Being asked to get covid, flu and Dtap shot before meeting baby

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Anonymous wrote:I am a mom of older teens so its been a while. My sister is having a baby and her ob/gym said anyone around the baby within the first two months must have a flu shot, covid shot and Dtap.

I've had enough covid shots and had covid a few times. I was not planning to get me or my kids another shot.

Is this standard for newborns now?

Your sister is asking you to help protect her baby. Who cares if it’s standard! If you don’t want to comply wait to see the child until you sister feels it’s safe. It sounds like you are looking for a reason to fight with your sister and have “proof” she’s wrong. It’s her kid. Let her do what she feels is best.

FWIW - I didn’t ask people to vaccinate and my kids were fine, but my youngest is 12. I did ask them to be healthy and wash their hands.

OP here - one thing I don't understand is that just because you have the recent covid shot doesn't mean you won't get Covid. If Covid is really the concern shouldn't they make everyone who enters the house test for covid? Family members will be walking off planes minutes before seeing them.

Ok, OP—I’m calling you out for being cagey.

You say you’re not anti Covid vax, but you also say you’ve had “enough” Covid shots without saying when your last shot was. And you’re doing that deliberately. And now here you are saying everyone should just be tested before seeing the baby rather than be vaccinated.

So clearly, what is going on here is not that you hadn’t “planned” to get a Covid shot—you simply don’t WANT to get one. You’re AGAINST getting another shot. Right?

No. I am against having my teenagers get another shot when it is not recommended for their demographic

Then they need to wait. JFC. You are worried about your teen safety but not a newborns. Gotcha. You are their mom but dont degrudge the new mom for protecting hers. Just say the kids wont see baby until he/she is fully vaccinated. Its called risk and benefit analysis.

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Anonymous wrote:Demanding vaccines but taking the infant to the breweries and stores exposing them to germs. It’s performative.

Just don’t have visitors or visit the baby.

Why do you assume that OP’s sister is doing that?

OP here - They live in Manhattan. Not sure where they will be taking the baby but their primary mode of transport is subway and they have to do daycare after 4 months. I have done the other shots asked for, I just am on the fence about the covid shot. I'm not pushing for them to let me see the baby if I don't get it. I would just visit them later. I was only planning to drop by to bring a meal and gifts and stay for an hour. If they are out strolling around Rockefellar Center looking at Christmas lights and going to restaurants I will be a little irritated.

My dilemma was whether all this is worth it for a such a short visit.

It’s not worth it. I would stay home and say hi via FaceTime. That’s a lot of money and grief just to meet a baby.

So, strolling outside in stroller or baby carrier is the same as someone being inside with re-circulated air and holding the baby? Those are equal risk events to you? Is that correct?

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I wouldn’t. I got very sick from every Covid shot I got. And fairly sick from Flu. I’d pass and explain that missing days of work isn’t possible for me. Send me pictures of the baby. In a month when they are walking around the mall with the baby in stroller and eating out, you can visit and say hi then.

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I'll never understand the reasoning of people like OP, who are fine with playing with a newborn's life just because they don't want to be inconvenienced.

OP. I"m not playing with anyone's life. I asked if it was standard now

Also playing with words, I see. To answer your question, yes, it's the standard recommendation to be up to date on all routine vaccines, including flu, Covid, and Tdap (adult version of DtaP).

You should know this. I have a young adult and a high schooler, and I know this.

I know what is required for vaccinations for kids. I don't know of any middle-aged parents who have been asked to get a recent tetanus shot though. Do you?

You get tetanus every 10 years! I just got one at 51

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Anonymous wrote:Demanding vaccines but taking the infant to the breweries and stores exposing them to germs. It’s performative.

Just don’t have visitors or visit the baby.

Why do you assume that OP’s sister is doing that?

OP here - They live in Manhattan. Not sure where they will be taking the baby but their primary mode of transport is subway and they have to do daycare after 4 months. I have done the other shots asked for, I just am on the fence about the covid shot. I'm not pushing for them to let me see the baby if I don't get it. I would just visit them later. I was only planning to drop by to bring a meal and gifts and stay for an hour. If they are out strolling around Rockefellar Center looking at Christmas lights and going to restaurants I will be a little irritated.

My dilemma was whether all this is worth it for a such a short visit.

It’s not worth it. I would stay home and say hi via FaceTime. That’s a lot of money and grief just to meet a baby.

So, strolling outside in stroller or baby carrier is the same as someone being inside with re-circulated air and holding the baby? Those are equal risk events to you? Is that correct?

Yeah!! Totally!!! Just mask up and stay 6 feet apart.

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I feel like multiple things can be true at the same time

1) It is the only gift of COVID that it has such a relatively mild impact on small children

2) Parents can determine whatever vaccines they want visitors to have had before seeing their newborns. It is a joyful time but it is also a scary and terrifying time filled with decisions that seem extraordinarily consequential and very personal and so I just as a rule accept without argument any parameters a new parent wants to set out, regardless of my personal feelings on it, and if I don't want to meet those standards, I wait without complaint for a better time

3) It is ok for you OP to decide that you don't want to get the COVID vaccine and for your teens, especially teen boys to not get the COVID vaccine. I don't get it because my experiences with COVID have been mild but the shot has a significant and unpleasant effect on my cycle that lasts for months. I got the vaccine religiously in the midst of the crisis but stopped a year or two ago. And teen boys are at the highest risk for the known cardiovascular side effect, although they are also similarly at risk from those impacts if they get COVID so not an easy decision to make.

4) You can think all of the above and hate and disagree with everyone in charge right now and the entire 'health' movement that is putting an entire generation of children at risk of preventable diseases.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like multiple things can be true at the same time

1) It is the only gift of COVID that it has such a relatively mild impact on small children

2) Parents can determine whatever vaccines they want visitors to have had before seeing their newborns. It is a joyful time but it is also a scary and terrifying time filled with decisions that seem extraordinarily consequential and very personal and so I just as a rule accept without argument any parameters a new parent wants to set out, regardless of my personal feelings on it, and if I don't want to meet those standards, I wait without complaint for a better time

3) It is ok for you OP to decide that you don't want to get the COVID vaccine and for your teens, especially teen boys to not get the COVID vaccine. I don't get it because my experiences with COVID have been mild but the shot has a significant and unpleasant effect on my cycle that lasts for months. I got the vaccine religiously in the midst of the crisis but stopped a year or two ago. And teen boys are at the highest risk for the known cardiovascular side effect, although they are also similarly at risk from those impacts if they get COVID so not an easy decision to make.

4) You can think all of the above and hate and disagree with everyone in charge right now and the entire 'health' movement that is putting an entire generation of children at risk of preventable diseases.

Wow this comment aged so well…
https://www.washingtonpost.com/health/2025/10/30/covid-19-pregnancy-autism-risk/

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like multiple things can be true at the same time

1) It is the only gift of COVID that it has such a relatively mild impact on small children

2) Parents can determine whatever vaccines they want visitors to have had before seeing their newborns. It is a joyful time but it is also a scary and terrifying time filled with decisions that seem extraordinarily consequential and very personal and so I just as a rule accept without argument any parameters a new parent wants to set out, regardless of my personal feelings on it, and if I don't want to meet those standards, I wait without complaint for a better time

3) It is ok for you OP to decide that you don't want to get the COVID vaccine and for your teens, especially teen boys to not get the COVID vaccine. I don't get it because my experiences with COVID have been mild but the shot has a significant and unpleasant effect on my cycle that lasts for months. I got the vaccine religiously in the midst of the crisis but stopped a year or two ago. And teen boys are at the highest risk for the known cardiovascular side effect, although they are also similarly at risk from those impacts if they get COVID so not an easy decision to make.

4) You can think all of the above and hate and disagree with everyone in charge right now and the entire 'health' movement that is putting an entire generation of children at risk of preventable diseases.

Wow this comment aged so well…
https://www.washingtonpost.com/health/2025/10/30/covid-19-pregnancy-autism-risk/

I don't know why you think an article talking about how dangerous it is for a pregnant woman to get COVID is a gotcha to my comment, or relevant to this situation, which is about meeting a baby not a pregnant woman.

[Anonymous]

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I'll never understand the reasoning of people like OP, who are fine with playing with a newborn's life just because they don't want to be inconvenienced.

OP. I"m not playing with anyone's life. I asked if it was standard now

Also playing with words, I see. To answer your question, yes, it's the standard recommendation to be up to date on all routine vaccines, including flu, Covid, and Tdap (adult version of DtaP).

You should know this. I have a young adult and a high schooler, and I know this.

I know what is required for vaccinations for kids. I don't know of any middle-aged parents who have been asked to get a recent tetanus shot though. Do you?

The ignorance is breathtaking.

How do you think you get pertussis protection?

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe they don't want a newborn getting covid a few times.

has there every been a case of a newborn getting covid?

The entire internet is at your fingertips. Good God.

Synthesis and systematic review of reported neonatal SARS-CoV-2 infections
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/33060565

Coronavirus infection in neonates: a systematic review
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/32943533

Epidemiology of Neonatal COVID-19 in the United States
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/35996224

[Anonymous]

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I'll never understand the reasoning of people like OP, who are fine with playing with a newborn's life just because they don't want to be inconvenienced.

OP. I"m not playing with anyone's life. I asked if it was standard now

Also playing with words, I see. To answer your question, yes, it's the standard recommendation to be up to date on all routine vaccines, including flu, Covid, and Tdap (adult version of DtaP).

You should know this. I have a young adult and a high schooler, and I know this.

I know what is required for vaccinations for kids. I don't know of any middle-aged parents who have been asked to get a recent tetanus shot though. Do you?

The ignorance is breathtaking.

How do you think you get pertussis protection?

tetanus is not just a childhood vaccine. Everyone is supposed to get the vaccine every 10 years.

[Anonymous]

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I'll never understand the reasoning of people like OP, who are fine with playing with a newborn's life just because they don't want to be inconvenienced.

OP. I"m not playing with anyone's life. I asked if it was standard now

Also playing with words, I see. To answer your question, yes, it's the standard recommendation to be up to date on all routine vaccines, including flu, Covid, and Tdap (adult version of DtaP).

You should know this. I have a young adult and a high schooler, and I know this.

I know what is required for vaccinations for kids. I don't know of any middle-aged parents who have been asked to get a recent tetanus shot though. Do you?

The ignorance is breathtaking.

How do you think you get pertussis protection?

tetanus is not just a childhood vaccine. Everyone is supposed to get the vaccine every 10 years.

Everyone with little kids has dtap already. It’s standard to get it every single pregnancy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel like multiple things can be true at the same time

1) It is the only gift of COVID that it has such a relatively mild impact on small children

2) Parents can determine whatever vaccines they want visitors to have had before seeing their newborns. It is a joyful time but it is also a scary and terrifying time filled with decisions that seem extraordinarily consequential and very personal and so I just as a rule accept without argument any parameters a new parent wants to set out, regardless of my personal feelings on it, and if I don't want to meet those standards, I wait without complaint for a better time

3) It is ok for you OP to decide that you don't want to get the COVID vaccine and for your teens, especially teen boys to not get the COVID vaccine. I don't get it because my experiences with COVID have been mild but the shot has a significant and unpleasant effect on my cycle that lasts for months. I got the vaccine religiously in the midst of the crisis but stopped a year or two ago. And teen boys are at the highest risk for the known cardiovascular side effect, although they are also similarly at risk from those impacts if they get COVID so not an easy decision to make.

4) You can think all of the above and hate and disagree with everyone in charge right now and the entire 'health' movement that is putting an entire generation of children at risk of preventable diseases.

Wow this comment aged so well…
https://www.washingtonpost.com/health/2025/10/30/covid-19-pregnancy-autism-risk/

I don't know why you think an article talking about how dangerous it is for a pregnant woman to get COVID is a gotcha to my comment, or relevant to this situation, which is about meeting a baby not a pregnant woman.

Ok sorry I’ll help. You antivaxers? Who make up lies about how dangerous vaccines are? Are the people actually endangering babies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel like multiple things can be true at the same time

1) It is the only gift of COVID that it has such a relatively mild impact on small children

2) Parents can determine whatever vaccines they want visitors to have had before seeing their newborns. It is a joyful time but it is also a scary and terrifying time filled with decisions that seem extraordinarily consequential and very personal and so I just as a rule accept without argument any parameters a new parent wants to set out, regardless of my personal feelings on it, and if I don't want to meet those standards, I wait without complaint for a better time

3) It is ok for you OP to decide that you don't want to get the COVID vaccine and for your teens, especially teen boys to not get the COVID vaccine. I don't get it because my experiences with COVID have been mild but the shot has a significant and unpleasant effect on my cycle that lasts for months. I got the vaccine religiously in the midst of the crisis but stopped a year or two ago. And teen boys are at the highest risk for the known cardiovascular side effect, although they are also similarly at risk from those impacts if they get COVID so not an easy decision to make.

4) You can think all of the above and hate and disagree with everyone in charge right now and the entire 'health' movement that is putting an entire generation of children at risk of preventable diseases.

Wow this comment aged so well…
https://www.washingtonpost.com/health/2025/10/30/covid-19-pregnancy-autism-risk/

I don't know why you think an article talking about how dangerous it is for a pregnant woman to get COVID is a gotcha to my comment, or relevant to this situation, which is about meeting a baby not a pregnant woman.

Ok sorry I’ll help. You antivaxers? Who make up lies about how dangerous vaccines are? Are the people actually endangering babies.

I am PP. I'm not an antivaxxer. I am stridently pro vaccine. Nothing I said was anti vax. My entire point 4, in case it wasn't clear, is alluding to the fact that we will irreparably harm a generation of children with anti vax nonsense. Having a reasoned take on the covid vaccine specifically based on my personal experience and data is not being anti vax. I am not anti covid vax! It is a miracle that saved millions of lives!

Acknowledging the relatively mild impact that COVID has on children under five, something that is in fact something that we should all be incredibly grateful for, is not anti vax. It is just true.

But I also said I would have no problems or criticisms with a parent who had this requirement. Having even handed reasonable takes reacted to in the way you are is just helping to entrench these raw milk drinking lunatics.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel like multiple things can be true at the same time

1) It is the only gift of COVID that it has such a relatively mild impact on small children

2) Parents can determine whatever vaccines they want visitors to have had before seeing their newborns. It is a joyful time but it is also a scary and terrifying time filled with decisions that seem extraordinarily consequential and very personal and so I just as a rule accept without argument any parameters a new parent wants to set out, regardless of my personal feelings on it, and if I don't want to meet those standards, I wait without complaint for a better time

3) It is ok for you OP to decide that you don't want to get the COVID vaccine and for your teens, especially teen boys to not get the COVID vaccine. I don't get it because my experiences with COVID have been mild but the shot has a significant and unpleasant effect on my cycle that lasts for months. I got the vaccine religiously in the midst of the crisis but stopped a year or two ago. And teen boys are at the highest risk for the known cardiovascular side effect, although they are also similarly at risk from those impacts if they get COVID so not an easy decision to make.

4) You can think all of the above and hate and disagree with everyone in charge right now and the entire 'health' movement that is putting an entire generation of children at risk of preventable diseases.

Wow this comment aged so well…
https://www.washingtonpost.com/health/2025/10/30/covid-19-pregnancy-autism-risk/

I don't know why you think an article talking about how dangerous it is for a pregnant woman to get COVID is a gotcha to my comment, or relevant to this situation, which is about meeting a baby not a pregnant woman.

Ok sorry I’ll help. You antivaxers? Who make up lies about how dangerous vaccines are? Are the people actually endangering babies.

I am PP. I'm not an antivaxxer. I am stridently pro vaccine. Nothing I said was anti vax. My entire point 4, in case it wasn't clear, is alluding to the fact that we will irreparably harm a generation of children with anti vax nonsense. Having a reasoned take on the covid vaccine specifically based on my personal experience and data is not being anti vax. I am not anti covid vax! It is a miracle that saved millions of lives!

Acknowledging the relatively mild impact that COVID has on children under five, something that is in fact something that we should all be incredibly grateful for, is not anti vax. It is just true.

But I also said I would have no problems or criticisms with a parent who had this requirement. Having even handed reasonable takes reacted to in the way you are is just helping to entrench these raw milk drinking lunatics.

You don’t get the vaccine because it upsets your cycle. You don’t vaccinate your teen son because of complications which occur at the same rate from getting COVID. The pregnant woman who gets COVID from your decision not to be vaccinated or vaccinate your child now has a child with autism— why? Because of people like you. That is antivax in a nutshell no matter how much you tell yourself you're the reasonable one.