Would you have a first baby at age 50 or 51? Assume a surrogate and $ but not a lot of

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My parents were 37 and 39 when I was born. They were too tired after work to teach me how to ride a bike, play catch, etc. You may think oh nanny can do that. Well, that's not a parent.

This is your parents’ problem. I'm in my forties with several friends who have young kids and still have energy for all of those things.

+1. This is not normal. There are 70 year olds running marathons. I’m in my mid 40s and feel amazing. I would have another but my husband is a hard no.

[Anonymous]

Nope! I know too many people who have had a surprise cancer diagnosis and died in their 50’s.

[Anonymous]

I'd love to chime and say "no, too many risks! not fair to the child! crazy!" but if it was my one and only shot, yes, I would do it, provided I had the resources to care for the child without putting financial burden on them in my old age, and drive to build a strong community for them. With a 43 yo parent, that's really not all that risky, and it's always a good idea to have a strong community .