I’m a millennial. Both my husband and I had parents who paid for our undergraduate educations. We are so grateful. It’s made such a difference in launching our lives and careers. It’s totally worth helping your kids thrive in adulthood. We plan to do the same for our daughter. It is our responsibility. |
If the doctor bought a $500K home, they more easily could have paid off their loans. Sorry, but tired of people in million dollar homes screaming poverty when it comes to college. We stayed in our crappy small cheap house so we could have the ability to save. |
+1 They are good stewards of our money as well as their own. |
That’s not the issue. Many people on this site are high w-2 earners but don’t have tons of wealth. They aren’t going to qualify for financial aid. So either they pony up or their kids have high interest loans. The system is so messed up. Education is a societal good. Why we have made it so expensive is beyond me. |
I'm am "exennial" You will work harder and sacrifice more to pay for your kids' education than your parents did, even with a higher paying career. |
Agreed. My BA Econ from Pitt in the 90's was 35% of the cost of my sibling's in-state Cornell CALS/Engineering degree. |
I enjoyed this anecdote! Makes the point vividly. |
The issue is they are living a higher lifestyle than they can afford when you include college and grad school savings. |
Is it my 9 year old car or my small townhouse far out that gives away I am living above my means? Tell me more! |
Part of the reason to pay all of kids' college is to not give the kids an excuse not to pursue a college degree. If your kids are highly motivated to graduate from college (no matter what), then I think it's probably a small risk to have them pay part of their costs. But in our case, our DD and DS (now in college) would be very reluctant to take loans. They would literally prefer not to attend college (even though DH and I both went to Top 25 universities and law schools). So we need to do everything we can to motivate them to get a college degree. That includes paying for it. My DH went to college mainly on a Pell Grant, with some loans for law school. My parents paid for college, and I paid for law school with loans. We both easily paid off the loans within a few years of graduation. We viewed the loans as investments in our future, and we were not reluctant to take the loans. Today's generation has been hearing all of the horror stories (on TikTok etc) about not being able to pay back student loans. But my understanding is that, by living frugally for several years after college, most people can pay them off. I wish that a university education were funded by the government (as they do in Europe), as I think that we need more educated people in the USA. However, until that changes, I think that it's ideal for parents to pay if possible (to avoid giving kids an excuse not to go to college). (But if the kids are highly motivated, then I think that the parents do not have to pay all.) |
This sounds like bad parenting You are supposed to encourage your kids to do what they like. You are forcing them to go to college when they aren’t interested. Don’t waste your money paying for a college degree that they don’t like and won’t use. You are supposed to use that money to help them succeed in the path the choose. |
I was happy to pay. It did not affect our ability to save or to vacation. That is privilege, I know.
My parents paid for me and it was less costly then. I never worried about my DD taking it seriously. I don’t think “skin in the game” matters. A kid who won’t take it seriously, should delay going until s/he will |
I am paying 100%. It is too important and too expensive to push off on teenagers. I do not want my kids to be saddled with debt. It makes you have to make big sacrifices. |
I’m surprised at all the kids who go to state schools over private because they don’t want to take on loans.
I went to college on financial aid and scholarships. I went to Harvard for grad school on loans. I was able to pay off my loans easily. We can pay for our kids college and grad school. Even if we couldn’t, I would have urged my kids to go to the best school possible. |
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