I'm surprised that the venue was booked while OP seemed to assume the ceremony and reception would be there while the fiancé was "shocked" that the ceremony wasn't in a church. Why was the venue booked before this important detail was ironed out? |
My guess is that fiancé was fine with the plan initially (until the family expressed disapproval) and is more shocked that OP is not keen on making a change. |
If you've already booked the reception, just keep planning what youre planning. People will get over it. |
Then it sounds like OP changed the story. Why is he shocked he's not having a church wedding? I think the family is bearing too much of the blame here with the fiancé having a different vision in mind than OPs dream wedding. She wants him to fall in line and he won't. |
OP here. We decided that we will be getting married at the venue. The biggest issue for my fiancé was that it seemed weird to what married in the same place set up for a reception but it’s super large and we are going to be able to do both with ease. He does have a family friend pastor that has agreed to marry us at the ceremony. |
OP here. PP doesn’t know what she is talking about. I never changed any story. We just got engaged and we were looking at venues and have two picked but plan to go with one of them and keep the other as a backup. I mentioned the one we picked would be perfect for the ceremony and reception, and he said he assumed we would be getting married in a church. He told me how everyone he knows all have church weddings and that it would mean a lot of his family. He was never on board and then changed his mind. I’m not sure where PP got that from. We have not officially booked the venue yet but we plan to after looking at the other option. We are 98% sure we will be going with our first option. Both are overlooking the lake but we want our first option the most. |
You said: "We have[u] a very beautiful wedding venue that overlooks the river in our city and that would be an amazing place to exchange vows and have a reception. This seems more practical to me." That implies you booked it. Not that you were "thinking" about it. What exactly do you have? |
Did you…not have this conversation before jumping to the conclusion that you’d practically have to convert or lie about your whole faith ust to get married to him? For such a mild and easily solvable concern of his, your OP seems like an overreaction. Unless….there is more to it than he just thinks it’s “weird” to get married in a reception venue? |
It’s like op ran here mid conversation with fiance to post, then went back to finish the conversation and come to a simple conclusion. |
He's right though. It's tacky to get married at the reception venue. |
This |
No, the best solution is to end it. |
Considering many people also host their reception at the church, you think that is tacky too? You must have two separate venues? Silly. |
Many people do this? |
You still can’t read. |