The impact of a senior backing out of college commitment

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Anonymous wrote:for other parents to prosecute

What in the world does this mean, practically speaking?

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Anonymous wrote:Backing out of an ED commitment to highly selective schools ends up hurting so many other kids. But bad families exist. Private schools can expel these families, but there's not much public schools can do. Trashy people are trashy people. Universities will make a note of the school and move on to the other 25,000 high schools out there. If you are wondering why no one from your school gets in to certain colleges, that's why.

Oh please. Get over yourself, and your "highly selective school" worship.

Schools are businesses, just like Target.

If my DC gets an ED acceptance and, for whatever reason, decides 4 months later that they want to go somewhere else, or just not go to the acceptance school, that is life. Yes, I'll lose a deposit. But it may be worth it to us, for whatever reason.

The school will not fall apart because my child or your's does not attend in the end.

You must be new to how college admissions work at top 20 schools. Reneging on an ED contract absolutely hurts other students and the high school. Which is why most good private high schools are absolutely livid when a family chooses this. No top 20 school takes more than a handful of students from a particular high school. That kid took a spot that could have gone to another student and it pisses everyone off when families do this. And high schools are absolutely blacklisted when there’s a pattern of students reneging on ED contracts.

The only exception is when a financial aid package does not match the NPC. Or there has been a change in financial circumstances. But typically T20 private schools will deal with that and make the numbers work.

So it’s almost always a d&ck move by families who do this.

No this is utter BS.

No college works this way with acceptances.

Privates don't lose a slot because a student reneged.

Slots are not done per HS that is absurd. Keep reading the koolaid MAGA.

You are undervaluing the relationship of the private school high school college counselors and the private college admissions staff. Having a kid back out of an ED contract can definitely negatively impact that relationship and it puts the private school high school college counselor in the hot seat to explain the change of heart after they probably told the admissions rep that the student would be thrilled to attend, etc.

Ah. I believe we have found the root of this poster's complete obsession with this topic (bolded.)

She has paid hundreds of thousands of dollars to keep her kids in private schools, all the while telling herself that it will be worth it because of the "relationship between private school high school college counselors and private college admissions staff."

So it really is all about her kids, and keeping alive her fantasy that sending them to XYZ Private School is a one way ticket to the big time, and how dare anyone else even think about doing something that, in her mind, may possibly have some impact on her own kids.

Well, PP, do I have news for you. But first I have some oceanfront property in Kansas that you would love.

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Anonymous wrote:I find it almost hilarious (almost) that anyone would think it's ok to renege on an ED acceptance for any reason other than finances. I had no idea there were so many clueless parents here, but DCUM proves me wrong every day.

I can tell you a story of a kid backing out on an ED that the private school not only said was OK, but celebrated.

Kid was an excellent student and was also a good - not great, but good -athlete in a certain sport. At the end of junior year, kid decided not to pursue playing the sport in college and focused on academics in college search. Went ED and got accepted to this very good school in December.

Spring sport time came along and kid had a break-out year. Kid had grown 2 inches, worked hard over the summer to fill out and had a stellar season, to the point that it got some D1 attention. Kid rethought plan and decided to pursue sport in college. Dropped the ED and went to another school to play the sport.

Everyone was happy for kid and family, except possibly posters like some here who are certain that their kid would have gotten into this kid's ED spot.

Ridiculous story made up to justify unethical behavior. No one believes this nonsense.

Sorry you don't believe it. And there is nothing unethical about this. Kid and family were completely upfront.

What I can't understand is why you are so personally vested in what other people do. There is some serious projecting going on here. Did you ED yourself, end up hating the school but were unable to transfer, and now want to see everyone rigidly locked in?

I'm still waiting to hear what "Kid and family were completely upfront." means. PP?

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Why’d the private school send transcripts and recs to an RD school if the kid was accepted ED? Why are they agreeing to release a final transcript to the new school if it’s against policy?

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Anonymous wrote:Why’d the private school send transcripts and recs to an RD school if the kid was accepted ED? Why are they agreeing to release a final transcript to the new school if it’s against policy?

Because the kid changed their mind. It happens.

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No impact.

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Anonymous wrote:Backing out of an ED commitment to highly selective schools ends up hurting so many other kids. But bad families exist. Private schools can expel these families, but there's not much public schools can do. Trashy people are trashy people. Universities will make a note of the school and move on to the other 25,000 high schools out there. If you are wondering why no one from your school gets in to certain colleges, that's why.

Oh please. Get over yourself, and your "highly selective school" worship.

Schools are businesses, just like Target.

If my DC gets an ED acceptance and, for whatever reason, decides 4 months later that they want to go somewhere else, or just not go to the acceptance school, that is life. Yes, I'll lose a deposit. But it may be worth it to us, for whatever reason.

The school will not fall apart because my child or your's does not attend in the end.

You must be new to how college admissions work at top 20 schools. Reneging on an ED contract absolutely hurts other students and the high school. Which is why most good private high schools are absolutely livid when a family chooses this. No top 20 school takes more than a handful of students from a particular high school. That kid took a spot that could have gone to another student and it pisses everyone off when families do this. And high schools are absolutely blacklisted when there’s a pattern of students reneging on ED contracts.

The only exception is when a financial aid package does not match the NPC. Or there has been a change in financial circumstances. But typically T20 private schools will deal with that and make the numbers work.

So it’s almost always a d&ck move by families who do this.

No this is utter BS.

No college works this way with acceptances.

Privates don't lose a slot because a student reneged.

Slots are not done per HS that is absurd. Keep reading the koolaid MAGA.

You are undervaluing the relationship of the private school high school college counselors and the private college admissions staff. Having a kid back out of an ED contract can definitely negatively impact that relationship and it puts the private school high school college counselor in the hot seat to explain the change of heart after they probably told the admissions rep that the student would be thrilled to attend, etc.

DP. Completely agree, but this doesn't just apply to private schools. Public school counselors are very, very clear that ED is a binding agreement and not to apply ED unless you commit to honoring it. The people denying this clearly have a screw (or two) loose and are probably just trolling the thread. Everyone knows you do not renege an ED acceptance unless the finances truly won't work.

"An Early Decision (ED) agreement is a binding contract between you and a college where you commit to attend that institution if they admit you. When you apply ED, you're letting the college know that they are your top choice and that you will withdraw applications to other schools should you be accepted. It's crucial to be completely sure about your choice because backing out of an ED agreement without a significant reason (like an insurmountable financial burden) can have consequences, such as schools communicating with each other, potentially affecting future admissions decisions. You can only apply to one college ED, and if accepted, the decision is binding, so choose wisely. For example, if you've visited the campus, done extensive research, and feel confident that the environment, programs, and community are a perfect match for you, then ED might be a good option."

https://www.collegevine.com/faq/7293/what-is-an-early-decision-agreement