and try not to let it affect others or pass it on as much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It would take one visit and I would NEVER stay in a house like that again. NEVER.

I don't want someone pushing their eating disorder on me for multiple days in a row. It's great that eating disorder works for you, but it does not for me.

And be honest about why. "Your disordered relationship with food makes staying in your home incredibly uncomfortable"

I'm the poster who just posted about EDs in older women and food issues. Problem is most of them do not view it as an ED or mental issue--they think it is normal because they likely have friends who do the same and they weren't raised with awareness of EDs.

[Anonymous]

My personal favorite story is when I (breastfeeding) was served 4 shrimp and 1/4 cup of rice by my MIL as dinner ... although I do have to say that she's been much better lately. Some health challenges seem to have gotten her less focused on the "need" to stay thin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I learned to take non-noisy food after my first visit to his parent's house. He even warned me that "my parents are kind of weird about food" but I was NOT prepared. What he should have said was "since both parents are huge marathoners and health nuts, they either eat air & water or tons of pasta with butter, depending on the day."

The first full day there, breakfast was black coffee (no cream or sugar in the house) and two very soft boiled eggs. I'm allergic to eggs and can only eat 100% hard boiled or else I break out in hives. I explained this to my future FIL who then proceeded to lecture me about how food allergies weren't real and the best cure to bombard my body with the offending food until it accepted it. Like, for real. Peanut allergy? Blasphemy! Eat this tub of peanut butter until you can't breathe and you'll be cured!

Lunch that day was a wedge salad, but not the yummy kind with bacon and blue cheese. No, it was a head of iceberg lettuce cut into 4 wedges and then sprinkled with oil & vinegar and salt & pepper. Dinner was a chicken breast each, 1c of steamed broccoli each, and a 1/2c brown rice each. Like, literally, portioned out. There were no seconds or leftovers.

I told my fiance that we needed to borrow his parent's car and run a fake errand because I had passed the hangry mark 2 hours prior. We hit up McDonald's and then I grabbed a bunch of snacks from the grocery store.

Unfortunately, I didn't factor in the "noise" associated with the food items I bought and was quickly found out. "I heard a crunching sound from your room. Do you have chips in there? We don't allow chips in our home or food in the bedrooms." I felt like a scolded child and my chips were confiscated. I cried. It was bad.

Now I buy my snacks before we arrive and take them out of their noisy wrappers and put them in ziploc bags. No more chips, though. Last time I was there, I had a loaf of bread and a jar of peanut butter in my suitcase and would eat illegal sandwiches in my room.

What complete a**holes. I have never typed that before on DCUM. Are you married yet? Did your fiancee stand up to his parents for treating you so poorly? I would never visit them again. I might not even invite them to our wedding. What truly selfish people, to not consider that you don't eat exactly like them and most importantly have a severe food allergy. Why did your fiancee not insist on a hotel?

Yes, we're married. I've learned their being "weird about food" is basically a cover up for two people with disordered eating finding each other. I have no idea how he survived growing up with them, that's for sure. He said to him it was normal, so he didn't realize other kids got sugar cereal for breakfast or got to have cake other than on their birthday until he was a teen and by then he was able to sneak and buy his own food when out and away from them. I still think it's a sad way to grow up.

Unfortunately, they live way, waaaaaay out in the country where the nearest hotel is around 45 mins. away. Even the nearest town is 30 mins. away and it's so small that there's no hotel or B&B in it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I learned to take non-noisy food after my first visit to his parent's house. He even warned me that "my parents are kind of weird about food" but I was NOT prepared. What he should have said was "since both parents are huge marathoners and health nuts, they either eat air & water or tons of pasta with butter, depending on the day."

The first full day there, breakfast was black coffee (no cream or sugar in the house) and two very soft boiled eggs. I'm allergic to eggs and can only eat 100% hard boiled or else I break out in hives. I explained this to my future FIL who then proceeded to lecture me about how food allergies weren't real and the best cure to bombard my body with the offending food until it accepted it. Like, for real. Peanut allergy? Blasphemy! Eat this tub of peanut butter until you can't breathe and you'll be cured!

Lunch that day was a wedge salad, but not the yummy kind with bacon and blue cheese. No, it was a head of iceberg lettuce cut into 4 wedges and then sprinkled with oil & vinegar and salt & pepper. Dinner was a chicken breast each, 1c of steamed broccoli each, and a 1/2c brown rice each. Like, literally, portioned out. There were no seconds or leftovers.

I told my fiance that we needed to borrow his parent's car and run a fake errand because I had passed the hangry mark 2 hours prior. We hit up McDonald's and then I grabbed a bunch of snacks from the grocery store.

Unfortunately, I didn't factor in the "noise" associated with the food items I bought and was quickly found out. "I heard a crunching sound from your room. Do you have chips in there? We don't allow chips in our home or food in the bedrooms." I felt like a scolded child and my chips were confiscated. I cried. It was bad.

Now I buy my snacks before we arrive and take them out of their noisy wrappers and put them in ziploc bags. No more chips, though. Last time I was there, I had a loaf of bread and a jar of peanut butter in my suitcase and would eat illegal sandwiches in my room.

What complete a**holes. I have never typed that before on DCUM. Are you married yet? Did your fiancee stand up to his parents for treating you so poorly? I would never visit them again. I might not even invite them to our wedding. What truly selfish people, to not consider that you don't eat exactly like them and most importantly have a severe food allergy. Why did your fiancee not insist on a hotel?

Yes, we're married. I've learned their being "weird about food" is basically a cover up for two people with disordered eating finding each other. I have no idea how he survived growing up with them, that's for sure. He said to him it was normal, so he didn't realize other kids got sugar cereal for breakfast or got to have cake other than on their birthday until he was a teen and by then he was able to sneak and buy his own food when out and away from them. I still think it's a sad way to grow up.

Unfortunately, they live way, waaaaaay out in the country where the nearest hotel is around 45 mins. away. Even the nearest town is 30 mins. away and it's so small that there's no hotel or B&B in it.

They come visit you. You husband should explain why.

[Anonymous]

You people sneaking out for snacks or smuggling food into your in-laws' homes are nuts. Grow a pair and make your needs clear or stay in a hotel, their feelings be damned. There are no victims here, only volunteers.

[Anonymous]

I'm the first "water" poster, and reading these other posts makes me wonder how much of a role alcohol is playing.

If the kids and I are having a cup of gazpacho for lunch (46 calories, I just looked it up), and she's having a cup of gazpacho and 3 6 oz glasses of wine (479 calories total), it's not surprising that she's less hungry. The calories in those 24 oz of wine are more than the grilled cheese sandwich I would have served with the soup with at home.

[Anonymous]

OP here.

So today.

No breakfast offered or made and again you can't just help yourself. Ok fine, at least there was coffee. We go out to lunch at 1pm and DH said something just now about dinner and mil an chime in "oh no, we don't need any food after that lunch. We will all be fine".

So guess there isn't any dinner tonight. At least I have a heads up today

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

So today.

No breakfast offered or made and again you can't just help yourself. Ok fine, at least there was coffee. We go out to lunch at 1pm and DH said something just now about dinner and mil an chime in "oh no, we don't need any food after that lunch. We will all be fine".

So guess there isn't any dinner tonight. At least I have a heads up today

Go out and don't invite her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

So today.

No breakfast offered or made and again you can't just help yourself. Ok fine, at least there was coffee. We go out to lunch at 1pm and DH said something just now about dinner and mil an chime in "oh no, we don't need any food after that lunch. We will all be fine".

So guess there isn't any dinner tonight. At least I have a heads up today

Lol when do you abscond from this parsimonious hell

[Anonymous]

OP again. We always pick up the bill when we go out so it isn't a financial thing. We weird