I'm fat ask me anything

[Anonymous]

However, it was said that he would consider leaving if you let yourself go because it would mean that you were a "totally different person with different interests." If something were to happen making you unable to pursue an active lifestyle, you'd better believe that you'd have different interests, and depending on what happens, that can make you a different person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:just because something happens to you and you are no longer able to stay as active, it doesnt mean that you immediately become a fat ass so that supposed line of thought is absurd.

the majority of the time you are going to get fat because you choose to eat unhealthy. sure something can happen to you where medication will make you gain weight but if you really want to stay active and mobile, you will find a way.

I said nothing about getting fat. That PP said her husband would consider leaving her of her athletic lifestyle stopped.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:just because something happens to you and you are no longer able to stay as active, it doesnt mean that you immediately become a fat ass so that supposed line of thought is absurd.

the majority of the time you are going to get fat because you choose to eat unhealthy. sure something can happen to you where medication will make you gain weight but if you really want to stay active and mobile, you will find a way.

You are right, it usually takes about a year to see the pounds really pack on.

[Anonymous]

its akin to the fat people on here saying they have chubby chasing mates.

if you decide to lose weight and are no longer fat, do you think said chub chaser will be into you anymore?

you cant go gunning at the lady who said her husband would leave if she quit being active and fit when the same scenario can happen to you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is some sad shit. I don't see where OP said she liked being fat. She just likes herself. And that is great. You can love and respect yourself and acknowledge that you are flawed. How many of you people throwing stones don't have some problems (health or otherwise) you need to a get a hold of? She didn't ask for your judgment, she offered to answer your questions. The bullying on this thread is disgusting.

NP here. This. 100%.

And no, I'm not fat. Just not perfect either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is some sad shit. I don't see where OP said she liked being fat. She just likes herself. And that is great. You can love and respect yourself and acknowledge that you are flawed. How many of you people throwing stones don't have some problems (health or otherwise) you need to a get a hold of? She didn't ask for your judgment, she offered to answer your questions. The bullying on this thread is disgusting.

NP here. This. 100%.

And no, I'm not fat. Just not perfect either.

How does it feel to know your decisions today will calcify your arteries and give you a heart attack earlier than your in shape, not fat colleagues? I would be happy with myself too.

[Anonymous]

Life changes, people change as they get older they grow, things happen... I feel really sorry for the people who are in marriages that would break up over changes in their physical appearance. In either direction, with either spouse.

(from a thinning fat girl who's marriage has survived far more than weight loss/gain and is 100% confident that when I am done losing this weight, that I will still have a husband who loves me.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Morbid fascination with how people let themselves get that fat. My husband is fit, married me because he liked my athleticism and fit body. He also told me he would considering leaving me if I let myself go and gave up our athletic lifestyle. Sounds harsh to most, but I appreciate it and see where he is coming from bc it's not about the body size it would be that I was a totally different person with different interests.

Sorry, OP, don't mean to hijack, but I have to ask this poster...isn't this contrary to true love? I understand wanting your partner to be fit and healthy, but to make a comment that he'd leave you if you weren't? That just seems...aweful. Truly.

That just isn't love in my book.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Morbid fascination with how people let themselves get that fat. My husband is fit, married me because he liked my athleticism and fit body. He also told me he would considering leaving me if I let myself go and gave up our athletic lifestyle. Sounds harsh to most, but I appreciate it and see where he is coming from bc it's not about the body size it would be that I was a totally different person with different interests.

Sucks to be you.

I'm fit, I'm actually running the DC marathon this St Patty's day. I'm 5'9" and 135lbs. My DH met me at 125, which of course was too thin, but one can't control a fast metabolism.

HOWEVER, anyone is one illness or one injury away from fat...even me. I could tear my ACL or snap a hamstring on Saturday....I could get a cancer Dx next month. But guess what? I know my DH will still love me and still stick by my side, through THICK and THIN.

I'm 100% supportive of people of any shape or size, I feel sorry for you all who value people by the number on the scale. I hope none of you end up with fat kids (especially you, poster) as it seems that they will not be worthy of your love, maybe not even worthy of being a whole person. Pitiful.

Thank you, PP, for saying this. I am a cancer patient whose lifestyle and body did change as a result of my diagnosis. If it wasn't for my husband who did stick by my side through my surgeries and treatments, I don't know where I would have been. And you're right, it does suck to be the PP you were replying to.

[Anonymous]

an injury or illness doesnt amount to being fat.

an acl or hamstring tear wont automatically mean that poster is going to gain 50 pounds. sure they may get out of shape by not being active, but to say she will get fat is crazy.

if said poster decides to enjoy their time off during the injury to sit around and eat, sure she'll gain weight left and right. if however, she eats the same she was doing when she was active, she may gain weight but nobody will be looking at her saying shes a meal away from looking like oprah at her worse.

us active people equate not doing anything with getting fat. i get it but thats not how it works

[Anonymous]

theres a big difference from naturally gaining weight as we get older to just totally and completely letting it go.

not one person in here claiming that their spouse wont leave them is imagining getting to where they gain 75-100 pounds.

i doubt any of us would leave our spouses if they naturally gained weight with age. i dont care what marathon runner says, shes never going to go from her weight now to almost twice that if shes been active all or most her life. her lifestyle along with injury and illness would have to change to get to morbid

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:an injury or illness doesnt amount to being fat.

an acl or hamstring tear wont automatically mean that poster is going to gain 50 pounds. sure they may get out of shape by not being active, but to say she will get fat is crazy.

if said poster decides to enjoy their time off during the injury to sit around and eat, sure she'll gain weight left and right. if however, she eats the same she was doing when she was active, she may gain weight but nobody will be looking at her saying shes a meal away from looking like oprah at her worse.

us active people equate not doing anything with getting fat. i get it but thats not how it works

This is what the PP said, word for word:
[He] married me because he liked my athleticism and fit body. He also told me he would considering leaving me if I let myself go and gave up our athletic lifestyle

She didn't say he'd leave if she got morbidly obese. She said he married her FOR HER FIT BODY. She could gain 20 pounds and no longer have the athletic, fit body he married.
He wanted a trophy wife, and will leave her for a younger, thinner model within the next 10 years. Have fun with that life!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:9:39 get over yourself.

you must be fat and even if you arent who cares. there are fat people who go around wallowing in being big and who everyday go around bitching that they need to lose weight and do nothing about it. i simply asked OP if that was her and she said no and i was done.

you selectively skip everything else i said in that my comment was aimed at what i saw as others, not OP saying about being fat.

if you are fat, i can tell you are one of those who while putting up a front that they are "ok" with their size seeks every opportunity to get all up in arms at the slightest perceived attack on them.

Again with the childish insult - really, you're digging yourself into a deeper and deeper hole. I'm not fat. I run, lift weights and eat healthily. But I am not perfect and don't understand why other people being fat is just so darn offensive to you! Does it also bother you when people complain about their dry skin, but don't moisturize sufficiently?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:an injury or illness doesnt amount to being fat.

an acl or hamstring tear wont automatically mean that poster is going to gain 50 pounds. sure they may get out of shape by not being active, but to say she will get fat is crazy.

if said poster decides to enjoy their time off during the injury to sit around and eat, sure she'll gain weight left and right. if however, she eats the same she was doing when she was active, she may gain weight but nobody will be looking at her saying shes a meal away from looking like oprah at her worse.

us active people equate not doing anything with getting fat. i get it but thats not how it works

This is what the PP said, word for word:
[He] married me because he liked my athleticism and fit body. He also told me he would considering leaving me if I let myself go and gave up our athletic lifestyle

She didn't say he'd leave if she got morbidly obese. She said he married her FOR HER FIT BODY. She could gain 20 pounds and no longer have the athletic, fit body he married.
He wanted a trophy wife, and will leave her for a younger, thinner model within the next 10 years. Have fun with that life!

I cannot imagine leaving my husband, even if he did gain 100 pounds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:an injury or illness doesnt amount to being fat.

an acl or hamstring tear wont automatically mean that poster is going to gain 50 pounds. sure they may get out of shape by not being active, but to say she will get fat is crazy.

if said poster decides to enjoy their time off during the injury to sit around and eat, sure she'll gain weight left and right. if however, she eats the same she was doing when she was active, she may gain weight but nobody will be looking at her saying shes a meal away from looking like oprah at her worse.

us active people equate not doing anything with getting fat. i get it but thats not how it works

This is what the PP said, word for word:
[He] married me because he liked my athleticism and fit body. He also told me he would considering leaving me if I let myself go and gave up our athletic lifestyle

She didn't say he'd leave if she got morbidly obese. She said he married her FOR HER FIT BODY. She could gain 20 pounds and no longer have the athletic, fit body he married.
He wanted a trophy wife, and will leave her for a younger, thinner model within the next 10 years. Have fun with that life!

I cannot imagine leaving my husband, even if he did gain 100 pounds.

Actually, I can't imagine even suggesting to my husband that I would leave him for any reason. If he hinted that there were conditions under which he would leave me, I would be heartbroken - I think that if you are already contemplating the situations in which you would leave your marriage probably needs some work.