Don’t want to host nephew for the summer

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He’s a child. I would never say no to a niece or nephew

+1

+2 Americans have so little regard for family, it’s crazy.

Yeah, I honestly don't get it and I'm American! The people suggesting OP foot the bill for him to stay elsewhere on his own, what? He's SIXTEEN.

Anyway, I get that it's an annoyance but it seems like a trivial one to suck up for family. Anyway, I hope OP never needs anything from her family one day. Don't think anyone will come running.

[Anonymous]

The parents nor the kid asked the OP if he could stay in her home. This is ALL Grandma’s doing. I would say nothing. If the parents do call you, ask how long the “internship” is ? It could be 3 weeks for all you know. Grandma probably didn’t get any details.

[Anonymous]

So is your nephew staying for the Summer?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm really surprised how many people think OP should do this. This is a 16 year old kid. I'm assuming OP must have changed the details b/c I seriously can't imagine any law firm giving a 16 year old any kind of meaningful internship- at most they would be working as a legal secretary (and even that is probably a stretch.) A 16 year old can't be left alone for a week if the family wants to go on vacation. A 16 year old doesn't cook for themselves. A 16 year old needs transportation. I would feel differently if CPS had called and asked the family to take the 16 year old in so he didn't go to foster care. But the way this situation is presented OP is being asked to take in a child, who will significantly impact their family life, just b/c the kid wants to do something that is objectively of little value.

he's old enough, college is 2 yrs from now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He’s a child. I would never say no to a niece or nephew

+1

+2 Americans have so little regard for family, it’s crazy.

Or perhaps, you don't understand American families. culture, and values. So before you criticize, consider the possibility that it's YOU that needs to learn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He’s a child. I would never say no to a niece or nephew

+1

+2 Americans have so little regard for family, it’s crazy.

Or perhaps, you don't understand American families. culture, and values. So before you criticize, consider the possibility that it's YOU that needs to learn.

The world knows that Trump embodies American values and culture. He has the American family. 5 kids, 3 baby mamas. Pornstars and rapes.

OP is the worst kind of human being.

[Anonymous]

This is NOT an American thing. I’m American and I can’t relate to OP’s position at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, you are being selfish!

It sounds like the kid is just a mildly annoying teenager and not some danger to your kid or family. And, even though he may be full of himself, he sounds very responsible.

You have the spare room and it’s during the summer. It’s sounds like a potentially life changing opportunity for him.

In my family, my mother let her sister and sisters DC live with us for a year so she could finish her degree. And, my aunt and her DC definitely had a ton of annoying behaviors (although nothing dangerous).

You sound like you hate your family.

Completely disagree. Sounds to me like she loves her family so much she won't let someone ruin their summer.

[Anonymous]

To me you sound jealous that your nephew is a better student and more successful than your son, and you obviously don't know what bullying means. If someone mentions their A+ and is proud of it while your son got a B, it's not bullying. He was participating in a conversation about a particular class. Or what did you think? That everybody had to clap when your son was talking and your nephew should not be allowed a sentence in? You wanted him to sit quietly while your son was going on about a B, while the class was easy for him? YOU sound like a bully, who's envious of other's success. Teens talk about their grades in respective classes, it's normal and expected. That you even think a 16 yo should live by himself and rent a room... maybe try that out with your own son first?! What a mean and nasty aunt and human being you are.

[Anonymous]

OP don't do what is not right for your household. All this "family" stuff, ignore

[Anonymous]

OP didn’t mention if this is her sibling’s kid or her SIL or BIL’s kid.
I’m guessing OP doesn’t have a great relationship with kid’s parents either. Is one or both of the nephew’s parents also bright but annoying?

I’m Asian and can’t imagine saying no to 16 year old nephew. They’re family. 16 would be too young to be living on own in someone’s basement.
OP’s child who is 16 can start learning how to respond if nephew is bragging.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To me you sound jealous that your nephew is a better student and more successful than your son, and you obviously don't know what bullying means. If someone mentions their A+ and is proud of it while your son got a B, it's not bullying. He was participating in a conversation about a particular class. Or what did you think? That everybody had to clap when your son was talking and your nephew should not be allowed a sentence in? You wanted him to sit quietly while your son was going on about a B, while the class was easy for him? YOU sound like a bully, who's envious of other's success. Teens talk about their grades in respective classes, it's normal and expected. That you even think a 16 yo should live by himself and rent a room... maybe try that out with your own son first?! What a mean and nasty aunt and human being you are.

How old are you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP didn’t mention if this is her sibling’s kid or her SIL or BIL’s kid.
I’m guessing OP doesn’t have a great relationship with kid’s parents either. Is one or both of the nephew’s parents also bright but annoying?

I’m Asian and can’t imagine saying no to 16 year old nephew. They’re family. 16 would be too young to be living on own in someone’s basement.
OP’s child who is 16 can start learning how to respond if nephew is bragging.

I sympathize with the OP. Family can make you feel miserable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To me you sound jealous that your nephew is a better student and more successful than your son, and you obviously don't know what bullying means. If someone mentions their A+ and is proud of it while your son got a B, it's not bullying. He was participating in a conversation about a particular class. Or what did you think? That everybody had to clap when your son was talking and your nephew should not be allowed a sentence in? You wanted him to sit quietly while your son was going on about a B, while the class was easy for him? YOU sound like a bully, who's envious of other's success. Teens talk about their grades in respective classes, it's normal and expected. That you even think a 16 yo should live by himself and rent a room... maybe try that out with your own son first?! What a mean and nasty aunt and human being you are.

How old are you?

Like, why are you asking?

[Anonymous]

Just help the kid out one summer. It could be really fun.