Women 35+ who have never been in a relationship

[Anonymous]

I was not in a serious relationship ever really and I just got to a point at about 35 where I was done with bar scene and tried online dating (mid 2000s) to meet someone serious and I did - it took a while but found someone and married at 39. I know everyone thought I was a spinster and a good friend said I was “just squeezing a marriage in under the wire” whatever that means - before 40 i guess.

Whatever, it worked for me. We are now together 13 years and have two kids, are really dedicated partners and i feel very lucky and treasure every day we are together. That’s just me though to each her own.

[Anonymous]

I think people are conflating "never been in a relationship" with "never settled down in a long term relationship".

For the women responding saying that they are single because their standards are too high etc, how would you know whether a guy is worth getting super serious about unless you date them for a while? Like at least a few months?

If you've literally never been in a relationship with a guy, that's not about high standards. That's about either total fear of men, total disinterest in men, or vice versa their total disinterest in you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: I was not in a serious relationship ever really and I just got to a point at about 35 where I was done with bar scene and tried online dating (mid 2000s) to meet someone serious and I did - it took a while but found someone and married at 39. I know everyone thought I was a spinster and a good friend said I was “just squeezing a marriage in under the wire” whatever that means - before 40 i guess.

Whatever, it worked for me. We are now together 13 years and have two kids, are really dedicated partners and i feel very lucky and treasure every day we are together. That’s just me though to each her own.

How long were you with your husband until you got married? Are you saying you never had a serious relationship when you were in your teens or your twenties?

[Anonymous]

Weird. I think if I counted up all my time spent single--i.e., not in a serious monogamous relationship, since age 15, it would amount to about a year. I am 46.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Weird. I think if I counted up all my time spent single--i.e., not in a serious monogamous relationship, since age 15, it would amount to about a year. I am 46.

What were you, the town bike?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My guess is these people are not sexual. Terrible person to choose for a marriage partner.

Usually it's because our parents were conservative evangelicals and by the time they are going to "let" us date, we are way far behind everyone else. It's hard when you've barely ever had a date and you are 23.

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Anonymous wrote:"Very pretty" women are almost never single. They must not be pretty.

Untrue. There are many very pretty single women.

They must still be in their 20s.

A "very pretty" woman would be fending off suitors. There are always exceptions, but in 95% of the cases, a really pretty woman would be scooped up real quick.

In the dmv? Where you need a car to get anywhere? Where might these suitors be for a work from home person? At the chicfila? The costco where men keep their gaze to the ceiling and many are with kids? And no dog parks for me after a pit attacked my pup.

Good example of a woman who has social skills problems and might be single for a while.

Well from what I've noticed over the years and a lot of people believe it's true is that women with poor social skills, women can get away with having poor social skills a lot more than men can and still be able to date and have dating options because of how women have always been and likely forever will be on the receiving end of sexual attention.

Plus, the way a man talks or behaves in an interaction or in a conversation between a man and a woman is what seems to make or break attraction between the 2 Sexes and not the other way around.

[Anonymous]

Recently saw a comment on a video on tiktok from a woman who says her sister is 41 and she's never dated and never had a boyfriend which is another shocking reminder. Last thing you expect to happen to a woman

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:While not in this age group but I recently came in contact with a woman who says that she's 29 and she's never had a boyfriend and she's never had her first kiss yet either

I'm almost 47 and have never had a boyfriend and I've been kissed on the lips twice. Once was sexual harassment* and once was an unfortunate greeting by a senior citizen uncle. *When I reported the kiss to my boss the next day his response was "Why would he do that? I mean, why would he do that to YOU?" I was like wow I guess not only do men not like me but they can't even fathom ANYONE liking me.

STOP IT! If you want to find love, love will find you. Don't think like this another second.

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Anonymous wrote:While not in this age group but I recently came in contact with a woman who says that she's 29 and she's never had a boyfriend and she's never had her first kiss yet either

I'm almost 47 and have never had a boyfriend and I've been kissed on the lips twice. Once was sexual harassment* and once was an unfortunate greeting by a senior citizen uncle. *When I reported the kiss to my boss the next day his response was "Why would he do that? I mean, why would he do that to YOU?" I was like wow I guess not only do men not like me but they can't even fathom ANYONE liking me.

STOP IT! If you want to find love, love will find you. Don't think like this another second.

Um thank you, but I feel I must let you know that incident happened when I was like 22 or 23. A friend of mine has said "every pot has a lid" which is a nice thing to think. But I've literally had homeless people tell me that I'm ugly. You'd think they're in no place to judge, but ...?

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Anonymous wrote:While not in this age group but I recently came in contact with a woman who says that she's 29 and she's never had a boyfriend and she's never had her first kiss yet either

I'm almost 47 and have never had a boyfriend and I've been kissed on the lips twice. Once was sexual harassment* and once was an unfortunate greeting by a senior citizen uncle. *When I reported the kiss to my boss the next day his response was "Why would he do that? I mean, why would he do that to YOU?" I was like wow I guess not only do men not like me but they can't even fathom ANYONE liking me.

STOP IT! If you want to find love, love will find you. Don't think like this another second.

And I saw a comment on another tiktok video, of a black woman, who is quite cute, lovely smile, she claims she is 35 and never had a boyfriend, another shocking unexpected case for a woman due to how women are the privileged gender for being on the receiving end of sexual attention, having men come to them.

Men will never have that luxury of women coming to them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:While not in this age group but I recently came in contact with a woman who says that she's 29 and she's never had a boyfriend and she's never had her first kiss yet either

I'm almost 47 and have never had a boyfriend and I've been kissed on the lips twice. Once was sexual harassment* and once was an unfortunate greeting by a senior citizen uncle. *When I reported the kiss to my boss the next day his response was "Why would he do that? I mean, why would he do that to YOU?" I was like wow I guess not only do men not like me but they can't even fathom ANYONE liking me.

STOP IT! If you want to find love, love will find you. Don't think like this another second.

Um thank you, but I feel I must let you know that incident happened when I was like 22 or 23. A friend of mine has said "every pot has a lid" which is a nice thing to think. But I've literally had homeless people tell me that I'm ugly. You'd think they're in no place to judge, but ...?

I'm sorry. This is very cruel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think there comes a point when you have been single for so long, the thought of having to change your ways even one iota and compromise for a relationship is unappealing (at least from what one woman I know like this tells me). It's simply not worth it for them. Others I can tell are dealing with extreme insecurity and go on dates with really trash men, so obviously that doesn't lead to a successful relationship. Still others are way too picky, in the sense that they're asking for way more than what they themselves even have to offer - or just unrealistic expectations (i.e. ruling out men with children or divorced men, but they should be in their 40s...ok, then the men left will have something wrong with them most of the time..). Some of them had relationships in college/early 20s, but have been single since then. None of them want to discuss dating or relationships anymore.

This is the answer IMO. I've gotten into a place where the first problem I encounter while dating a guy makes me think, "I don't have to put up with this." So then I don't.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:While not in this age group but I recently came in contact with a woman who says that she's 29 and she's never had a boyfriend and she's never had her first kiss yet either

I'm almost 47 and have never had a boyfriend and I've been kissed on the lips twice. Once was sexual harassment* and once was an unfortunate greeting by a senior citizen uncle. *When I reported the kiss to my boss the next day his response was "Why would he do that? I mean, why would he do that to YOU?" I was like wow I guess not only do men not like me but they can't even fathom ANYONE liking me.

STOP IT! If you want to find love, love will find you. Don't think like this another second.

And I saw a comment on another tiktok video, of a black woman, who is quite cute, lovely smile, she claims she is 35 and never had a boyfriend, another shocking unexpected case for a woman due to how women are the privileged gender for being on the receiving end of sexual attention, having men come to them.

Men will never have that luxury of women coming to them.

What? That ghetto NFL player who was just signed to millions impregnated 5 hoes who came to him. Men will go after beautiful women out of loneliness and settle for the one who spreads them if they're very lonely.

[Anonymous]

They will settle for the fugly one who spreads them