Enough is enough

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It is clear that the anti FA poster is upset because the FA students are outperforming their precious child despite not being born with a silver spoon or given every opportunity since birth. I can see how that might be infuriating to the parent of a nonachiever trying to set them up for the future.

However, schools have very detailed mission statements and codes of conduct that parents sign when enrolling. Parents aren't signing on to the school community blindly.

If this poster does not this, maybe I am wrong about the above they are just another troll looking in on the private school world with jealousy and a penchant for disruption.

No, this is just about full pay tuition dollars being wasted. Financial aid parents freeloading off the generosity of the school. There is plenty of diversity among full pay students that paying for it through financial aid is wasteful.

Why are you concerned about the level of diversity?

The main argument supporting financial aid programs is to increase diversity at a school. The counter argument is that there is already abundant diversity among full pay students. Why funnel so much money into financial aid when it is not needed?

What kind of diversity are you talking about?

We should welcome all diversity that doesn't require paying financial aid to have.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My kids attended public school but are now at private universities. I would never give a cent more than outrageously exorbitant tuition. I am well aware that my dollars go to the top administration's second home's pool budget, and not the living expenses of the hard-working teachers.

The USA, contrary to other countries, has decided that wants an arms race of who can poach which high-earning administrator to its school. This is where the waste is. For many private schools, money is also spent on completely unnecessary luxuries that have nothing to do with academics and their core mission to educate (instead of wildly entertaining and cushioning).

All good reasons why I didn't actually pay for private K-12. I am willing to pay for private unis if they're in the top 10 for my kids' majors, since those come with certain professional advantages. But no donations.

This surprises me. Our HOS receives a high but fair salary. They're basically on-call 24 hours/day and have to be available for everything all the time. They're consoling a kid in the hallway one minute, managing a staffing issue the next, and meeting with a high level donor the next hour all while fielding calls about some very complex legal issue that the school is facing. Ours definitely doesn't have a 2nd home, but rather a kind of meh rental (because they relocated from a less expensive area).

Is there something that publishes the HOS salaries in any given city?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is clear that the anti FA poster is upset because the FA students are outperforming their precious child despite not being born with a silver spoon or given every opportunity since birth. I can see how that might be infuriating to the parent of a nonachiever trying to set them up for the future.

However, schools have very detailed mission statements and codes of conduct that parents sign when enrolling. Parents aren't signing on to the school community blindly.

If this poster does not this, maybe I am wrong about the above they are just another troll looking in on the private school world with jealousy and a penchant for disruption.

No, this is just about full pay tuition dollars being wasted. Financial aid parents freeloading off the generosity of the school. There is plenty of diversity among full pay students that paying for it through financial aid is wasteful.

Why are you concerned about the level of diversity?

The main argument supporting financial aid programs is to increase diversity at a school. The counter argument is that there is already abundant diversity among full pay students. Why funnel so much money into financial aid when it is not needed?

What kind of diversity are you talking about?

We should welcome all diversity that doesn't require paying financial aid to have.

Are you able to specify the kinds of diversity you are talking about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is clear that the anti FA poster is upset because the FA students are outperforming their precious child despite not being born with a silver spoon or given every opportunity since birth. I can see how that might be infuriating to the parent of a nonachiever trying to set them up for the future.

However, schools have very detailed mission statements and codes of conduct that parents sign when enrolling. Parents aren't signing on to the school community blindly.

If this poster does not this, maybe I am wrong about the above they are just another troll looking in on the private school world with jealousy and a penchant for disruption.

No, this is just about full pay tuition dollars being wasted. Financial aid parents freeloading off the generosity of the school. There is plenty of diversity among full pay students that paying for it through financial aid is wasteful.

Why are you concerned about the level of diversity?

The main argument supporting financial aid programs is to increase diversity at a school. The counter argument is that there is already abundant diversity among full pay students. Why funnel so much money into financial aid when it is not needed?

NP. I see nothing wrong with FA if it's going to strengthen the cohort of students at the school. I'd rather have bright, well behaved kids whose families need help to afford tuition in my kids' classes than a bunch full of full-pay students who are struggling academically or acting out. I realize it's not an either/or situation but there are a lot of families dissatisfied with their public school options right now and private schools are smart to recruit the kids who will boost their stats and the reputation of the schools.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is clear that the anti FA poster is upset because the FA students are outperforming their precious child despite not being born with a silver spoon or given every opportunity since birth. I can see how that might be infuriating to the parent of a nonachiever trying to set them up for the future.

However, schools have very detailed mission statements and codes of conduct that parents sign when enrolling. Parents aren't signing on to the school community blindly.

If this poster does not this, maybe I am wrong about the above they are just another troll looking in on the private school world with jealousy and a penchant for disruption.

No, this is just about full pay tuition dollars being wasted. Financial aid parents freeloading off the generosity of the school. There is plenty of diversity among full pay students that paying for it through financial aid is wasteful.

Why are you concerned about the level of diversity?

The main argument supporting financial aid programs is to increase diversity at a school. The counter argument is that there is already abundant diversity among full pay students. Why funnel so much money into financial aid when it is not needed?

NP. I see nothing wrong with FA if it's going to strengthen the cohort of students at the school. I'd rather have bright, well behaved kids whose families need help to afford tuition in my kids' classes than a bunch full of full-pay students who are struggling academically or acting out. I realize it's not an either/or situation but there are a lot of families dissatisfied with their public school options right now and private schools are smart to recruit the kids who will boost their stats and the reputation of the schools.

It is almost never merit based, it is need based. The argument that it is strengthened the class is subjective.

The admission standards are no different for full pay and financial aid kids.

If it was merit based, that would be completely different.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Since my child joined a private school, I’ve noticed a consistent pattern: every year, tuition increases by several percentage points more than my salary. Over time, this gap has widened to the point where the financial pressure no longer feels justified.

Starting this year, I’ve made a simple decision. I’ll continue volunteering my time to support the school community, but I will only donate $1 to fundraising efforts. I’ll reconsider that position once tuition increases start to fall below the rate of my own wage growth.

I’m 100 percent confident this is the ethical choice. Private schools are already granted significant tax exemptions and operate with far more financial flexibility than most families. If they choose to increase costs faster than the income of the people paying them, they can’t expect those same families to contribute even more beyond tuition. Volunteering is a meaningful form of support, and for now, that will be the main way I give back.

I hate to tell you, but private school tuition increases ALWAYS happen every year. I think there might have been one year during COVID when they didn't, but otherwise they've always increased around 3% a year. It sounds as though private might not be a good choice for you, especially considering the cost to educate your child is in fact more than the tuition you pay. Ask any financial aid officer at your school. There's a gap that funds such as the annual fund help to cover.

It’s a good choice for my kid and I will donate $1 and volunteer. I would guess that’s also ok for the schools since donations are voluntary.

But that's hostile and you will be labeled a PITA and talked about. Why not pay zero? Why draw attention to yourself and your kid in this fashion?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kids attended public school but are now at private universities. I would never give a cent more than outrageously exorbitant tuition. I am well aware that my dollars go to the top administration's second home's pool budget, and not the living expenses of the hard-working teachers.

The USA, contrary to other countries, has decided that wants an arms race of who can poach which high-earning administrator to its school. This is where the waste is. For many private schools, money is also spent on completely unnecessary luxuries that have nothing to do with academics and their core mission to educate (instead of wildly entertaining and cushioning).

All good reasons why I didn't actually pay for private K-12. I am willing to pay for private unis if they're in the top 10 for my kids' majors, since those come with certain professional advantages. But no donations.

This surprises me. Our HOS receives a high but fair salary. They're basically on-call 24 hours/day and have to be available for everything all the time. They're consoling a kid in the hallway one minute, managing a staffing issue the next, and meeting with a high level donor the next hour all while fielding calls about some very complex legal issue that the school is facing. Ours definitely doesn't have a 2nd home, but rather a kind of meh rental (because they relocated from a less expensive area).

Is there something that publishes the HOS salaries in any given city?

Propublica

[Anonymous]

The only relevant diversity is the socioeconomic one. Why should an affluent African American family that lives in an area with good public school should get more financial aid than a poor white family that lives in school district with underperforming schools?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only relevant diversity is the socioeconomic one. Why should an affluent African American family that lives in an area with good public school should get more financial aid than a poor white family that lives in school district with underperforming schools?

Good luck with that. These schools are all crazy. Imagine a n-8 head making 450k lofl😂. I can’t wait to hear why they should? We left our n-8 school that has been mentioned here the head she is a fraud and laughing all the way to bank.