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Anonymous
[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why are kids with this type of GPA applying test optional? Our private school in DC is still making it very clear that kids need to be prepping and taking the SAT/ACT 2 or 3 times. I feel like OP made a huge mistake going TO unless their kid is URM or first gen. [/quote]

Interesting. Our DC private is really stressing TO and not creating any pressure for kids to test. Their mantra is that “test optional means test optional.”[/quote]
That was true back in 2021. In 2024, maybe not so much - depends on the college.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:This is truly the best of DCUM. Posters have given you amazing advice that is actionable now and will change the trajectory for your child. Put it to use, get excited, turn on some music, and help your DD get it done!

I agree. this has been a lovely, useful thread and it is heartening to see everyone rooting for her, as am I. Please do let us know what she decides.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is truly the best of DCUM. Posters have given you amazing advice that is actionable now and will change the trajectory for your child. Put it to use, get excited, turn on some music, and help your DD get it done!

I agree. this has been a lovely, useful thread and it is heartening to see everyone rooting for her, as am I. Please do let us know what she decides.


OP here. I want to give her a voice in these decisions. She may not like any of the suggested options more than the one she has. She needs to own the process and not have me making her feel that her current choice is unacceptable. Just please, don't rush to make judgments on other people.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Why are kids with this type of GPA applying test optional? Our private school in DC is still making it very clear that kids need to be prepping and taking the SAT/ACT 2 or 3 times. I feel like OP made a huge mistake going TO unless their kid is URM or first gen.

It is great that your PRIVATE school coached the students this way.
I am not the OP - but I will share that our public gave the message that test optional schools really were test optional and if you did not rock the SAT - spend your time doing something else that is more impactful. It does not matter how many times as a parent we suggest differently - our message was overridden by peers and the school.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is truly the best of DCUM. Posters have given you amazing advice that is actionable now and will change the trajectory for your child. Put it to use, get excited, turn on some music, and help your DD get it done!

I agree. this has been a lovely, useful thread and it is heartening to see everyone rooting for her, as am I. Please do let us know what she decides.


OP here. I want to give her a voice in these decisions. She may not like any of the suggested options more than the one she has. She needs to own the process and not have me making her feel that her current choice is unacceptable. Just please, don't rush to make judgments on other people.


I here you, OP, but these deadlines are today. It may not be easy, but it may be fruitful to just get something done with some mom tough love. This is the kind of thing that may rattle her now, but that she will thank you for later when she has some options.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is truly the best of DCUM. Posters have given you amazing advice that is actionable now and will change the trajectory for your child. Put it to use, get excited, turn on some music, and help your DD get it done!

I agree. this has been a lovely, useful thread and it is heartening to see everyone rooting for her, as am I. Please do let us know what she decides.


OP here. I want to give her a voice in these decisions. She may not like any of the suggested options more than the one she has. She needs to own the process and not have me making her feel that her current choice is unacceptable. Just please, don't rush to make judgments on other people.


I here you, OP, but these deadlines are today. It may not be easy, but it may be fruitful to just get something done with some mom tough love. This is the kind of thing that may rattle her now, but that she will thank you for later when she has some options.


+1! Great advice on this thread. Good luck OP!
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is truly the best of DCUM. Posters have given you amazing advice that is actionable now and will change the trajectory for your child. Put it to use, get excited, turn on some music, and help your DD get it done!

I agree. this has been a lovely, useful thread and it is heartening to see everyone rooting for her, as am I. Please do let us know what she decides.


OP here. I want to give her a voice in these decisions. She may not like any of the suggested options more than the one she has. She needs to own the process and not have me making her feel that her current choice is unacceptable. Just please, don't rush to make judgments on other people.


this is a bit like saying, I know the test is this afternoon, but I'm not ready so don't rush me.

we're not rushing you. the calendar is.

also confused as to which of the choices IS acceptable: the college you cant' afford, community college, or gap year?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is truly the best of DCUM. Posters have given you amazing advice that is actionable now and will change the trajectory for your child. Put it to use, get excited, turn on some music, and help your DD get it done!

I agree. this has been a lovely, useful thread and it is heartening to see everyone rooting for her, as am I. Please do let us know what she decides.


OP here. I want to give her a voice in these decisions. She may not like any of the suggested options more than the one she has. She needs to own the process and not have me making her feel that her current choice is unacceptable. Just please, don't rush to make judgments on other people.


I here you, OP, but these deadlines are today. It may not be easy, but it may be fruitful to just get something done with some mom tough love. This is the kind of thing that may rattle her now, but that she will thank you for later when she has some options.


+1! Great advice on this thread. Good luck OP!


And she doesn't have to go to any one of them. Your aim is to increase her options. Applying doesn't mean you go. If finances have you worried about application fees, here's a list of schools without application fees you can cross-reference with the schools with late application deadlines.
https://www.niche.com/colleges/search/colleges-with-no-application-fee/
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is truly the best of DCUM. Posters have given you amazing advice that is actionable now and will change the trajectory for your child. Put it to use, get excited, turn on some music, and help your DD get it done!

I agree. this has been a lovely, useful thread and it is heartening to see everyone rooting for her, as am I. Please do let us know what she decides.


OP here. I want to give her a voice in these decisions. She may not like any of the suggested options more than the one she has. She needs to own the process and not have me making her feel that her current choice is unacceptable. Just please, don't rush to make judgments on other people.


Then you should step up and be the parent. Will you be the payer?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is truly the best of DCUM. Posters have given you amazing advice that is actionable now and will change the trajectory for your child. Put it to use, get excited, turn on some music, and help your DD get it done!

I agree. this has been a lovely, useful thread and it is heartening to see everyone rooting for her, as am I. Please do let us know what she decides.


OP here. I want to give her a voice in these decisions. She may not like any of the suggested options more than the one she has. She needs to own the process and not have me making her feel that her current choice is unacceptable. Just please, don't rush to make judgments on other people.


I thought she didn’t have options and that’s why you were posting here seeking advice. I’m really confused…
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is truly the best of DCUM. Posters have given you amazing advice that is actionable now and will change the trajectory for your child. Put it to use, get excited, turn on some music, and help your DD get it done!

I agree. this has been a lovely, useful thread and it is heartening to see everyone rooting for her, as am I. Please do let us know what she decides.


OP here. I want to give her a voice in these decisions. She may not like any of the suggested options more than the one she has. She needs to own the process and not have me making her feel that her current choice is unacceptable. Just please, don't rush to make judgments on other people.


I have been pulling for you and your daughter — in fact, I am the poster that said this is the best of DCUM. However, if you are not willing to just submit a few more applications before midnight, then you must be a troll. Zero decisions have to be made today but not taking any action will leave your daughter with very few options.

Just in case you are not a troll, Auburn RD also has a deadline of today and they have an excellent engineering school (and other majors as well but I think that is what you said your child is interested in studying).
Anonymous
OP here. I am not a troll
What I meant is that the 3 options I listed initially are not good for her. Thank you all for suggesting more school options for her and for the good vibes. I will post the results when these are available.
Anonymous
A very good thing about tech and engineering, if that’s what your dc is interested in, is that you don’t have to attend a “prestigious” school to have a very good career outcome
Anonymous
I'm seeing more rich kids do the CC year now, FWIW. Kids you used to not see but ones who didnt get in where they wanted or parents dont think they are focused enough to spend big money yet. Its interesting. I am sort of considering it for my kid who is all honors/AP but almost a full year younger than his grade level peers and as a result tends to hang out with the kids in the grade below (his actual age). It just feels young to me to send a 17 year old to college and if I am being honest, I am not anywhere ready for him to leave.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:OP here. I am not a troll
What I meant is that the 3 options I listed initially are not good for her. Thank you all for suggesting more school options for her and for the good vibes. I will post the results when these are available.


Just tell us what you were able to get submitted tonight. We're all invested now ! 🙂
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